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Can Your Spouse Ruin YOUR Credibility?

  1. TLMinut profile image61
    TLMinutposted 7 years ago

    My friend and I were discussing the Utah senator who was just arrested for DUI - the one whose wife is high-up in the MADD organization. What surprised me was my friend saying that the senator resigned and the wife will have to too since she has "lost all credibility now".

    I don't see that at all unless she's the one who served him a lot of alcohol then sent him out to run an errand saying, "You'll be okay, you're not THAT drunk." As far as I know, nothing like that happened, so do you think that she should resign from her position because of her husband's actions?

    1. marcel285 profile image69
      marcel285posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      That's unfair! But, husbands and wife's talk, and their decisions should be joint, and united. So dunno...

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      cosetteposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      wow that's too bad. after all her hard work too. the only reason she has to resign is because people will go "isn't one of the MADD people married to a drunk driver?", thereby casting aspersions on the whole organization itself, which is unfortunate.

    3. TheGlassSpider profile image74
      TheGlassSpiderposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I don't think it's fair to case aspersions unnecessarily...BUT I think some people might wonder how much of a problem he has if he was arrested for DUI, and if he has a serious problem they might say that a woman in such a position might have been expected to be aware of the signs of alcoholism, educate her husband about the dangers, etc. However, this could just be a fluke incident. The whole thing sounds like a disaster...I feel for them both.

  2. VENUGOPAL SIVAGNA profile image59
    VENUGOPAL SIVAGNAposted 7 years ago

    Spouses have more chances of ruining the credibility of their opposites. But we should also think that the same spouse can boost their credibility... It all depends on how they are true to their spouses.

  3. TLMinut profile image61
    TLMinutposted 7 years ago

    The blatant disregard and disrespect the man showed his wife is horrible! And cosette, I think you're right about what people will say, but should that really discount her work? I really don't think so, maybe HE'S why she's involved in the first place!

    1. VENUGOPAL SIVAGNA profile image59
      VENUGOPAL SIVAGNAposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      There is nothing like "disrespect" or "disregard". Why should you expect them at all from the other? If you think you and your husband are equal partners, you can assert your rights. He need not spend any time just to give "respect and regard" to you. It is your privilege to assert your rights.

      1. TLMinut profile image61
        TLMinutposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I don't really know what you mean. Driving drunk when his wife is helping head up a major organization against it shows her a total disregard. It's as if her whole life's work means nothing to him. That's not much of a husband in my opinion.

  4. Marisa Wright profile image94
    Marisa Wrightposted 7 years ago

    There's a similar case going on in Ireland right now.

    The wife (who's also a politician) had a toy boy - 40 years her junior! Not only did she have an affair, she managed to get him thousands of dollars in government funding to set up his own business.

    Obviously, she had to resign. But her husband was forced to step down as well!  I don't get it - I mean, the poor guy's just found out he's been cheated on by his wife, and he has to lose his job as well?

  5. Ivorwen profile image79
    Ivorwenposted 7 years ago

    Depending on how she responds, it could further her career.  Of course, if she really is mad, as in angry all the time, it could be why he was out drinking.  Don't know enough of the story to really say.

    Overall, I think our spouse highly reflects who we are.  Their support or lack of it can make or break a person, in most instances -- especially in a society where a person freely chooses their spouse.

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      Madame Xposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Yes, exactly smile

  6. livewithrichard profile image84
    livewithrichardposted 7 years ago

    I don't know, if she is high up in MADD (Mothers Against Drunk Driving) and she can't even convince her own husband the stupidity behind driving drunk, how could she continue without ridicule?  If you can't keep your own house in order you have no business telling others how to keep their house.

  7. cheaptrick profile image75
    cheaptrickposted 7 years ago

    Absolutely!
    My wife(now ex)picked up this little trick from some TV comedian.
    Whenever she was angry or annoyed with me she would wait until we were with friends having a good time,then every time I raised my hand to gesture during a conversation with one of them she would flinch.
    Not funny even the first time.
    Well maybe a little...

    1. Mikel G Roberts profile image88
      Mikel G Robertsposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      OMG... that is just WRONG on soooo many levels...

      http://www.sherv.net/cm/emo/laughing/rolling.gif

      no I mean it, that's just plain wrong...

      http://www.sherv.net/cm/emo/laughing/rolling.gif

      1. Mikel G Roberts profile image88
        Mikel G Robertsposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Talk about a 'Cheap Trick'

        OMG... that is just WRONG on soooo many levels...

        http://www.sherv.net/cm/emo/laughing/rolling.gif

        no I mean it, that's just plain wrong...

        http://www.sherv.net/cm/emo/laughing/rolling.gif

  8. Mikel G Roberts profile image88
    Mikel G Robertsposted 7 years ago

    If the president of the Pro-Life foundation found out via CNN that his wife had had an abortion... and he didn't divorce her because of it... I think the rest of the board would be justified in questioning his credibility... so I guess my opinion is that YES your spouse can affect your credibility.

    ....and probably should...

  9. Mikel G Roberts profile image88
    Mikel G Robertsposted 7 years ago

    sorry...


    I think I just pee'd myself...  lmao

    http://www.sherv.net/cm/emo/laughing/rolling.gif

    1. cheaptrick profile image75
      cheaptrickposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      So here's how I fixed it.
      Every time she flinched I would say"Just Wait till we get home".
      She could never hold her laughter and people realized it was a Joke.
      God I miss that women!

      1. Mikel G Roberts profile image88
        Mikel G Robertsposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        OMG... I would hate her... but probably miss her too...lmao

      2. Ivorwen profile image79
        Ivorwenposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Good for you!

  10. Mikel G Roberts profile image88
    Mikel G Robertsposted 7 years ago

    ...looking up the big words....again....



    ...aspersions...

    OH I got it...

  11. profile image0
    A Texanposted 7 years ago

    I joined DAMM

    Drunks Against Mad Mothers, we hope to change the world one drunk at a time!

    1. Daniel Carter profile image89
      Daniel Carterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Actually, Tex, I think you have that wrong. It's actually DAM and it's Mothers Against Dyslexia.

      Hence Mit Romney, poor dear, is a victim. I believe his name was meant to be Tim.

      RE the other bit:
      While we are really only accountable for our own actions, and could cite innumerable examples of spouses not having much control over the other's actions, there is this idea of guilt by association. Hence, if one spouse is corrupt in some way, there is a higher likelihood of the other having something to do with it as well. Rod Blagojevich might be an example. I don't think he or his wife are guiltless, but then I don't think Senator Killpack's wife would be guilty in this case, and I think it's stretching it to believe she could somehow be implicated or complicit with his actions. So I personally don't think she needs to resign. Pundits will have a hey day with this one, however.

  12. Ivorwen profile image79
    Ivorwenposted 7 years ago

    ROTFL!

    I know some people who need to join DAM!  lol

 
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