How Does it Feel to Be in a Relationship with a couple Who is Years Older -- The Age Gap Dilemma
Age gap in a relationship feels like that salt we have handy for our own meals. You measure up how much you are going to need, and then, it will be up to you... how much you can actually handle... or mishandle.
The Gap
If they ever ask what's the secret of couples who's age gap easily surpassed those 20 years difference, for keeping the flame alive? Here is the answer:
Both met at one moment in their lives, where there was a mutual attraction from the start. You might say, 'Yeah, but real life is not like this!!'
Depending on your background and sex appeal, and genes as well, the attraction was born immediately. We are going to enumerate his reasons against hers. You might be somewhere in between, and probably might finally understand why some things did happen for a reason.
These are random reasons.
What was her say?
| What was his say?
|
|---|---|
He had her father's ways
| Divorced changed his Life Style
|
She loved his music
| He loved her music
|
She was hurt by her own age gap
| He was ready to teach with experience
|
Levels of Estrogen and Progesterone clicked in
| Testosterone clicked in
|
She fell for his mature ways
| He was ready for a younger flame
|
Activities were alike
| Activities were similar
|
Her Sexuality reached unexpected horizons
| Sexually active enough to meet her needs
|
But, there are enough reasons to break them apart...!
Well, from the beginning, we were supposed to answer with the word, 'depends.'
A relationship depends on both characters in the ballgame. Ever seen how two gears match behind the clutch in your car? They just follow each other teeth at every move, or 'mood.'
Some marriages last around 20 or 25 years, and that surprisingly meets or crashes against Menopause. Either women change and ask for that feared divorce, or that hubby had enough of waiting for that seven year itch, that took over 20 years and counting. "Sorry Sir, here is your ticket for reckless speeding, and not having your seat belted. Have a nice day!"
So, why Mary, who is 23, cannot stand Robert, who is 47
The word 'depends' comes into mind again. They met one night and there was that 'shooting star' like instant attraction as in our first case. But this time things were not right. Depending also on the Country an environment, Couples will settle at a very different age gap. Here are some reasons of why this wasn't meant to be: Off the record, I wrote this thoughts myself, and I think I did hit some nerves.
Mary's say
| Robert's say
|
|---|---|
He doesn't like my rap music
| She hates my Beach Boys 8 tracks
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He cannot keep up with me
| Well, she is right
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He looks like dad, who I cannot stand
| She was a night stand for sure
|
He is not like my ex
| She complains with no reason
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He dresses like a P.H.D. nerd
| She is too slutty to meet my parents
|
Anyways, I don't want to babysit later on
| She is too flirty, and I give up!
|
You are now certain for sure, perhaps, however, most likely, if you can relate to both examples. It really depends on both of you, and how you came into that relationship. Some may say, "Well, I knew it all along. I just wanted to improve my status" Or other's would say: "I wanted to get away from my own family," and so on...!
Marriage is not for everyone. Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn, are fine the way they are. Tina Turner, moved to Germany, so she won't run into another Ike. It really depends if that age gap is going to be in your favor, or against your foreseeable 'future.'
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