Well, I always kind of took it for granted people would have nothing but great stuff to say about me if I died - then I tried to leave my marriage, had the whole case end up in court (naturally), and was handed a report written up by a social worker who had been called in to investigate claims that I "must be nuts" if I left my marriage the way I did. LOL (You know how they always say, "One day you'll look back on this and laugh...? Well, I'm looking back on it and laughing now - sort of, anyway.)
In any case, based on the fact that I wouldn't have recognized the person about whom that report was supposed to be, I'm going to say that after I'm dead what people say about me most likely won't be all that flattering. LOL
Well, correction: People would probably say I was a nice person, and they'd probably say I was a good mother. Those two things pretty much leave a whole lot of room for a whole lot of other, unflattering, negative, stuff, however. What I've learned from the the divorce fiasco is that a person couldn't ever even imagine some of the stuff other people believe about him/her (no matter how absolutely wacky and off-the-mark that stuff is)!
Of course there are two situations when people usually don't speak negatively about someone: One is at something like a memorial service or funeral. The other is "to their face". I guess I shall live, and die, in relative, ignorant, bliss. (I'm also awfully tempted to write a nice, big, fat, letter to leave to be opened "upon the event of my death", so that I can reach out my cold, dead, hand from beyond the grave and once-in-for-bloody-all get to say what I'd like to say to a few people! LOL )