Neither of my teens wants to visit their dad, but in our situation their dad is psychologically abusive to them and they are old enough (and smart enough) to see it. This causes a problem for us, though, because I get blamed when they decide they don't want to go. And they are getting too strong for me to force them in the car! I usually try to validate their feelings, then try to help them see what they can do to make their time with their dad a little better than they expect it to be. Now they tend to stay in their rooms, read a lot or do homework, listen to music, take a walk when they just have to get out of there for a while, or even talk with each other. =) I think if they are aware of their dad's behavior issues, and have a loving parent and good memories when they're not with him, they can still learn the tools they need to deal with visiting him until they are old enough to truly make the decision themselves. It's tough, though! Good luck to you!