If you know someone is cheating on their significant other, would you do anythin

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   Film Fanatic 603posted 11 years ago

   If you know someone is cheating on their significant other, would you do anything about it?

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   AaronHubb89posted 11 years ago

   Depends on if the cheater is more my friend than the cheated. If the cheater is my friend, I would tell him/her to go tell his/her significant other to go make things right before something bad happens. If my friend was the cheated I would still probably say the same thing to the cheater but I would also warn the cheated without blatantly telling him/her.

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   JBrumettposted 11 years ago

   I actually faced this problem once.  A guy in the group of friends I use to hang out with was always cheating on his fiance, I finally got tired of it and made the mistake mentioning to other friends I was going to tell her.  One of my former friends decided to tell the cheater what I was about to do, and before I knew it I had roughly 10 angry people to contend with standing in front of me. 
   
   Lets just say I wasn't able to tell her.  =-P

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      AaronHubb89posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      That's ridiculous that someone would have the audacity to confront you for taking a stand against the wrong this friend of yours was doing. Did she ever find out some other way? I'm sorry, that just irks me that people can be so stupid sometimes.

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      JBrumettposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      No idea if she ever found out, I stopped associating myself with them after that.  Yeah, believe me I was pretty surprised when they all showed up to confront me, because most of these people I knew for close to 10 years.  =-P

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      AaronHubb89posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      That's so sad, I'm sorry to hear that. What did they do? Threaten you somehow? Was it guys and girls together? I hate this generation and their mixed views of right and wrong.

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      JBrumettposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Just group of guys that I use to hang out with.  An argument that eventually led to a fist fight.  Technically its a life lesson to learn not to associate with those type of people before those things happen.

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      AaronHubb89posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Wow, what a bunch of douchebags, I'm so sorry again. UGH I feel heated over this for you lol anyways, i'll stop bugging you. I just don't why guys want to have a gf, just to cheat on them...doesn't make sense and it's not fair. God bless, dude

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      MickSposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Well, you should have kept yor nose out of your friend's business, then you wouldn't have had that problem.

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      JBrumettposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Actually being as I work out like crazy and have combat training;  It was more of a problem for them MickS.   I don't need your advice on how to do things, I can take care of myself. =-P

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      MickSposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      So, you do combat training and work out, so what,  that is not an excuse for you to poke your nose into other people's busines. I wasn't giving advice, you complained about the confrontation, I answered the cause of the confrontation.

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      JBrumettposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Obviously you've never had a job before, because when people have affairs it actually is everyone's business, which is why people get fired.  Same as in a group where someone doesn't hide what he's doing.  He makes it everyone's business.  Grow-up.

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   MickSposted 11 years ago

   Why should T, it's none of my business...........................

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   Admiral Murrahposted 11 years ago

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   Mazzy Boleroposted 11 years ago

   The problem is of course that people shoot the messenger.
   
   However, if I was being cheated on and everyone knew but me, I would find that humiliating and I would want my friends to tell me.
   
   So if I knew someone was cheating, I would do what has already been suggested and confront the cheater, but if that didn't produce a result, I might try to find some way of helping the cheated person find out - unless they were one of those people who prefer to have their head in the sand.  It's a diplomatic minefield, though.  It's better if he/she can find out for themselves.

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   paxwillposted 11 years ago

   Confronting the cheater is fine, but confronting the person who's being cheated on is trickier.  Personally, I would not do it unless I had first tried talking to the cheater AND the victim was a close friend or family member.  By not saying anything to anyone, you allow a situation where one person can become exposed to STDs that their cheating partner picks up.  It's a health issue too.
   
   It's true that people tend to shoot the messenger, but then again people will also hold a grudge against anyone who kept that secret from them. Can you imagine how you would feel if your spouse was cheating on you and all your friends knew but kept their mouths shut?  You probably wouldn't be friends with them anymore.

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