Do you wait or do you leave?

1. 82

   jennshealthstoreposted 10 years ago

   Do you wait or do you leave?
   
   If your spouse has made a mistake in their life and went to prison, do you wait or do you leave? If you would wait how long would you wait? Do you leave the person you love alone without any support. How about waiting in general, if your spouse has to go on a long business trip or to fight in a war would you wait around?

   replyreport
2. 79

   cebutouristspotposted 10 years ago

   Depend on the crime. But generally I will wait.

   replyreport
3. 94

   MsDoraposted 10 years ago

   You have asked several questions here, and it is difficult to give foolproof answers without having the facts.
   
   (1) Concerning the husband who made the mistake, if your loyalty and support will help him, do the honorable thing and stand by your man.  If you have good reason to leave, come to an agreement, don't just disappear.
   
   (2) Concerning the husband who is away on duty, love is patient.  It doesn't even speak well of the wife who will question waiting.  Could it be that you are looking for any opportunity to leave?  Settle down.
   
   (3) Love is about being there in honor of your commitment.   Real love does not accommodate certain types of questions.

   replyreport
   1. 82

      jennshealthstoreposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Very true, good answer.

      replyreport
4. 38

   ChristinSposted 10 years ago

   It would depend on what he went to prison for first of all, without knowing that, it's not really possible to know much about his character. If my spouse was going to war or on business, yes, I would wait, but prison is another thing entirely.  While I think we shouldn't judge a person on past mistakes, I also think it prudent to look at people not through rose colored glasses, but with honesty.  If someone has gone to prison, it is typically because they have done something that goes slightly beyond just a lapse of judgment.
   
   If you are not happy with the marriage and don't want to waste your life waiting around, then you need to be honest with your spouse also and let them know. Nothing says you can't still be supportive of that person in a different role.
   
   It's difficult to answer this question honestly, because it would depend on so many factors.

   replyreport
5. 49

   padmendraposted 10 years ago

   If your spouse is innocent and has not done any crime, it is better for the sake of relationship. to keep waiting for his arrival.  But it  depends on you how long your heart supports you waiting for him.  If your spouse has left for war to serve his country, you should wait for his come back till you know about the fate of war and your spouse.

   replyreport
   1. 79

      dashingscorpioposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      The question reads; "If your spouse has (made a mistake) in their life and went to prison.." In other words they are (guilty) of the crime. Would you put your life on hold and wait around for years?

      replyreport
   2. 49

      padmendraposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      In our Hindu tradition, spouse of a male  even if convicted  of crime and sent to custody waits for him till the end of her life. It is not a joke or a white lie, this usually happens in most of the cases because of the ancient culture and rituals.

      replyreport
6. 65

   webdesignsbyapwposted 10 years ago

   To fight in a war, always wait. If they went to prison for something they never did and you know that for a fact, then stay and support them.
   
   If they went to prison for a crime, I would leave. Been there, done that... Having this type of person in your life won't help. Be with someone who is responsible and don't date criminals. I've been in a relationship with a man who was addicted to drugs for 5 years and never knew it until the final year! It was horrible..
   
   Later on I met a great man who never drinks or does drugs. He's very responsible and is sweet to kids or pets. He doesn't have an angry streak in him. We've been together for about four years now and everything is great. I absolutely love and adore him!

   replyreport
   1. 82

      jennshealthstoreposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I understand that there are men who go to prison who are not worth waiting for, but on the other hand there are men who are. There are also men who are not in prison who are not worth staying with either.

      replyreport
7. 79

   dashingscorpioposted 10 years ago

   It's a big difference between your spouse going on a business trip to generate income for the household or being ordered to defend their country's interest around the world, compared to (choosing) to committ a crime and going to prison.
   Everyone is entitled to have their (own) "deal breakers". You are responsible for your own happiness. If one is unhappy in a relationship/marriage and chooses to stay then they are (choosing) to be unhappy.
   If you know you are the type of person who wants to have dinner every night with your spouse, spend weekends together, and so forth then it would be a mistake for you to marry someone in the military or a person that has a high powered career which requires them to travel quite frequently.
   Each of us gets to (choose) our own friends, lovers, and spouse. Know yourself, Love yourself, and Trust yourself BEFORE you select a mate. Your question states (they) made a "mistake". This implies they are guilty of the crime they were charged with.
   If my spouse were serving time for killing someone or another major crime I would not put (my life) on hold. It doesn't necessarily mean I would cut off all communication with them but at the same time I would not imprison myself for crimes (they) chose to commit. I believe I could do better and deserve better.
   Life is a personal journey. Waiting around most likely would cause you to blame them for your unhappiness. Our lives for the most part are the end result of the choices and decisions (we) make.
   It's your life. Take the wheel! You only live once!

   replyreport
   1. 82

      jennshealthstoreposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for answering. The point of my question was just to see how deeply the heart goes. There are many different situations in which he may have to wait for the one we love.

      replyreport
8. 77

   mathiraposted 10 years ago

   When love binds a man and woman together, there is unconditional support. Waiting  for the spouse to return from a long business trip or war is a part of marriage commitment and love. You cannot leave the spouse just because of long absence. Love travels beyond time and mistakes, doesn't it?

   replyreport