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When you've been wronged, do you get mad, get even or let it go?

  1. LowellWriter profile image77
    LowellWriterposted 8 years ago

    When you've been wronged, do you get mad, get even or let it go?

  2. natura profile image60
    naturaposted 8 years ago

    I know you've just added this question but I was just about to go when I saw this post and thought I'll answer it. smile

    Ahhh, this is a great question and one that every single person lives several times and sometimes on daily, weekly basis.

    They call it personality. Your personality determines your actions. It also depends on life experiences, the state of your mood, the health, the wheather and several more factors.

    But the biggest overall factor that would influence you would be your personality and your character strength.

    You need to vent it off, that is what I do. I would take a deep breath, hold on to it for several seconds to get my positive energy up and then think deeply, so quickly of the situation.

    In most things in life you would want to let it go if it's not life threatening. If it's an argument with someone you know then you would definitely be wise to let it go. There is a lesson involved in every corner of our lifes and these occassions are one of those lessons. It is a test of your personality and the strength of your character.

    Lifes not worth it trying to get mad or even. It takes a big personality to let it go in addition with forgiving and understanding.

    Cheers!

  3. TexasChickiMama profile image52
    TexasChickiMamaposted 8 years ago

    let it go I am older and wiser and all that baggage gets really heavy...and beside if I teach it or Preach it I try to do it!

  4. Lisa HW profile image72
    Lisa HWposted 8 years ago

    I'll be angry about it, but I always ask if the person intended to "wrong" me, or if it was just something s/he did out of not knowing any better.

    Most of the time, people aren't "evil".  They just mess up.  When it comes to family members, I think life is short and family is too important not to find a way to get past something.  Sometimes it isn't even possible to forgive something, in which case we sometimes need to get "around" it, rather than "past" it.  For me, it isn't a matter of "letting it go", as much as it's a matter of not letting it remain a giant obstacle (and there's a subtle difference).

    Then again, if someone is guilty of something like domestic violence or some other serious and awful thing; I'm a big fan of writing them off and keeping them out of your life.

    If someone knew what they were doing and knew it would harm me or someone I love, I'd aim to get even through some legal means.  I like to think I have too much self-respect and dignity to go the tire-slashing route; but I'm not above trying to sue someone big or do something like destroy their career, lifestyle, and reputation.  In other words, I let the smaller and unintended stuff go; but if it's big and they knew exactly what they were doing when they did it - I'll seek revenge until my dying day (without, of course, letting it ruin my own mood).

  5. mussi profile image61
    mussiposted 8 years ago

    Indeed this is a great question. I was just going through the same situation and when else could have been the best time to see this question.

    I think I could have let it go. But, I couldn't. Despite of the fact that I was intimidated only by my better half. It was mostly on the past events and there were complaints on some thing that I had not handled properly. I think it was my mistake too. But, I could only do that much at that time.

    I feel that it purely depends on the situation and how much one is being hurt emotionally. It is always easy to say that the situation should be handled in a more mature way, unless it actually happens to self. In most of the situations, time is the best healer. Also, it depends on both the parties involved and how willing is one eager to listen to the other.

  6. Lady_E profile image74
    Lady_Eposted 8 years ago

    I just let it go.  If I get angry, I'm handing over power to the person that wronged me.  If I let it go, I'm in control of my feelings/emotions and it will not have a negative impact on the rest of my day. In some cases, the person comes back to apologise anyway.

  7. stendek profile image55
    stendekposted 8 years ago

    Let it go. Anger and hate hurt only you in long run not the one those emotions are directed at. Peace.

 
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