Why are beautiful women not attracted to soft and “honest-like-priest” guys?
You see your sister is about to enter into a relationship with a guy whom you know is as good as a murderer, you try to tell her but she can’t listen to you. In fact, the more you insist, the more she becomes attracted to him. Should I let her perish?
I'm not certain that she thinks as much of herself as she should. Like attracts like....so, she must see herself in him. She has felt a connection...she feels understood by him. I will share with you how you can help, and it's not by telling her that you are right and she is wrong about the choices she is making in her life.
Get to know your sister better, help her to feel how wonderful she really is and she'll grow spiritually because of it. Then, she will find herself more attracted to someone who YOU can already see is a more suitable fellow for her. Many of us women have a tough time seeing ourselves in the positive light that may come so easily to those who love us. Show her her beauty, intelligence, wonderfulness. That's what she needs. It doesn't have to come from a partner, but it does need to be pointed out regularly to help her change her perspective of herself.
Best wishes on your journey with your sister and any other woman you care to help for that matter.
well, to answer the title, we are. in a way. Soft "honest like priest" guys are who you want to watch a movie with and who you want to console you if theres a ddeath or something, but when you need protection, or in the bedroom, bad boy will do just fine. Women are attracted to different guys at different times, problem is, we can only have one, and it depends on which personality your most attracted to. Like, my guy will play board games with me, and we have the same sense of humor, and i guess i value that over the protection thing or the responsibility thing. It may not be the best, but different things are important to different people. Its infuriating when people make mistakes that you can see comming a mile away, and unfortunately we love them and have to be there to pick up the pieces when things go wrong. shes your sister.She might also be the personality type that either ses him as a challange, or your dissaproval as a challange. Either way, people are willfull, and theres no way youll change her mind. she will see. hopefully, she will get out unscathed, or things will work out for the better. Just expect the phonecall your dreading.
Females choose a mate largely on the basis of aggression and strength. Basically they need a partner to protect them and pass on strong, healthy genes.
This does not mean that women are always attracted to jerks, but all things being equal a jerks have a natural advantage since they are less likely to project weakness.
Trying to put her off directly won't work because by attacking him she will naturally defend him, and whatever she says she will begin to believe.
If you really think this guy is bad news then try a different approach. Don't attack his character. Mention how he seems to be seeking approval from her and/or others and his behaviour masks weakness borne of insecurity. Google "AMOG" for more on this.
This is desperate stuff though, you should avoid messing with your sister's head unless you really fear for her.
The primordial instinct is that women want to get impregnated by the "bad boys" -- the aggressive, rough, alpha males.
Then they want wusses to hang around and help them provide for and raise her litters, since the one(s) that have impregnated her are off to the next females.
Today, government welfare programs take the place of many of the wusses.
I hate to answer a question with a question, but....
How well do YOU know this guy, or are you judging him based on appearance? Maybe you misunderstand him? Has he been in jail for murder before? Are you sure you see the whole picture? Of course nobody's good enough for your sister!
If I had listened to everybody when I met my husband...Oh, I hate to think about what I would have missed out on. Everybody told me to stay away, he's a jerk...blah blah blah. When really, the man is just highly misunderstood. I don't care if people THINK he treats me like crap, because I know the truth, and that's all that matters.
I do not know if the guy you are speaking of is bad or not. But it does not matter either way. People have to learn their own lessons. If she usually goes for the bad boy type, she will eventually get hurt enough one day and try something different. Thats if, that is what she wants. We can give people our opinions and advice, but the only person who can change somebody is themselves. Like when you yell at a child and tell them not to do something, it only makes them want to do it more. If you give her your honest opinion and let her know that you are only giving her your opinion, let her know that you are not trying to make decisions for her, she might listen to you a little more than if you tell her that her boyfriend is a murderer.
Except for Dabeaner, there seems to be a lot of psychobabble in these answers, seems to be a lot of it on HPs in general.
As far as Mother Nature is concerned, a man that isn't a farmer, a hunter, and warrior, is useless as a provider to a family, is useless for protection and survival.
I'm a bad boy I don't know why women are attracted to bad boys...maybe because we don't give a @#$!
You should stop thinking that your opinion is of any interest to anyone, least of all to her. Women like danger. So do men as a matter of fact. Live with it.
Well, I Don’t Limit My Life, I’ve Never Been Bad, I’ve Never Done Anything. I Never Had Fun In Life, Though I Continued Being A Person. I Don’t Find Beautiful Girls Attractive, I Believe Everyone Is Beautiful.
In My View, Beauty Is In The Eye Of The Beholder, And It’s Different For Everyone. Though You’ll Be Amazing In How I Treat A Female; Without Question... It’s Above A Queen.
Though, I Have Been Alone All My Life, I even Cried Over The Fact, Girls Wouldn’t Talk To Me, And Prefer Mean Guys. Like You Wouldn’t Believe, It’s As If They Thrive On Being Treated Like Nothing.
Girls Are A Confusing Race, Though... All Girls deserve To Feel Beautiful, That’s A Reason I Live Life, I Continue to Provide That.
Though, if I’ll Never Find My true Love... Because I’m Not Sadistic Enough; Then I Can Only Say Sorry.
To Change Myself I’d Rather Die, The Person I Am, I Demand.
And, I Also Encourage God, I’m A Insane Christian, I Do Everything for My Faith; It Keeps Me Alive.
Though, At the Price Of Depression, At The Price Of Suicidal Thoughts Of Being Alone. I Believe its Worth It; Dying For Your Love Of God.
Personally i don't go and would not go for a murderer but if my brother does tell me to stay away from a guy two things would come to my mind. how dare you? its none of your damn business, and secondly > you can't control me! its as simple as that and really annoying too. So stay away
People will do what they want regardless of what someone else wants FOR them. She may be attracted to the man for reasons you will never understand. Although I believe people who care for you most should be heard, no one but she and the guy are going to know what it's like in that relationship. Give her time to make her own mistakes, because if this man is as bad as you say he is..she'll wise up eventually. Let her know how you feel and always be there to give her the honest truth and support her in whatever she chooses to do. Also, don't look down upon her for being in this relationship. She'll only end up resenting you for it and making you less a part of her life.
When someone knows that they are wished not to do something makes them want to do it more. Like when a parent tells you that your not allowed to see a certain boy because of the impression he has given them. That child will then do everything in her power to be with the boy because its forbidden. Explain how you feel, tell her why you think it's a bad idea and then just let her know you will be there for her no matter what. You obviously love your sister to be concerned but just like a parent you have to let go let her make her own decision and know in your heart in the end she will make the right one, even if its one that won't make anyone else happy she's looking for her happiness. Stay strong and just be there for her without pushing her away.
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