Can a person grow to love another after marriage?

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   telltaleposted 14 years ago

   Can a person grow to love another after marriage?
   
   Like in arranged marriages, quite definite there may not be love at first, infatuation perhaps, but not exactly love.  So, can love grow after marriage?

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   jennshealthstoreposted 14 years ago

   It can happen, the same way people fall in love before marriage. If you two get along and have things in common, then sure it CAN happen. But it does not mean it will.

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   Pollyannalanaposted 14 years ago

   I assume you mean the person you married? I think it very well could happen. I don't know why you would marry someone you don't love but I think many marry for the wrong reasons. We won't always be beautiful and fun and all over thirty know there are problems in life and probably one after another and having someone to lean on and to trust is more important than beauty, and much less likely to walk out on you.

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   Marciiposted 14 years ago

   It could be a possibility if you get a divorce he or she couldn't possibly be the one for you.

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   christiansisterposted 14 years ago

   Yes. It can happen. It happens more often than you think. Usually in marriages today we choose the people we are to marry. But, we have gotten confused about what Love really is.
       Real love is not a feeling. we commonly mistake Infatuation, sexual attraction, or some other pulling force as love. Love as in marital love is much more than a feeling.
       Love is a decision. When we truly love someone, we are there for them no matter what they may be doing. It is not conditional.
   
       During the marriage ceremony we stand up in front of our loved ones and proclaim our love and devotion to each other. But, that is not all or even the most important part about it.
       When vows are exchanged most people feel they are talking to their new partner and all the guests present. But the truth is that that does not even matter. Most people don't consider what they are saying to God. When we promised to love and cherish forever, we are actually entering into a lifelong agreement to be with that person and help them along lifes path. We are saying that we will love them unconditionally. We pledge to do all we can to help this person and be with them no matter what they may go thru or experience. And vice versa.
        This can be a mean, ugly, lonely, and hurting road at times. It is not always pretty and usually does not feel all that good either. Real love grows in the manure of life. It takes cultivation and hard work to grow real love and it takes a long time for it to fully develop. You really do not even have to be attracted to the person.
            The more you live and share with a person and experience the ups and downs of life they become more a part of you. But, sexual attraction or good feelings won't keep you holding on when times get tough. Only your determination and commitment will get you through. And that has nothing to do with feelings. Usually it will be quite contrary to your feelings. It is a person decision to honor your covenant no matter what shall be.

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   alexandriaruthkposted 14 years ago

   should be, most stay together anyway because divorce is not allowed, children will bind them together.

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