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Would you stay with someone who is violent towards you?

  1. dandelionweeds profile image78
    dandelionweedsposted 7 years ago

    Would you stay with someone who is violent towards you?

  2. Sweetsusieg profile image84
    Sweetsusiegposted 7 years ago

    Absolutely not, never.  No one deserves to have violence directed at them at any time.

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    bella057196posted 7 years ago

    No, definetley not. I was in a situation like that over the summer. Get out while you can, i wish i had gotten out sooner.

  4. Gypsy48 profile image73
    Gypsy48posted 7 years ago

    Never, life is too short to waste it with someone like that. You deserve better.

  5. MickS profile image72
    MickSposted 7 years ago

    No, not at all.

  6. home witch profile image82
    home witchposted 7 years ago

    Never, ever. There's no excuse for putting up with that kind of behaviour, however afraid, alone and difficult it might be. There is plenty of support out there, just be brave and leave.

  7. point2make profile image81
    point2makeposted 7 years ago

    Never........never and I say again......NEVER!!!!!! Get out now!

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    OnlyDGHposted 7 years ago

    I say no as well, but just from personal experience it is easier said than done!

  9. Rosie2010 profile image75
    Rosie2010posted 7 years ago

    Never!  I don't tolerate any kind of violence.  I'll drop them like hot potatoes.  I don't even tolerate meanness.   Mean people are also bad news.  Stay away from these people... they will drag you down.  Run, Forrest, Run!!!

    Have a nice day,

  10. John B Badd profile image61
    John B Baddposted 7 years ago

    Yeah but only if I really liked her and was sure she would not attack me in my sleep or poison me.  In fact I would find it kind of hot. Of course I would only tolerate a little violence, it would get old if it happened all the time.

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    foreignpressposted 7 years ago

    So far many hubbers responding are saying "No, never." However, I have met numerous women who do stay with an abusive spouse despite the safe houses. I find this incredible. Once I asked a woman why she stayed with a man who regularly beat her to a pulp. "Where else do I go?" she said. "What can I do?"
       And this would make an excellent hub. What can an abused woman do when she feels she has no options? Many of these women I talked to had no job skills; most had very low self-esteem. Almost all had children. Another woman had a boyfriend who regularly beat her. She was a beautiful woman and could have left at anytime and had another BF overnight. But she chose to stay because of her strong emotional attachment to the abuser.
       Common sense says "No, never." But for lots of women it just ain't that easy.

  12. SteveoMc profile image74
    SteveoMcposted 7 years ago

    Only long enough to see that justice was served.

  13. internett1t3 profile image56
    internett1t3posted 7 years ago

    Nope, Save yourself you will soon lost your respect to yourself.

  14. Rusty32 profile image37
    Rusty32posted 7 years ago

    You shouldn't have to deal with that.  The other person obviously needs help as well if they can't control their temper.  They need to undertake some anger management counselling or something like that.

    Unless their behavour changes, and you are 100 percent confident it is going to be changed forever, the best thing would be to leave.

  15. joleenruffin profile image57
    joleenruffinposted 7 years ago

    I personally believe I would not, yet I do know women who have either stayed in abusive relationships because they don't know what else to do or women who leave and then go back to the abusive relationship. The new Tyler Perry movie "For Colored Girls" explores what can happen when a woman stays in an abusive relationship.

  16. CandaceP profile image55
    CandacePposted 7 years ago

    depends. Either get help and go to councling or if the person does not want help then you have to look out for your safety and leave them. There is allways help out there and just remember you are not alone!

  17. stricktlydating profile image81
    stricktlydatingposted 7 years ago

    No. The one you chose to be your partner should be the one who cares for you the most.  Someone who is abusive and violent towards you should not be your partner in life.

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    reeltaulkposted 7 years ago

    why would I?  Oh so I can also become violent, or wait a minute maybe because it turns me on, well maybe its because I know deep down they really love me.   In the end everything that I'm going to benefit from this relationship is going to negative. Negative energy, negative karma and a negative outlook after they have found a new replacement that wants to suffer at their hands in the name of "love".

  19. ajuvr profile image68
    ajuvrposted 7 years ago

    only a violent can suppose that someone is violent towards him/her.what you have got to offer ,you have to  congruently receive in turn , when the summary gets worked out.

  20. jeff3600 profile image57
    jeff3600posted 7 years ago

    absolutely not! I have been in an abusive enviornment so for me it is a lot worse than for most people, but either way people should be ending it as soon as it starts. some people do unfortunately stay with an abusive person because they are scared, but if you can no longer handle the situation and are not able to walk away on your own, then you need to go to someone who can help you to walk away.

  21. dragonlady1967 profile image86
    dragonlady1967posted 7 years ago

    Absolutely not.  Physical or mental, your well being should always be healthy and happy.  One should never be afraid to live life and enjoy it.  Hitting or mental abuse should never be tolerated at any level.  After 20 years (mental) I divorced.  There are so many reasons a person stays, but it take a brave person to finally leave.  Someone once told me "You had a life before this person, you'll have a life after."  They were right.

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    fallsfellaposted 7 years ago

    Only if you are a complete moron or someone who likes being smacked around.  Otherwise, get out of there...........................

  23. kirutaye profile image78
    kirutayeposted 7 years ago

    No way...No one is worth that pain and humiliation. The person is only killing you and your love slowly anyway. Better to walk away than to lose your life.

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