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What are your views on this statement: 'Friends are the family you choose for yo

  1. cloudy_cool profile image76
    cloudy_coolposted 7 years ago

    What are your views on this statement:
    'Friends are the family you choose for yourself.'

    My opinion is:
    Friends and Family are two separate things...the concept is totally different...Friends share bits of their lives with you...Family 'lives' their life with you and 'families' are non-negotiable people...friends can be forgotten or changed when deemed necessary! And unless you 'marry/adopt' your friend, they are not necessarily your family...


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    BenjaminBposted 7 years ago

    You say, "Family "lives" their life with you."

    For some that may be true,but for many others they become estranged from their families and their friends throughout their life take on the aspects of family because they have always lacked that.

    I subscribe to the philosophy that just because we come from the same blood does not mean I have to claim you,lol.

  3. Karonher profile image74
    Karonherposted 7 years ago

    I was told that at an early age. It was by a friend of my dads who had lost his family at an early age and would have been lost without his friends..

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    Ruach Eishposted 7 years ago

    The saying "Friends are family you choose for yourself" sounds rather twee, but in some respects there is truth in it.  Personally I find that some of my friends are a great deal closer to me than my extended family because I have grown up very much separated from my extended family but my friends are people who share my life with me.  I think it depends how much you need your friends.  I have always lived in a very difficult situation and so I rely very heavily on the support of friends both emotionally and practically, also I tend to find friends who have suffered as I have, so they also depend on me for emotional support and therefore I really do consider them to be brothers and sisters. 
    I don't think that in every case you conciously choose your friends either: my best friend and I - we have been friends for 14 years so far - were thrown together by circumstances and kept together by circumstances long enough to form a lasting bond.  Had things been different we would proably have never been more than casual aquaintances.  As it is, our two families are all now friends with each other as well so it really does feel like a familial bond.

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    ssaulposted 7 years ago

    This topic will have varying views. Lots of people hold their friends in the level of being their family, the only difference is being related by blood. With family you can't choose them but with friends you can choose who you want to be your friends and that to me is special. Lots of people know more about a friend than their family. With some people it is easy for them to confide with a friend than a family, sometimes family can become very complicated to deal with base on my experience.

  6. Ashantina profile image60
    Ashantinaposted 7 years ago

    For me this statement is true. And they also say 'you can choose your friends, but you can't choose your family'..
    I find as I get older, friendships become and are now more important to me. I truly value family but I have relatives who I have absolutely nothing in common with and I don't feel obliged to maintain an interaction, just because we share the same grandparents [or parents].
    Its beautiful and pretty amazing when you connect with a stranger and a deep spiritual bond is made. This to me is the true essence of family.

  7. fayehelen profile image54
    fayehelenposted 7 years ago

    I see my best friends as my family - I love them just as much, so to me, that statement is right. I have lived in the same flat as my best friends, gone to the same university, and lived our social lives together. (same dance clubs, friendship groups, nights out, shopping) - so I definately live my life with them.

    I agree that some friends can change and drift apart (but isn't that the same with some family members). The ones that matter you will stay close to no matter what.

    Just because somebody believes in the quote doesn't mean that their friends are any better than their family - it just means they see them as their family also.

  8. Vicki.Pierce profile image70
    Vicki.Pierceposted 7 years ago

    I always say that sometime it is better to choose your family then deal with the one you were born into.

  9. Dave Mathews profile image60
    Dave Mathewsposted 7 years ago

    It makes sense to me you can choose your friends, but you can't choose family. Mom and dad are still mom and dad and brother and sister are still brother and sister, but friends come and go.

  10. Jennifer Lynch profile image77
    Jennifer Lynchposted 7 years ago

    Your family are chosen for you for a reason!  I believe we are meant to have the family we are given to enjoy and appreciate.  Your friends well they come and go but the good ones hang about sometimes for years and they can feel like family too.
    You can definitely love your friends like you love your family.
    There is no shortage of love or limitations to the way we feel unless we decide there is!  Love goes, round, so send it out!

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    Butch Newsposted 7 years ago

    There is some truth in that.  But remember, friends will come and go but your family will always be there.

  12. stricktlydating profile image84
    stricktlydatingposted 7 years ago

    I agree with your point of view. Friends can come and go and 'can be forgotten or changed when deemed necessary' whereas your family are there throughout your whole life.  But you can try to turn friends into your family when your family aren't around.

  13. gmwilliams profile image85
    gmwilliamsposted 6 years ago

    Family does not have to necessarily mean blood family.  Family means those who are united by love and caring for each other.  There are blood relatives who do not necessarily care for each other while there are friends who love and respect each other and consider their members as family. read more