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How long does it take for life to get back to normal after divorce?

  1. PR Morgan profile image60
    PR Morganposted 7 years ago

    How long does it take for life to get back to normal after divorce?

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    David99999posted 7 years ago

    I would say that a person should avoid serious relationships for at least 2 years - that's a minimum, not a must-begin point.  I've known too many people who have married on a rebound and regretted it.

  3. lilibees profile image60
    lilibeesposted 7 years ago

    Still working on it, after two years so, guess its different for each individual!

  4. wychic profile image88
    wychicposted 7 years ago

    It's definitely different for each individual, and I think a lot hinges on who initiated the divorce, what the relationship was like before then, and how the individuals feel about the divorce. For me, I'd put up with a really bad situation for so long that all I felt was relief when it was over...and he moved his girlfriend in two weeks later, so I saw absolutely no point in beating myself up over someone who obviously didn't value me anyway. The day I came back to my hometown and took up temporary residence with my "other mother", my mom came rushing over with chocolates and a cheesecake and was all ready to offer her condolences and help me through this "tough time"...she seemed downright confused about how relaxed and cheerful I was. There were still a lot of hard times ahead as far as custody issues and such, but just getting out of such an unhealthy situation did wonders for me from day one.

    Five months later I was officially in another serious relationship, though it had been building for a little while before then. While I still had some baggage from my previous marriage (as did he, though his marriage had been over for 11 years), there wasn't the issue of still being emotionally attached to the ex or anything else that tends to be a major factor in ruining future relationships. The biggest thing was that we'd both previously been with very overbearing and controlling people, so it took a while to get used to the fact that we could just relax, be ourselves, do what we wanted, and even wear the clothes or buy the food we chose ourselves. Now we're married, our baby girl was born three months ago, and all has gone exceptionally well.

    Disclaimer: Results not typical wink

  5. vashal profile image65
    vashalposted 7 years ago

    I've seen a lot of variation there. I know someone who divorced and remarried within 3 years, and couple of others who have been divorced for nearly a decade and are still recovering.

  6. lindagoffigan profile image61
    lindagoffiganposted 7 years ago

    At a divorce seminar the timing for a divorcee to get her life together after divorce was about two years.