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When is enough - enough?

  1. Nancy B. profile image70
    Nancy B.posted 6 years ago

    When is enough - enough?

    A relative, who hasn't spoken to me in over two years (she doesn't have time to return my phone calls) got her son to send me a request for money for his school (a magazine subscription). The message to me is apparent, we don't want to have anything to do with you except your money. Should I send the money for the child or ignore the request as I've been ignored?

  2. J.S.Matthew profile image84
    J.S.Matthewposted 6 years ago

    Not to be cold, but I think you should ignore the person and remove them from your life. This is just my opinion. Life is too short to play games! Obviously you aren't that close so I don't think that the child will suffer because you don't respond.


  3. ginjill ashberry profile image76
    ginjill ashberryposted 6 years ago

    Why don't you get some time and confront them in person? Visit and bring the money with you too. He obviously needs the money but let them know that you wouldn't be used again if they wouldn't change their ways (There's probably more to this than you are sharing, you know better).

  4. slimanove profile image58
    slimanoveposted 6 years ago

    just forget  .see the futur ,  want just your money ,not to see behind

  5. CWanamaker profile image97
    CWanamakerposted 6 years ago

    I would just ignore it for now.  If you aren't worth their time, then they aren't worth your money. I would suggest making a better effort to communicate with them though.  Maybe they really are busy, try connecting with them on facebook or some other medium.  My grandma and I, for example, still send snail mail letters to each other.  We don't talk much on the phone (because of the time difference and the fact that we are both busy), and she isn't tech savvy, so the exchange of paper letters still allows us to keep in touch.

  6. Roger Rabbit profile image60
    Roger Rabbitposted 6 years ago

    I would send the money out of spite along with a very condescending message.

  7. profile image0
    Digsposted 6 years ago

    As a rule in life, never repay an evil with an evil.  However, it sure sounds like an honest discussion about the nature of your relationship is in order.  If your relative is unwilling to have that conversation, then make it clear the door remains open, but close it politely until they are willing to open it.

    Her son knows what is going on and is learning a real bad lesson about how to deal with others.  I would not re-enforce the lesson she is teaching by continuing to subsidize it.

  8. crazymom3 profile image75
    crazymom3posted 6 years ago

    Ignore the request,  or send back a simple message such as "How nice of you to think of me at this time, but I'm sorry I can't remember where my wallet is."

  9. profile image60
    rampaknaongposted 6 years ago

    You should ignore it. Their way to communicate is not good. This is not good to send him money either. The beginning is halfway. Leave and ignore it.

  10. Jowy2000 profile image85
    Jowy2000posted 6 years ago

    Well, I think the answer to this question shouldn't depend very much on your relationship with the relative as it's their son you're talking about. If you typically would, and have money to do so, then I think you should. I don't think it is appropriate to take out your frustration on her son. Ignoring the request, or fulfilling it, doesn't really do anything to her, but only the son.

    You can always use that as a way of forcing them to communicate with you. Ask them how the son is doing on getting subscriptions and talk about how you ordered one. They really would have to be a prick to ignore talking to you after you spent money on their son.

  11. Leptirela profile image78
    Leptirelaposted 6 years ago

    I totally agree with ::Roger Rabbit:: on this one,

    This is for the child, So putting everything aside If you send the money you know you're doing it for the child and not your relative.

    Then this is your decision entirely,
    Just don't let it put you down.

  12. akuigla profile image61
    akuiglaposted 6 years ago

    Stay away from people like that.
    They will bring you only problems.

  13. ajuvr profile image69
    ajuvrposted 6 years ago

    e! no ugh.......................................................................!

  14. danmit profile image76
    danmitposted 6 years ago

    I think you should try calling again now that they've made contact with you (even if it was just a money request). Personally I would call, if try don't answer I'd leave a message just saying hi and requesting a call back. If I got through I'd talk and catch up and, eventually, get to the question at hand. At this point I'd decide whether I needed a magazine subscription or not.

  15. _namehere_ profile image53
    _namehere_posted 6 years ago

    Well I think you should probably talk to this person about how you feel about how he/she is treating you if they don't understand. The at least you can say you tried. If so just move on.

  16. TCM Specialist profile image60
    TCM Specialistposted 6 years ago

    If you're close to the child I vote yes, don't blame the child for the parents actions.

  17. Aley Martin profile image77
    Aley Martinposted 6 years ago

    when too much is too much...and no matter how much you try, it makes no difference.

  18. stricktlydating profile image81
    stricktlydatingposted 6 years ago

    She could have had him send the same email to everyone on her email list. Just count it as spam.