Does misery really love company?

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  1. bellawritter23 profile image76
    bellawritter23posted 7 years ago

    Does misery really love company?

    I think so when I had so much anger and frustration I wrote about it in a poem form and I had a never ending list of comments, but now that I have stressed my point to write positive I feel I have lost my readers. I feel I lost my muse and my inspiration..... I find it a bit odd hmm

  2. Daffy Duck profile image60
    Daffy Duckposted 7 years ago

    I prefer to be away from people when I'm miserable.

  3. Matt in Jax profile image67
    Matt in Jaxposted 7 years ago

    Misery does love company, but happiness makes for a closer relationship I do believe.
    Don't worry about the readers, they will come in time if the message is one worth reading. And after all, you shouldn't have to be miserable just to have readers...they should want to read your stuff through the ups and downs.

  4. Wayne Brown profile image85
    Wayne Brownposted 7 years ago

    It most certainly does...that's how they got the idea for a bar. Misery likes to get a beer and stare into the mirror the bar until company shows up. They compare notes to see who has the worse story.  Somewhere along about the 2nd beer Misery is not so miserable anymore and just loves the fact that company's life is worse than his own. Company on the other hand was starting to feel things were going his way which was a bit depressing because he cannot handle success. After discusssing things with Misery, he was convinced that he is still worse off and feel much the better for it. Now you know why they love each other! WB

  5. duffsmom profile image61
    duffsmomposted 7 years ago

    It is an interesting phenomenon that happiness is short-lived - a brief excitement about winning a contest or accomplishing something fantastic, or whatever--you get that surge of excitement and it passes--and dies down.

    Misery, grief, or emotional pain are long lasting and at times I think touch us very deeply.  For me, I like to read dramatic poems, and stories that make me feel something deep inside.  You read along, and suddenly reach the end and it has a surprise jolt, it feels much like stepping off of a curb into traffic, and you think WOW! Your whole body feels it.

    Have you ever noticed the awards for movies.  The Oscar seems to go to the movies that make your heart hurt for a while. 

    Human beings--we are a mysterious bunch.

  6. bbnix profile image60
    bbnixposted 7 years ago

    I think its because anger and frustration comes from a deeper place than more positive feelings. I know that sounds funny, but even love seems to come from just below the surface - you tingle and think of that person often, and yes, you do feel it powerfully, but rage and anger comes from deep within, strong, powerful, destructive even. Love and peace doesn't cause your entire body to go into fight mode where every muscle is poised to do something, now.

    As any as any creative person is concerned, and this helps your audience remember you, is to have something of a point of focus, a hook even, to use an overwrought term. You have to find something important you, and then, much like with anger, tear it apart, disassemble it, by yourself, though, then, reassemble it in a new, clever, and thought provoking way -surprise people, give them something they've never seen, much like rage, for few people have seen the worst of that, and then, much like all the great writers, surprise them - explode their boring lives, give them something to think about, talk about.

    Just saying... smile

  7. Frank Atanacio profile image81
    Frank Atanacioposted 7 years ago

    Yes of course, no one wants to go at it or be in it alone...  including misery

  8. Tusitala Tom profile image68
    Tusitala Tomposted 7 years ago

    We can only give away what we have.  If we have a lot of misery inside, this is what we radiate.   It comes across not only in words and acts but in body language, such as folded arms and clenched fist, frowns, scowls and grimaces.   If you listen in on conversations carried on in public places such as a bar room, it doesn't take long before you hear someone winging about their problems.  Generally, the person they're complaining to is doing the same thing (often at the same time   No one listening, everyone talking)   This is a case of miseryj loves company.

    Unless you're a professional counsellor, or very saintly, best to avoid such persons.

  9. rishisab profile image58
    rishisabposted 7 years ago

    As i can assume, you are not here to earn money by writing something for the people. So, it doesn't matter if people are reading it or not, just write about what you really want to.

    Don't stress yourself to write positive or negative. Just write in a way that communicate your feelings in the best possible manner.

    Be good in what you write and how you write. And the readers (like us) will follow you smile

  10. Mindtrapz profile image60
    Mindtrapzposted 7 years ago

    I think misery takes form in what I would like to call "haters" They hate to see you looking good, feeling well, and propering. They have the "I'm better than you syndrome" and they want you to wallow in despair with them. I say to my flock..cast out the evil haters!!!

  11. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 7 years ago

    Yes and No.
    Generally speaking "Like Attracts Like"

    If everyone in a room is complaining about their lives and one person is professing how "wonderful" things are going for them they are going to be "Ostrich sized"

    On the other hand if everyone is laughing and having a great time and one person starts to rant or cry about things in their life people will try and avoid being pulled down. "Happy people" usually stay clear of "negative" people or "Debbie Downers"

    Whatever mood you are in determines which group of people you want to be with in the moment.

  12. SheZoe profile image74
    SheZoeposted 7 years ago

    i think it loves empathy
    (more words. have they never heard about the importance of few words sometimes eh eh eh)

  13. Tankadin profile image38
    Tankadinposted 7 years ago

    Sadly, I believe it does too.
    I have several people in my life that I only hear from when they are miserable. It's like they contact you to see if you are miserable too. If you are feeling up - they do their best to try to bring you down.
    Stay positive and you will find a new group of readers. I am going to check out your hubs now!

  14. moonfairy profile image79
    moonfairyposted 7 years ago

    yes, I think so. When your life is upside down it's nice (and I think reassuring) that someone else is in the sinking boat with you. It's also comforting to know that someone else understands what you're going through because they're dealing with their own demons as well.

  15. TheSenior profile image60
    TheSeniorposted 7 years ago

    The answer is unfortunitely Yes - why - what I have been able to gather is that it is much easier to be miserable and it is to be happy.  I know this sounds absurd, but after listening to a number of psychologists they found that 1.  It takes extra effort to put yourself in a happy mood and keep it there than it does to be miserable.  2.  Being that there are a lot of people that are miserable, they want company sooo bad that you might just get sucked into their misery by having an arm around your shoulder by them welcoming you into their world for a fleeting moment of 'happyness' before they realize that they havn't complained about anything and return to being miserable.

    Incidently - anger comes from unresolved issues and frustration comes basically from the world not bowing to the way you think things should be run.  Once you realize that the world is going to revolve even if all things arn't in a certain place or in a certain order - You might even begin to relax and enjoy life.

  16. Melissa.P profile image58
    Melissa.Pposted 7 years ago

    I think in your case people who are sad or upset read your poems about your furstration and anger and can relate to them.  When people are upset they need to cool off and think about stuff and to see that maybe someone else out there feels the same way as them, really helps them.

 
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