How do you speak to a hard headed boyfriend?
i dont know what to do. I feel like all I do is work and I never have any money for me. all my money goes to my responsibilities that doesnt matter to me much because you know I chose to move out but my man lives with me and works less than I do but still manages to have money for himself but I have to help him pay for his parole officer because he spent all his money. I dont think thats fair to me but if I mention it to him he gets anry with me saying that I need to stop nagging him. I dont know what to do.
Bye bye . Maybe it is time to think about if you really love him , if not then maybe you are best to move on with a life that you can enjoy as it sounds like you are not in for a good time if you stay with him . I wrote a hub about escaping domestic violence , some of the tips could maybe help you so best to read it first .
I got married at 18 , had 3 girls , now remarried to someone I love . !8 is too young to be tied down to someone your not happy with.
Hope things work out for you.
Don't pay it, don't mention it, stay calm if he gets angry about it and just tell him you do not have the money, he'll have to get it from elsewhere. If he asks about it just reconfirm what you've already said, so he can't say you're "nagging" him. He seems irrisponsible, but it's not your problem, stop paying his way you need to look after yourself.
Tell him to pay his own bills. You pay your own. Why be his doormat?
hmmmm, how do you speak to a hard headed boyfriend? Very Very Very Loudly! Put your foot down, it's your partner, not your child. There could be other ways, but I can't think of any Blessings
It's time to get to the point of the matter.
Sit your man down and have a heart to heart with him.
Give him a timeline to reach his goals in life.
I do mean a short-term goal list.
It's time to clean house !
Maybe you should pay for more of his things... Get a second job and have him quit his... Then tell him to find a second or third girlfriend and you support all of them!!
Seriously... This isn't about him... It's about you... Figure out what it is that you want. Set some standards for yourself. If you love him and want to help him then do that. But obviously you feel like its not fair and you aren't happy with the situation.
Figure out what you want first, what you expect and deserve from him. And if he won't or can't do it. Then find someone who can.
It could also be that he feels ashamed for needing your help and his pride is trying to protect his ego when you bring it up.
Set some standards for yourself first and see what happens
If he can do better to help you and share responsibilities with you but he does'nt do nothing, leaving you assume, alone, your life together. you should understand that he don't really love you and that all what interested him in you, is what you can do for him.
In this case, you should probably put your relationship in question rather than trying to find a solution.
Speak with love and open heart, sincere and straightforward.
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