Would you give up being friends with your ex if it bothered your current partner?
Yes absolutely my partner would be my main concern and my relationship with them as well!
It would depend - it it was merely because my partner was insecure or didn't trust me - no, because I deserve the respect and trust of my partner.
If it was because the ex was trying to win me back etc. then yes, because I would want to focus on strengthening my current relationship.
I think there are a lot of factors to consider in this type of answer.
1) How long have you been friends with the ex?
2) How long have you been with your current partner?
3) What is the issue? Jealousy? A question of time commitment? Still have feelings for the ex?
If it was a question of jealousy, then I would want to figure out if it was justified. Is my partner insecure? Am I causing that insecurity? Or is it just a matter of trying to control who I hang out with? I don't think any situation is clear cut. Sometimes, it might be a good idea to break off that friendship with the ex.
However, if your partner is trying to control you and there's no good reason to justify the jealousy, I would be inclined to question the current relationship, rather than cut off a potentially solid, platonic friendship.
Thank goodness that I was blessed in that my Husband has no issues, but in my specific case I didn't have the choice.
My daughter has two amazing Dad's and I couldn't cut off one to please the other. Thankfully, both of them agreed with me and now there is only more love for the child and no awkward, childish, feelings and behavior between my ex and my husband. Never has been.
While I can't cut off communication with my ex because of our son, if something bothered my husband enough that he felt very strongly about cutting off a friendship, than I would. Luckily what interaction I do have with my ex is entirely what is required to exchange information about our son and do our best to be consistent with parenting in both households. In fact, my current husband talks to my ex a lot more than I do, and they both get along reasonably well.
It would depend on how serious the relationship is with my new partner and how close me and my ex had become over the years.
I could understand there being an issue if the ex is a "recent ex" as in the last person you dated prior to your current relationship. Your mate might trust you but they may not trust the motives of your ex for continuing the friendship.
More often than not in situations like this one person in "the friendship" pulls away once they find someone else to love. It's unlikely both people would end up in relationships with new people who are fine with the "friends with exes" scenario. The majority of people want very little to do with their exes.
I would say "no." If my current partner felt that they couldn't trust me, then maybe they shouldn't be my current partner. It all comes down to trust, and if trust isn't there, neither is the relationship.
Yeah, as it would bother me if my partner was friends with his ex, they have emotional and sexual history which would make me uncomfortable, maybe its more to do with my issues but its not irrational if this makes your partner jealous/annoyed/uncomfortable.
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