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Why do we like older guys? More than security. I don't like guys my age and have

  1. funmontrealgirl profile image64
    funmontrealgirlposted 6 years ago

    Why do we like older guys? More than security. I don't like guys my age and have not dad issues.

  2. Horse Feathers profile image60
    Horse Feathersposted 6 years ago

    Is it maturity? By the way I'm available.

  3. crankalicious profile image94
    crankaliciousposted 6 years ago

    I bet I can answer this easily: women are just generally more mature than guys. Guys, even grown men, are often boys up until the day they die. Also, most men don't acquire a confidence or swagger until they're much older, so younger women who are attracted to older guys, are so because the guy understands who he is and what he's about. It takes guys much longer to figure this out and even when they think they've got it figured out, they often don't.

  4. ournote2self profile image58
    ournote2selfposted 6 years ago

    I personally don't like older guys.  Not sure why, but my husband is 2.5 years younger than me and I've always been attracted to guys that were a year or 2 younger.  I think it's because the guys that were my age and older were fat and bald.  I'd rather have someone fun and still has hair on their head!  (knock on wood) Hahaha!

  5. chanroth profile image73
    chanrothposted 6 years ago

    hehe...I don't like guys my age at all! I'm 22 and I'm with a man whose twice older than I am. He's 35, mature...I'm not ashamed. The reason why I don't like guys my age because they are most likely insecure. I look at guys by the way they dress, act, talk, education, and most importantly, I look at how they approached me and my parent. I been with my fiance about 6 years now...and I'm fine with it. Our personality and thinking click...even though he's older...but he taught me a lot about life. To me...I think age does matter in some particular reason...but what matter the most is the love you guys have for each other. at least I'm not with a guy whose as old as my parent and grandpa! smile My grandpa is 90 and my parent are in their 50s.

  6. wychic profile image89
    wychicposted 6 years ago

    I think it varies for everyone. I'm 25 and my husband is 51, and for me it was just a matter of maturity, and finding someone who shares my interests. We can sit and talk for hours about current events, politics, philosophy, history, and on and on. I know a couple of guys near my age who have these similar interests, but don't have anywhere near the depth of knowledge he does -- or an interest in women.

    He is at the point where he is willing to objectively look at problems and find his part and deal with it, while trusting me to do the same. He can also recognize that he alone is responsible for his happiness, and doesn't expect me to "provide happiness" for him. At the same time, he doesn't feel insecure or offended when I seek enjoyment in hobbies, or go to yoga classes, or other things that are completely apart from him, because he knows that he can't "make" me happy either. These are things I have never seen in men my age, but that I feel are essential for a healthy and low-stress relationship. There is a big difference between being happy being with someone and expecting them to make you happy.

    Again, everyone is different, so I can only express my own reasons smile. Security never factored into it at all -- I don't need someone to take care of me.

  7. LuisEGonzalez profile image87
    LuisEGonzalezposted 6 years ago

    It is more than likely  because women mature faster than men and they usually seek security above other things. An older man is likely to be more mature and understands women better and the issues that are important to her.

  8. nightwork4 profile image60
    nightwork4posted 6 years ago

    i like to think because us older guys are a bit more mature and better at sex.