Dating older guys

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   lawrettaposted 15 years ago

   I am currently seeing someone who is fifteen years older than me, he is single and well educated. is it OK for me to date a 42years old guy or is he too old?

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      badcompany99posted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Age is but a number well unless its bordering on the ridiculous like Ronnie Wood 61 and his g/f who is 22, ok so I am jealous of the bugger. But if you are happy then that's what counts, so enjoy being happy girl !

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         lawrettaposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         Thanks Jenny and thank you Badcompany99, i am relieved.

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      britishprincessposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      There is nothing wrong with dating an older man; I have dated at least five. I don't know how old you are so it's hard to say if it is acceptable or not in your reagard. I am in my late twenties, but started dating men over forty in my early twenties. I find older men to be more mature, more settled in their life and more sophisticated them younger men in my age group. I prefer men in their forties; although I have dated some in their fifties. After a couple of fifties I decided that was too old for me and went back to forties.
      
      If you are young and want a family a man in his forties is a more likely candidate then a man in his fifties. A man in his fifties will have already had his children as well as grnadchildren; and he won't want any more. I also discovered that a man in his fifites is too set in his ways and not that flexible or compromising. I say go for it if you are getting your needs met and don't worry about the age difference. Besides, to him; you will always be his younger woman.

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      NYMiskovicposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      I have always dated older men.  In fact I am 30 and my husband is 43.  If the two of you get along and treat each other right, then there is nothing wrong with it at all.  Have fun and enjoy each other ; )

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      Davinagirl3posted 15 years agoin reply to this

      If he is a keeper, it doesn't matter how old he is.  If he lights your fire, hold on and don't let go.

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         Eaglekiwiposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         Well said!

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      blondepoetposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      My motto is 'if it fits wear it'.

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         Mishaposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         Umm, I would think it would have suited a male better, but I am prolly a sexist thinking this way

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            blondepoetposted 15 years agoin reply to this

            Haha Misha depends on what fits what!!!!

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         Jellyrugposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         I'm learning, how does a girl wear a boy? Need to know more.

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            blondepoetposted 15 years agoin reply to this

            If she looks good with him draped all over her then he fits well, much akin to a fur coat

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   Inspirepubposted 15 years ago

   Whose permission do you need, honey?
   
   If it's good for you, and it's good for him, go for it.
   
   I have known many couples (and been part of some myself) with that kind of an age difference, and physical age means nothing compared with the way someone thinks.
   
   I know a guy who at 21 was more mature than many 40+ guys, and a woman who at almost 50 is still like a child.
   
   So you do what's right for you, and don't let nobody else tell you what that is!
   
   Jenny

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   \Brenda Scullyposted 15 years ago

   I think it could be fun having an older wiser guy around.... enjoy all that comes your way and do keep us informed as to how things are going.....  xxxx

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   Beth100posted 15 years ago

   Age is strictly in the mind.  What makes you happy (and him) is all that counts ... Be happy!

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   jenblacksheepposted 15 years ago

   When I was 16 my friend started going out with someone who was 26. They were a really good couple, but it was a little weird. But then someone else I knew started going out with someone 20 years older than her! THAT was wrong.
   
   In your twenties, there's nothing wrong with going out with someone older than you. It's mental age that makes the difference. Don't worry about it.

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   JonTutorposted 15 years ago

   It surely can go both ways....I'm 20 and if I didn't have a GF  then I have no  problems dating older woman..... it does help if the woman looks like Demi Moore

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   Mishaposted 15 years ago

   I have 17 years difference with my wife

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      anjalichughposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Who's older?

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         Mishaposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         Me

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            drummer boyposted 15 years agoin reply to this

            Good for you Misha.  You hit the nail on the coffin.  How long have you been married?

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               Mishaposted 15 years agoin reply to this

               LOL Exactly on my coffin
               
               Together for about 10 years, married - four
               
               Oh, and welcome back Drummer boy, did not see you for a while

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   Greek Oneposted 15 years ago

   If you were my daughter, I would caution against it

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   Lady_Eposted 15 years ago

   Hey Lawretta. Nice new pic
   
   Well, if you are both happy and he's treating you right, why not? I mean, your only dating for now. Don't look at his age, look at his heart - inward.
   
   Good Luck.

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    Anti-Valentineposted 15 years ago

    As long as it's not Hugh Hefner...
    
    http://hubpages.com/forum/post/261304

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    Joelle Burnetteposted 15 years ago

    If you have found love, go for it. But as a woman who is married to a man 10 years my senior, if you do end up together, there will come a day when that 15 years will make a difference in the dynamics of your relationship. For instance, my mom is 7 years younger than my dad and they are getting to the point when she is the one taking care of my dad. He's 79 with health issues and even though she is 72, she has a young spirit and wants to travel. Unfortunately, her choices are limited because of his health.
    Still, you can say, "screw the health," do what you want and take your chances like they did last year...they travelled to South America and took a cruise down to Antarctica. A pretty brave thing to do, I think.
    So, go for it, just realize some of the future limitations if it goes in that direction.
    Good luck!
    Joelle

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    Anti-Valentineposted 15 years ago

    My parents are quite similar. My dad is 70, and my mom is 68, so there's only a two year gap, and yet she looks and acts as though she's younger, like in her 40s or 50s perhaps.
    
    She also has to amuse him and clean up after him all the time, and doesn't find much time to do much else.

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    Jellyrugposted 15 years ago

    Lucky guy!!!
    
    It depends on whether your interests are compatible and if you can fit in with both your groups of friends. He may have friends in their 50's while you may have friends in their 20's, not so easy to blend at times.

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    kmackey32posted 15 years ago

    I personally like the younger ones. My husband is 7 years younger than me.

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    Eaglekiwiposted 15 years ago

    Usually boys/men take longer than females to mature, so older probably means just right , lol.
    
    Love doesnt really have a 'right age', though experience cant ever be learned from a book (my opinion)

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       anjalichughposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Absolutely right.

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       Jellyrugposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Watch it Eaglekiwi! Some men mature so fast they will never get as old as they look, it all depends on the kind of mileage during the trip.

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          Anti-Valentineposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          This old argument again.

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             Jellyrugposted 15 years agoin reply to this

             Mmmm, do you have a linky, so I can catch up and add a little maturity?

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                Eaglekiwiposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                Awww......what?

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                Anti-Valentineposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                No, I meant age-old argument. Not just in the forum.

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                   Eaglekiwiposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                   No its all good, just wondered what linky meant

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                      Anti-Valentineposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                      Not what it rhymes with...

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                      Pearldiverposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                      I think he means Leaky You know some old guys are!

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                      Jellyrugposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                      Linky is a term you use when you are young at heart, it means pointing your "Google" in the right direction.

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                         Pearldiverposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                         Oops sorry.. I stand corrected... But don't take it to heart... I'm sure it's best we don't oogle ya google eh?

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                            Jellyrugposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                            It's all cool pearl diver, I just pointed my Google to "age difference between couples" and got a whole lotta linky's. Here is one for ya, http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_dispar … ationships

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    ngurecoposted 15 years ago

    Hi,Lawretta.
    
    Go ahead and don't look backward. It's love that matters not the age. In as long as the guy is still breathing, he is active for love.

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    drummer boyposted 15 years ago

    I agree with the first comment.  Whose permission do you need?  I think most all of these are good advice.  As long as you are both over 18 I would say go for it.

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    Pearldiverposted 15 years ago

    Being an older guy is a huge advantage over the younger ones; but I don't know that I'll be able to say that with as much conviction, when they reach my current age.

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    Pearldiverposted 15 years ago

    

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    Eaglekiwiposted 15 years ago

    Gravity sucks , everythings headin south

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       Mishaposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       I thought stuff heading north on your side of the pond though

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