Is it suspicious when you're single and your friends partner visits your house a

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  1. stricktlydating profile image84
    stricktlydatingposted 7 years ago

    Is it suspicious when you're single and your friends partner visits your house alone, unexpectedly?

    Just knocks on your door and said they were just passing bye so decided to call in and say hello.  Had it happen to me recently and felt it was an odd thing for my friends partner to do.  He had been to my house with my friend (his partner) once before. But maybe it was innocent and he was just genuinely passing bye and called in to be friendly?

  2. MsDora profile image94
    MsDoraposted 7 years ago

    It's inappropriate, for sure.  If there's a good reason, let him state it upfront, deal with it and leave.  Even so, find a courteous way to cut short the visit:  busy, an appointment etc.  In the process make sure you let him know that you expect him and his partner to visit you together.

  3. profile image0
    klevifushaposted 7 years ago

    Like the other user said before me, it is certanly innapropriate and I would also call it disrespectful. If it was suspicious, that's up to you to decide. Was this person flirting with you? Or did this person's behavior seem genuinly friendly?

  4. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 7 years ago

    I'm not sure I would call it "suspicious" but it's not a cool move.
    First of all there is no reason to just drop by anyone's house without calling first.
    Secondly if this person's mate is your "friend" odds are she would not happy with this (secret meeting). The only exception would be if they were asking you to help plan a surprise party for their mate.

    This is very similar to "flirting" or "testing the waters"
    It allows the person to keep pushing to find out where the line is drawn. If you call them on it they are likely to make it seem as though there is something wrong with YOU. After all they did not make an "overt pass" at you. Regardless of how it may appear to anyone you have a right to say you are uncomfortable with these types of visits.

  5. andrewwilliams63 profile image61
    andrewwilliams63posted 7 years ago

    Well, could be innocent, it would depend on how they act when they are around you, do they flirt with you?

  6. shampa sadhya profile image72
    shampa sadhyaposted 7 years ago

    I would not prefer any of my acquaintance to drop at my place. If at all there is an emergency then prior information is a must or else it will be quite embarrassing and disrespectful. Home is a very private place so anyone at any time is not at all welcomed.

  7. Ashantina profile image61
    Ashantinaposted 7 years ago

    No, sweetie it was not innocent.
    I hope you mentioned his unexpected visit to your friend....

  8. profile image0
    reeltaulkposted 7 years ago

    That's weird.....I don't think I would believe that line

  9. profile image0
    Del Sandeenposted 7 years ago

    Sounds suspicious to me. Why can't he call first if he wants to "stop by"? I can only speak for myself since I really don't like uninvited guests but not only is it suspicious, it's rude, too.

  10. Inspired to write profile image80
    Inspired to writeposted 7 years ago

    Hi Stricktly, yes, as a guy myself, & if you are a good looking sexy babe, it is highly suspicious, it seems to me, of course, it could be an innocent thing & he really is interested in just making the effort to go and calling at yours 'on the spur of the moment' without his gal knowing, just to see you & to say 'HI baby'!

    Some guy's are downright sneaky like this, they seem innocent but they can't really be trusted behind their 'current' partner's back.

    Also, something as narrow minded, which you didn't have no control of him calling, like this, can even break the friendship bond between you & your pal if your not careful.

    As a guy myself, through my own experiences, my feelings, & my past actions, this is my point of view. But now, as a mature person who knows what he want's I am the real me & I don't step on another's toes!
    Regards Dale

  11. f_hruz profile image71
    f_hruzposted 7 years ago

    To a suspicious mind, anything is suspicious ... but with a clear view of reality and a bit of objective evaluation, it shouldn't be too hard to find out the true motive behind it all!

  12. vjwillisjr profile image60
    vjwillisjrposted 7 years ago

    If he respected you and your friend he would not have dropped in without calling first. I'd say with 95% certainty that his intentions were not innocent. Why not bring the visit up the next time you are all three together? Watch him to see if his partner finding out about the visit makes him uncomfortable. If it does, then it was NOT innocent.

  13. Beata Stasak profile image82
    Beata Stasakposted 7 years ago

    It is suspicious if you want to see it that way:)


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