Why can't I relate to people anymore?

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  1. ii3rittles profile image82
    ii3rittlesposted 12 years ago

    Why can't I relate to people anymore?

    I've noticed that not only can I not relate to people younger than me, but I can't relate to people my own age. I can, to a point, relate to people older than me, but in most cases... I still feel like I don't fit in anywhere. I'm only 23 years old and can't stand 99.8% of people my own age. The way they talk, how judgmental they are... I just can't stand it. Why do I feel this way, does anyone else?

  2. indiework profile image58
    indieworkposted 12 years ago

    Hormones are messing with you! Maybe it's just temporal.

  3. FloraBreenRobison profile image61
    FloraBreenRobisonposted 12 years ago

    I have always gotten along with people much older than I am compared to people younger than I am. The only time when age seems to be irrelevant is when I meet someone  through music. otherwise, I need to have grown up with people to   feel comfortable around them if they are my age or younger. I don't know what the reason is for you, but for me I simply  relate to people who grew up on the internet, technology,  etc. less than  people who didn't. Plus, I happen to the love the entertainment world eras before I was born.

  4. Extinct Soul profile image60
    Extinct Soulposted 12 years ago

    I felt something like that too, and it bothered me up to the point where I thought I was suffering on some mental illness. lol But after some thorough research and reading, I came to find out that I was just in the wrong place. smile
    Identify the things you like and find out where they can be found. There you can find the people (some on the same age as you are) that you could relate to or have the same wavelength. smile

  5. seriousnuts profile image60
    seriousnutsposted 12 years ago

    I had felt the same way too. I'd felt I was in the wrong place at the wrong time. It seemed that my personality, interests, and values didn't match theirs. As I get older, I'd managed to find some people whom I really agree with. Don't worry, out of all these people, somehow, you will find someone who you can truly relate to. As of now, try to see less of your peers' flaws and focus more on the good side. Try to get along with them. You might find that they also have some likable qualities.

  6. Jarn profile image61
    Jarnposted 12 years ago

    You're intelligent and value things beyond instant gratification. Sorry to say it, but that puts you in the extreme minority. Sad how being smart is a deficiency these days, isn't it?

  7. Allen Williams profile image70
    Allen Williamsposted 12 years ago

    We all go through many stages in life.  As we learn things, and experience things, our knowledge base of life experiences expands and we evolve.  I believe being active on Hub Pages helps expand your knowledge.  The problem you are having right now is not really a problem but it is growth.  You are advancing faster than other people your own age so you can see that you are on a different level than what they are so you are losing that direct link to communicating or relating to them.  You said you relate more to people older than you and that is because they have more life experience.  Since you are progressing faster than people your age and younger, you are going through a transition of finding a new base of people to relate to.  Don't worry about it.  We all evolve at our own pace, some quicker than others and as we do, we grow into other phases of our lives.

  8. Say Yes To Life profile image77
    Say Yes To Lifeposted 11 years ago

    I think the 20's are difficult, especially during hard economic times.  I remember feeling that way at 23.  Mostly it was because after suffering multiple traumas, I had a hard time relating to people period, but it was also because I couldn't find other people my age to socialize with.  I wound up hanging out with people ten years my senior, or older.

    You might try hanging out with people at the local university.  I met some really cool 20-somethings at Stanford.


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