Why is it that so many people have a lack of respect for marriage now-a-days?

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  1. Vanessamtz956 profile image60
    Vanessamtz956posted 12 years ago

    Why is it that so many people have a lack of respect for marriage now-a-days?

    Before marriage used to be sacred and regardless of their problems people would stay married. Now, for any little thing people are getting divorced, example, Kim Kardashian's 72 day marriage. Shouldn't we, as individuals, value each other and those whom we choose to marry?


  2. profile image0
    Indigitalposted 12 years ago

    With more freedom of both divorces and early marriage will come less "respect" for marriage. I don't think this is a new occurrence though, for over 50 years we've lived in this unvalued freedom of marriage and in these 50 years there has been a hefty amount of weird and controversial partnerships. 

    I doubt Kim was in it for the love. Probably money; front-cover mags and advertisement. The latter is connected with money, I know.

    The fact is, whether or not this is right, it shows we're not as we used to be. As you state, some marriages were not good, many wives wanted to leave, find someone more attractive maybe with a more fruitful personality, but they couldn't due to the social attrition of un-married or re-married life.

  3. floating mind profile image69
    floating mindposted 12 years ago

    You have asked two question here.  And I wanted to address them both. 

    First Question:
    Why is it that so many people have a lack of respect for marriage now-a-days?
    Is it a lack of respect for marriage, or more of a desire for individualism.  Unfortunately, I am divorce.  It's something that I thought would never happen to me.  But here I am.  Now I can easily say that it was her fault, but marriage is something that is not an easy think to maintain.  It requires work, honesty, communicating with one another, and the willingness to try to understand (and act upon) what your partners needs, wants, and desires are (to name a few).  And unfortunately, in todays world, to many people fall into the trappings of ... "What am I going to get out of it!"  When you start to think like that in a relationship, I believe that it is the start of the end for that relationship.

    Second Question:
    Shouldn't we, as individuals, value each other and those whom we choose to marry?
    In a word ... YES!  However, we do not live in such a simplistic world where a question like this can be answered with just a simple little word like, yes!  Instead, there are many things in our lives, both at home, and at work, that constantly tug and pull at us that end up impacting our relationships.  If we could just take the time to "smell the roses", things could have the chance to get better.  But only when each of us realizes that marriage is not about me the individual, but is about the us as a couple and the us as a family!

    That's my initial thoughts to your questions.  What do you think?

  4. Nefarious_Misery profile image60
    Nefarious_Miseryposted 12 years ago

    In my opinion it is less about "valuing" your partner and more about fear. In past societies you were FEARFUL of divorce.
    You were seen as tainted or unworthy if your marriage failed. Any future relationship would then be very difficult to find.
    2nd as religion was much more prevalent in our society just a few generations ago, it was considered a hell worthy trespass to get a divorce. As you were bound by God.
    Somewhere along the way our society has lost the fear of what others think of us. And I don't think that's a bad thing in and of itself, but it lessens the significance of how others may judge you after a divorce. Along those same lines we lost our fear in God. People actually believe that God and his rules must change with our changing society. People actually believe that divorce or adultery are so common that they couldn't possibly be hell worthy sins.

    I for one believe in the sanctity of marriage. I have been with my wife for 12 years. I have never cheated; I have never come close to cheating. Sure we've had our rough times, every relationship does, but when both people are committed to making it work regardless the inconvenience to yourself or your ego, just about any problem can be worked out.

  5. ubanichijioke profile image74
    ubanichijiokeposted 12 years ago

    Personally, i'd say that
    people who have
    no value for marriage
    vows lack the proper
    fear of God.

    Many today rush into marriage cos of self aggrandisement, money and material possession or just
    to create a media-hype.
    Many of them lack
    that proper knowledge
    of what it means
    to vow for better
    for worse, till death
    do us path.
    It is just the reasoning of the world!

  6. dashingscorpio profile image80
    dashingscorpioposted 12 years ago

    Staying married for the wrong reasons is just as bad as getting married for the wrong reasons. I'm not sure if marriage was more "sacred" in the past or if (people had lower expectations for happiness) and (less options). Being with someone you "want" to be with is better than staying with someone because you "need" to. More options provides more choices. More choices leads to less patience.
    Women in particular have come a long way in being financially independent. In fact gender roles have changed significantly from when I was growing up. Men are expected to be more helpful around the house and raising children.
    As our "expectations" increase or change for each one another we become more picky. Past generations learned to "make do" or "settle" for what they had.
    Today "settling" is a negative word. People today expect to have things (their way), (be happy most of the time), and look young forever!
    It's no coincidense that plastic surgery is on the rise and AARP membership is on the decline. The more we expect out of life the less likely we will put up with inconveniences.

  7. engelfantasydream profile image60
    engelfantasydreamposted 12 years ago

    some people have no respect to their self too thats why they don't have respect on the sanctity of marriage.i think people in this so called "GADGET TECHIE TIME" don't give importance to values and virtues anymore..and don't have strong relationship to GOD..you my find it cliche or finding it like oh preaching but heck no..it is true..if you accept GOD in your life..you got respect on everything he "CREATED"..some people just find it everything disposable, life,friendship,relationship..their just like changing clothes..and we go far from this so called freaking "FREE WILL" that is why some of us are so messed up..we become so superficial..and about this 72 days of marriage vanessa..this is a hoax..just for money..a lot of people will marry cos of money,security,fame and power..and that is the bitter truth about it..

    people before has simplier life and lasting marriage due to the fact that
    they have strong relationship to GOD
    they are contented with the basic things in life
    and they embrace values,virtues and restriction
    right now...IT'S MY LIFE THING

    and this is what's happenin

  8. brandasaur profile image61
    brandasaurposted 12 years ago

    Some couples don't spare enough time to know each other better. Some of them are impulsive once they feel the "love" they will marry.

    Another factor is also how they are raised in the family. What kind of values their family has? Do they have a good example? Are their parents imposed good values to them?

    How about the society they are in? Showbiz right? So exposed to lots of bad influence.

    Here in our country, there is no divorce, couples can only file for annulment if the relationship gets violent or if the other partner is gay. etc. We value marriage, before a couple marries they make sure they are financially stable, they know each other SUPER well and parents blesses their plan.

  9. carolinemd21 profile image82
    carolinemd21posted 12 years ago

    Kim and Kris obviously have tons of money to throw around. I think marriage and love should be respected a lot more then these two have shown. They are not setting a good example for the youth of America which admire them so greatly.


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