Is marriage natural?

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   hinckles komaposted 14 years ago

   is it natural to be married? please explain why or why not thankz. love all

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      L. Andrew Marrposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      From a physical view point - men are designed to spread seed - so no.
      
      From an emotional view point - we all need that emotional connection with someone - so yes.
      
      Take your pick.

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         hinckles komaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         how long do emotions last before you see another girl and forget your married and have kids no?

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      rfranklin09posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I think it is natural to be married in the biblical point of view. Man, woman, procreation...however it may not suit everyone. Marriage should be natural from beginning to end, going to bed together to waking up in the morning. It should just fit and if not, you can always get a divorce. That is biblical too.

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         hinckles komaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         man is not going to be fine with one woman all his life, they hold them selfs back, if they love and  married but the first chance of another woman.... you understand its not natural for men. my opinion they are forced into it by woman. no?

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            ediggityposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            If you are with a man, do care if he is faithful only to you?

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               hinckles komaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

               me yes, man no, its just not natural for a man he always hunts even next to a woman.

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                  ediggityposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                  I'm afraid this isn't true for all men.  Don't worry, if you already haven't found him, the man who doesn't "hunt" will find you.

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            rfranklin09posted 14 years agoin reply to this

            Interesting point of view...I believe marriage is natural for a man as well as a woman. However both have the choice to hold back or not. I think a man can be fine with one woman all his life.  I have seen it happen.  It's all about what you choose to do.

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               Mishaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

               Not all what you have seen is natural, you know.

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               hinckles komaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

               woman maybe, man will look and if hes approched act then come back to you. love all

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            ralwusposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            You're so right. I am a big cheater, just can't help it. Wanna cheat with me?

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      rebekahELLEposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      natural meaning organic? something that naturally happens and evolves?
      
      probably not, look at the divorce rate.  can it work? sure
      man will never stop looking, the hunt may end, but it's wired within for a man to look.
      
      do you look when you see a great looking guy?  I do.
      marriage is tough, but certainly can work.
      
      koma, everyone is different in their expectations. look at all the different responses, is anyone right or wrong?  no~

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      Mark Knowlesposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Good grief no!
      
      What is "natural," is the strongest male with as large a group of females as he can keep away from all the other males.
      
      That stopped working as soon as we discovered the idea of money. Which means "strongest" became "inherited the most money."
      
      All downhill from there with people like GW Bush becoming President of the US because his family owns banks.

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         prettydarkhorseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         lol, money makes the world go round...

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      Brenda Durhamposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Yes.  Marriage of one man and one woman.
      Couples need each other,  desire each other,  both for companionship as well as sex.
      
      "It is not good for man to be alone".

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   Mishaposted 14 years ago

   No, we are not wired for monogamy biologically.

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   Paradise7posted 14 years ago

   Men aren't but women are.  Women are wired to find the man, make the nest, and put babies in it.  We get away from that, and then go back to it.  Men, I think, always need a new challenge to get excited.  Women need to get comfortable.  Two different strokes rowing the boat.  I'm surprised when people actually do make it work.

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   Justine76posted 14 years ago

   no
   yes
   no
   wait.....what? define your idea of marriage?
   no. i mean...hey, hows it goin' misha?

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   Mishaposted 14 years ago

   You may be interested in this one: http://hubpages.com/hub/LUSTANDLOVE

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      prettydarkhorseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      like Tina Turner song, Whats love got to do with it..........

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   Star Witnessposted 14 years ago

   It might be argued, based on research, that human beings are wired for serial monogamy.  Both men and women.  However, as we are a species that thinks and learns through experience and from what we see around us, we may grow out of this inclination, or reason ourselves out of it, or even--yes, love, ourselves out that inclination.

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   manlypoetrymanposted 14 years ago

   Marriage: For all it's ups and downs...is basically an oath taken between two people. That oath helps to promote trust and faithfulness to that person-stating basically that this person agrees and will be your partner for as long as one of you is still alive. That is a pretty cool thing...in and of itself. Can you achieve this type of life-long bond with out taking an oath...I doubt it...because you didn't take an oath to that person!

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   Jane@CMposted 14 years ago

   No.

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   Anamika Sposted 14 years ago

   I have answered this Questions in a Hub Ten Reasons to get Married http://hubpages.com/hub/Ten-Reasons-for-Getting-Married

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    Valerie Fposted 14 years ago

    Has it occurred to anyone that rationalizing bad behavior within marriage by saying, "Well, men are just wired to this," or "women are just wired to do that," is sexist? Pigeonholing people on the basis of gender much?
    
    At least it's egalitarian to deny that anyone's wired to be faithful, lifelong partners, but still, I wonder if anyone thinks it's natural for men and women to part after their child's no longer an infant has even raised a non-infant child. Raising a kid never has been a one-person job even after infancy.

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       hinckles komaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       yes but its natural marriage is not its forced by society. love all

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    prettydarkhorseposted 14 years ago

    i just thoght that people marry for the reason due to financial security, and emotional security as well and not for biological reason alone(i dont agree with Misha)
    
    Marriage is just a contract, so that somebody will help you pay for everything forever ...hope it will last forever..
    
    women marry because they want protection and they want children too
    
    men marry because they want soembody to share their bills too, share time and have a warm body...for pro creation purposes too.....
    
    society expects everybody to be married......

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    Poppa Bluesposted 14 years ago

    Natural? Yes it's natural to find a mate and produce offspring, it's instinctual. Marriage though is a man made institution that merely serves to document what is natural and apply society's contractual laws to the relationship. That said, sexual adventure like adultery is also quite natural. Studies have found that species that mate for life also engage adultureus relationships!

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       prettydarkhorseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Yes because it is easier to go against the laws of morality and values of society than to just get a divorce, but you can stay in a married relationship and commit adultery....

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          Poppa Bluesposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Don't misunderstand. I'm not attempting to justify adultery on a moral basis. Of course it's unacceptable in our society, and morally wrong.

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             prettydarkhorseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             it is acceptable to other society though, the western world is bounded by exclusivity...mine is the favorite word...mine mine mine alone...

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    Wonder_Womanposted 14 years ago

    Marriage , to me, is publically devoting your love to someone for an eternity. To promise them in front of everyone , to family and god, your devotion, love and commitment. That is suppose to be the biggest action of love…
    But that idea slowly disappeared into something that has evolved into a materialistic project
    An average wedding can cost 25 grand
    The couple is so stressed about pleasing everyone else that they don’t get a chance to enjoy it themselves.
    Then the idea of marriage has also changed, it went from till death do us part to if things go wrong divorce is still an option part.
    Also, once couple gets married things might change. Guy stops paying attention, girl doesn’t want sex, guy isn’t romantic enough, girl is angry all the time.
    Once a couple, married or not, begins to stop caring in a relationship, it will go down hill from there.
    Its not the idea of marriage that is wrong, its how people perceive marriage in their own life that tends to be wrong

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       prettydarkhorseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Peoples emotion change, it is not constant, familiarity bores. marriage will forever be fashionable and people will always remarry because it is related to the concept of property, ownership and contract--marriage is a contract

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          Wonder_Womanposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          well people that think this way shouldn't marry then dont you think?

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             prettydarkhorseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             marriage is what it is...marriage for convenience...all the selfish reasons for marrying....No, you can still marry if you want to...do your best..

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                Wonder_Womanposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                I have been dating with my bf for 5 years and im still on the fence about marriage. its a very important ceremony you want to have with the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. i just hate the Selfish usage and mockery people have made out of marriage, Yet people that have had 4 divorces think gays shouldn’t marry bc its sinful or goes against their religion. Marriage has become a joke

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    andromidaposted 14 years ago

    Its socially natural.

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    torimariposted 14 years ago

    For me, marriage is not natural. I never imagined being a bride. But, then again, for me personally, having a child is not natural in my mind. I don't want children of my own; I'll leave that to my siblings.
    
    For others it is. However, as humans, we have intellect that can, if we try hard, defy instinct. That's what makes us eccentric.
    
    Instinct or what is natural to us is a piss poor excuse for cheating especially for men.
    
    Guys may be wired to spread their seed, but since we are intellectually complex saying it is only natural for men to do this is not a good excuse anymore and hasn't been for centuries.
    
    People have a choice to overcome temptation, have ethics and make decisions. So, as we are evolved creatures I roll my eyes when guys (and women) can't control adulterous behavior in a monogamous relationship like marriage.

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       Mishaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Good luck fighting the nature

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          torimariposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          I'm happy to do so. A human mind is a sad thing to waste.
          
          I thought you were married twice and are now? I'm confuzzled.
          Oh, well.

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             Mishaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             Actually I think you can more efficiently use your mind to determine how you can go along with your nature, rather than against it. But looks like this is only me, or just a handful of other people who think this way. The majority is with you, no doubt.
             
             As for my two marriages, you remember correctly. However, it's a bit more complicated. I had to marry second time for external reasons - it was the only way for me to be able to stay in the same country as my second family. And we do have open relationships.

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    bloodnlatexposted 14 years ago

    I heard a while back that the legal age to get married in Rhode Island is 12.  Who came up with that beside a child molester?

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    tiginbanposted 14 years ago

    Love is natural, marriage not necessarily so. If there is unconditional love in any relationship - it is a wonderful thing (especially in a marriage).

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    myownworldposted 14 years ago

    it's just as unnatural as eating the same flavor of ice cream for the rest of your life! Now why would u want to do that?? (for e.g. imagine.... eating chocolate chip day and night out.....even that will give u indigestion after a while!)

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       bloodnlatexposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       But I REALLY like chocolate chip cookie dough!

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    myownworldposted 14 years ago

    lol...I know...me too...but what about oreo and cookies and cream...and praline and tiramisu...and vanilla brownie....u wouldn't want to be stuck with only ONE of them all your life long now, would u??

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       Valerie Fposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       That's disgusting talking about people as if they were inanimate items intended for your consumption rather than as people. And sex is not like eating ice cream. It is an intimate expression of affection that, particularly since it comes with the potential to result in children, comes with a whole lifetime's worth of risks and responsibilities.

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       bloodnlatexposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Hmmm....How would you feel about a mix-in every now and again?

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    Valerie Fposted 14 years ago

    Something else has occurred to me. If everything animals do is "natural," and we're animals, then marriage is just as natural.

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       Mishaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Depending on what you define as marriage. If life-long commitment, then no. If several years commitment, then yes. And I did not touch on number of wives or husbands.

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          Valerie Fposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          But see, many married couples do stick with the lifelong commitment. Therefore, it is natural.

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             bloodnlatexposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             So Valerie, how do you feel about a three-some?

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             Mishaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             Considering the number of couples that don't, lifelong commitment is at least as unnatural

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    Valerie Fposted 14 years ago

    That would be a violation of the marriage covenant my husband and I, in accordance with our natural desire to remain faithful to each other for life, made with each other.

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       bloodnlatexposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       So is that a NO?  I mean I would hate to force you into anything unnatural...

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    Valerie Fposted 14 years ago

    Which brings me to the next point. Whether marriage is natural or not is nowhere near as important as whether or not it is beneficial.

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    Mishaposted 14 years ago

    Umm, this is definitely an important point, too - but it does not really negate the question about marriage being natural. Because if we force ourselves into something that is not natural for us, it inevitably comes back to bite us at the rear end one way or another, effectively reducing or negating all the benefits we might theoretically have.

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    awareposted 14 years ago

    Lions  do not marry .Fish don't either too .You will never see a Bear dressed as a bride.Or Dogs saying I do.  That's  poetry my friends.LOL

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