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Is marriage natural?

  1. hinckles koma profile image64
    hinckles komaposted 8 years ago

    is it natural to be married? please explain why or why not thankz. love all

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      L. Andrew Marrposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      From a physical view point - men are designed to spread seed - so no.

      From an emotional view point - we all need that emotional connection with someone - so yes.

      Take your pick.

      1. hinckles koma profile image64
        hinckles komaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        how long do emotions last before you see another girl and forget your married and have kids no?

    2. rfranklin09 profile image51
      rfranklin09posted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I think it is natural to be married in the biblical point of view. Man, woman, procreation...however it may not suit everyone. Marriage should be natural from beginning to end, going to bed together to waking up in the morning. It should just fit and if not, you can always get a divorce. That is biblical too.

      1. hinckles koma profile image64
        hinckles komaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        man is not going to be fine with one woman all his life, they hold them selfs back, if they love and  married but the first chance of another woman.... you understand its not natural for men. my opinion they are forced into it by woman. no?

        1. ediggity profile image60
          ediggityposted 8 years agoin reply to this

          If you are with a man, do care if he is faithful only to you?

          1. hinckles koma profile image64
            hinckles komaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

            me yes, man no, its just not natural for a man he always hunts even next to a woman.

            1. ediggity profile image60
              ediggityposted 8 years agoin reply to this

              I'm afraid this isn't true for all men.  Don't worry, if you already haven't found him, the man who doesn't "hunt" will find you.

        2. rfranklin09 profile image51
          rfranklin09posted 8 years agoin reply to this

          Interesting point of view...I believe marriage is natural for a man as well as a woman. However both have the choice to hold back or not. I think a man can be fine with one woman all his life.  I have seen it happen.  It's all about what you choose to do.

          1. Misha profile image77
            Mishaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

            Not all what you have seen is natural, you know. smile

          2. hinckles koma profile image64
            hinckles komaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

            woman maybe, man will look and if hes approched act then come back to you. love all

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          ralwusposted 8 years agoin reply to this

          You're so right. I am a big cheater, just can't help it. Wanna cheat with me? wink

    3. rebekahELLE profile image89
      rebekahELLEposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      natural meaning organic? something that naturally happens and evolves?

      probably not, look at the divorce rate.  can it work? sure
      man will never stop looking, the hunt may end, but it's wired within for a man to look.

      do you look when you see a great looking guy?  I do.
      marriage is tough, but certainly can work.

      koma, everyone is different in their expectations. look at all the different responses, is anyone right or wrong?  no~

    4. Mark Knowles profile image61
      Mark Knowlesposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Good grief no!

      What is "natural," is the strongest male with as large a group of females as he can keep away from all the other males.

      That stopped working as soon as we discovered the idea of money. Which means "strongest" became "inherited the most money."

      All downhill from there with people like GW Bush becoming President of the US because his family owns banks. wink

      1. prettydarkhorse profile image63
        prettydarkhorseposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        lol, money makes the world go round...

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      Brenda Durhamposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Yes.  Marriage of one man and one woman.
      Couples need each other,  desire each other,  both for companionship as well as sex.

      "It is not good for man to be alone".

  2. Misha profile image77
    Mishaposted 8 years ago

    No, we are not wired for monogamy biologically.

  3. Paradise7 profile image84
    Paradise7posted 8 years ago

    Men aren't but women are.  Women are wired to find the man, make the nest, and put babies in it.  We get away from that, and then go back to it.  Men, I think, always need a new challenge to get excited.  Women need to get comfortable.  Two different strokes rowing the boat.  I'm surprised when people actually do make it work.

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    Justine76posted 8 years ago

    no
    yes
    no
    wait.....what? define your idea of marriage?
    no. i mean...hey, hows it goin' misha?

  5. Misha profile image77
    Mishaposted 8 years ago

    You may be interested in this one: http://hubpages.com/hub/LUSTANDLOVE

    1. prettydarkhorse profile image63
      prettydarkhorseposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      like Tina Turner song, Whats love got to do with it..........

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    Star Witnessposted 8 years ago

    It might be argued, based on research, that human beings are wired for serial monogamy.  Both men and women.  However, as we are a species that thinks and learns through experience and from what we see around us, we may grow out of this inclination, or reason ourselves out of it, or even--yes, love, ourselves out that inclination.

  7. manlypoetryman profile image79
    manlypoetrymanposted 8 years ago

    Marriage: For all it's ups and downs...is basically an oath taken between two people. That oath helps to promote trust and faithfulness to that person-stating basically that this person agrees and will be your partner for as long as one of you is still alive. That is a pretty cool thing...in and of itself. Can you achieve this type of life-long bond with out taking an oath...I doubt it...because you didn't take an oath to that person!

  8. Jane@CM profile image59
    Jane@CMposted 8 years ago

    No.

  9. Anamika S profile image47
    Anamika Sposted 8 years ago

    I have answered this Questions in a Hub Ten Reasons to get Married http://hubpages.com/hub/Ten-Reasons-for-Getting-Married

  10. Valerie F profile image61
    Valerie Fposted 8 years ago

    Has it occurred to anyone that rationalizing bad behavior within marriage by saying, "Well, men are just wired to this," or "women are just wired to do that," is sexist? Pigeonholing people on the basis of gender much?

    At least it's egalitarian to deny that anyone's wired to be faithful, lifelong partners, but still, I wonder if anyone thinks it's natural for men and women to part after their child's no longer an infant has even raised a non-infant child. Raising a kid never has been a one-person job even after infancy.

    1. hinckles koma profile image64
      hinckles komaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      yes but its natural marriage is not its forced by society. love all

  11. prettydarkhorse profile image63
    prettydarkhorseposted 8 years ago

    i just thoght that people marry for the reason due to financial security, and emotional security as well and not for biological reason alone(i dont agree with Misha)

    Marriage is just a contract, so that somebody will help you pay for everything forever ...hope it will last forever..

    women marry because they want protection and they want children too

    men marry because they want soembody to share their bills too, share time and have a warm body...for pro creation purposes too.....

    society expects everybody to be married......

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    Poppa Bluesposted 8 years ago

    Natural? Yes it's natural to find a mate and produce offspring, it's instinctual. Marriage though is a man made institution that merely serves to document what is natural and apply society's contractual laws to the relationship. That said, sexual adventure like adultery is also quite natural. Studies have found that species that mate for life also engage adultureus relationships!

    1. prettydarkhorse profile image63
      prettydarkhorseposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Yes because it is easier to go against the laws of morality and values of society than to just get a divorce, but you can stay in a married relationship and commit adultery....

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        Poppa Bluesposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        Don't misunderstand. I'm not attempting to justify adultery on a moral basis. Of course it's unacceptable in our society, and morally wrong.

        1. prettydarkhorse profile image63
          prettydarkhorseposted 8 years agoin reply to this

          it is acceptable to other society though, the western world is bounded by exclusivity...mine is the favorite word...mine mine mine alone...

  13. Wonder_Woman profile image54
    Wonder_Womanposted 8 years ago

    Marriage , to me, is publically devoting your love to someone for an eternity. To promise them in front of everyone , to family and god, your devotion, love and commitment. That is suppose to be the biggest action of love…
    But that idea slowly disappeared into something that has evolved into a materialistic project
    An average wedding can cost 25 grand
    The couple is so stressed about pleasing everyone else that they don’t get a chance to enjoy it themselves.
    Then the idea of marriage has also changed, it went from till death do us part to if things go wrong divorce is still an option part.
    Also, once couple gets married things might change. Guy stops paying attention, girl doesn’t want sex, guy isn’t romantic enough, girl is angry all the time.
    Once a couple, married or not, begins to stop caring in a relationship, it will go down hill from there.
    Its not the idea of marriage that is wrong, its how people perceive marriage in their own life that tends to be wrong

    1. prettydarkhorse profile image63
      prettydarkhorseposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Peoples emotion change, it is not constant, familiarity bores. marriage will forever be fashionable and people will always remarry because it is related to the concept of property, ownership and contract--marriage is a contract

      1. Wonder_Woman profile image54
        Wonder_Womanposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        well people that think this way shouldn't marry then dont you think?

        1. prettydarkhorse profile image63
          prettydarkhorseposted 8 years agoin reply to this

          marriage is what it is...marriage for convenience...all the selfish reasons for marrying....No, you can still marry if you want to...do your best..

          1. Wonder_Woman profile image54
            Wonder_Womanposted 8 years agoin reply to this

            I have been dating with my bf for 5 years and im still on the fence about marriage. its a very important ceremony you want to have with the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. i just hate the Selfish usage and mockery people have made out of marriage, Yet people that have had 4 divorces think gays shouldn’t marry bc its sinful or goes against their religion. Marriage has become a joke

  14. andromida profile image65
    andromidaposted 8 years ago

    Its socially natural.

  15. torimari profile image71
    torimariposted 8 years ago

    For me, marriage is not natural. I never imagined being a bride. But, then again, for me personally, having a child is not natural in my mind. I don't want children of my own; I'll leave that to my siblings.

    For others it is. However, as humans, we have intellect that can, if we try hard, defy instinct. That's what makes us eccentric.

    Instinct or what is natural to us is a piss poor excuse for cheating especially for men.

    Guys may be wired to spread their seed, but since we are intellectually complex saying it is only natural for men to do this is not a good excuse anymore and hasn't been for centuries.

    People have a choice to overcome temptation, have ethics and make decisions. So, as we are evolved creatures I roll my eyes when guys (and women) can't control adulterous behavior in a monogamous relationship like marriage.

    1. Misha profile image77
      Mishaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Good luck fighting the nature smile

      1. torimari profile image71
        torimariposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        I'm happy to do so. smile A human mind is a sad thing to waste.

        I thought you were married twice and are now? I'm confuzzled.
        Oh, well.

        1. Misha profile image77
          Mishaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

          Actually I think you can more efficiently use your mind to determine how you can go along with your nature, rather than against it. But looks like this is only me, or just a handful of other people who think this way. The majority is with you, no doubt. smile

          As for my two marriages, you remember correctly. However, it's a bit more complicated. I had to marry second time for external reasons - it was the only way for me to be able to stay in the same country as my second family. And we do have open relationships. smile

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    bloodnlatexposted 8 years ago

    I heard a while back that the legal age to get married in Rhode Island is 12.  Who came up with that beside a child molester?

  17. tiginban profile image59
    tiginbanposted 8 years ago

    Love is natural, marriage not necessarily so. If there is unconditional love in any relationship - it is a wonderful thing (especially in a marriage).

  18. myownworld profile image80
    myownworldposted 8 years ago

    it's just as unnatural as eating the same flavor of ice cream for the rest of your life! Now why would u want to do that?? (for e.g. imagine.... eating chocolate chip day and night out.....even that will give u indigestion after a while!)

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      bloodnlatexposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      But I REALLY like chocolate chip cookie dough!

  19. myownworld profile image80
    myownworldposted 8 years ago

    lol...I know...me too...but what about oreo and cookies and cream...and praline and tiramisu...and vanilla brownie....u wouldn't want to be stuck with only ONE of them all your life long now, would u??

    1. Valerie F profile image61
      Valerie Fposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      That's disgusting talking about people as if they were inanimate items intended for your consumption rather than as people. And sex is not like eating ice cream. It is an intimate expression of affection that, particularly since it comes with the potential to result in children, comes with a whole lifetime's worth of risks and responsibilities.

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      bloodnlatexposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Hmmm....How would you feel about a mix-in every now and again?

  20. Valerie F profile image61
    Valerie Fposted 8 years ago

    Something else has occurred to me. If everything animals do is "natural," and we're animals, then marriage is just as natural.

    1. Misha profile image77
      Mishaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Depending on what you define as marriage. If life-long commitment, then no. If several years commitment, then yes. And I did not touch on number of wives or husbands. smile

      1. Valerie F profile image61
        Valerie Fposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        But see, many married couples do stick with the lifelong commitment. Therefore, it is natural.

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          bloodnlatexposted 8 years agoin reply to this

          So Valerie, how do you feel about a three-some?

        2. Misha profile image77
          Mishaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

          Considering the number of couples that don't, lifelong commitment is at least as unnatural smile

  21. Valerie F profile image61
    Valerie Fposted 8 years ago

    That would be a violation of the marriage covenant my husband and I, in accordance with our natural desire to remain faithful to each other for life, made with each other.

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      bloodnlatexposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      So is that a NO?  I mean I would hate to force you into anything unnatural...

  22. Valerie F profile image61
    Valerie Fposted 8 years ago

    Which brings me to the next point. Whether marriage is natural or not is nowhere near as important as whether or not it is beneficial.

  23. Misha profile image77
    Mishaposted 8 years ago

    Umm, this is definitely an important point, too - but it does not really negate the question about marriage being natural. Because if we force ourselves into something that is not natural for us, it inevitably comes back to bite us at the rear end one way or another, effectively reducing or negating all the benefits we might theoretically have. smile

  24. aware profile image70
    awareposted 8 years ago

    Lions  do not marry .Fish don't either too .You will never see a Bear dressed as a bride.Or Dogs saying I do.  That's  poetry my friends.LOL

 
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