What do you think of a 40 year old woman who has never been married?
Is there something wrong with her? And if a man is 40, single, and never married, is there something wrong with him?
Of course not. People can choose whether or not they wish to be in a committed relationship, be that marriage or something else. It's not for everyone.
I'm 55, and have never been married, and have never wanted to be. There's nothing "wrong" with me. I simply prefer to live alone. I find cohabitation intrusive and annoying.
Of course there's nothing wrong with them. Some people don't believe in marriage and just because you've never been married, that doesn't necessarily mean that you've never been in a committed relationship or that you don't have children.
I don't think so ma'am. It's anyone's personal choice whether he/she wants to be alone or married. May be he/she has got some bitter experience in early life and knows the pain! Come on, let them be alone.
NOTHING WRONG AT ALL. To believe such is old-fashioned thinking. There is nothing wrong with a person who is 40 and over who has never married. Marriage isn't for everyone. Single people lead happy, fulfilled lives.
There are people who marry who shouldn't be married in the first place. Many people marry to be socially acceptable & gain social approval from their parents, family, friends, & associates. Others marry to merely be in a relationship......any relationship. Only a few marry for love. This is highly evidence as the divorce rate is 50%. If more people realize that marriage isn't for everyone and that being single is a legitimate lifestyle, there would be LESS divorces.
A 40 year old woman OR man who has "never been married," doesn't strike me as odd, unusual nor having any reason to think there's something "wrong" with them. In fact, under the current statistics, it would seem they have superb foresight and timing in life's decision-making.
Take a GOOD look around. The vast majority of men & women seem to be deciding they choose to be single, AFTER they've married!......Peace, Paula
There is EVERYTHING wrong with her! At that age, she should have been married at least 4 times, destroyed two homes, and on her way to marriage #5, like Elizabeth Taylor! Hey - she's one of the most beautiful women who ever lived, so she serves as an excellent role model, right?
Actually, the reason you're seeing so many women - and men - who shy away from marriage is because they come from broken homes, and are determined not to repeat the mistakes their parents made. Check out Cheryl Crane, daughter of Lana Turner (who married and divorced 7 times), and what that drove her to do.
I'd like to say "it's all good and "it's his or her choice," because sometimes it really is, but the people I've met who have never married by age 40 are usually pretty unrealistic about what constitutes a normal, healthy relationship. Generally, I have found that their standards are so specific and narrow that there is no way anyone could be "good enough" to suit their demanding tastes. A lot of this stems from basic insecurity, i.e., not feeling as as desirable as they would like to be. Sometimes they have a fear of intimacy for various reasons pertaining to childhood trauma. Sometimes, they just don't want to "share." Frankly, I don't like dating men over 40 who have never been married. I find them too inflexible.
That being said, if a woman was married before 40 and is now happily single, that's awesome. She's already been there and now she's ready for something different. As for the "older" men..... usually, they are just tired of the "drama" and they just want to live alone and have easy sex without the responsibility that goes with it. Sorry, this isn't a "nice" answer, but that doesn't make it any less true.
Marriage is a lifestyle choice! (It's not a requirement)
There's nothing "wrong" with being single for life.
Having said that if the woman is (unhappy) being single then she obviously can explore the reasons why she hasn't gotten married.
In a world with over 7 Billion people; finding a spouse isn't the most challenging thing to accomplish these days.
Many people have been married two, three or more times!
Lastly 40 is "the new 30".
Seriously it's not uncommon for people to walk down the aisle in their 50s and beyond. Life doesn't end at 40. Thank God!
Great answer as usual. Glad to have you back, you were sorely missed!
You're the second person to notice my absence.
I appreciate the welcome back.
I noticed your absence too. I like your answers.
I noticed your absence to, DashingScorpio. Welcome back.
Thanks Lolita and Yoleen!
Have a great weekend!
Nothing wrong with them. I think they are smart enough not to use a piece of paper to try and hold them together.
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