When was the last time you cried?

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   Ellana317posted 12 years ago

   When was the last time you cried?
   
   I was talking to a gentleman yesterday and I posed this question.  He could not even remember the last time he'd shed a tear.  If you are one of those people who rarely cries, even in the midst of pain, what do you use as an outlet? 
   
   

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   MickSposted 12 years ago

   When I was 5 in the summer of 1953.  I grazed my knee after crashing around a bend on my tri-cycle.  I use the outlet not one tear serves any purpose in resolving the problem.

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      Ellana317posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Wow... that is a lonnnnnnnnnng time to go without crying.  You are much better than I am.  LOL... :-)

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      Nellieannaposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Tears aren't designed to solve problems.  You have brains for that.  Tears are to relieve pressure, which brains tend to generate. Then after tears, if problem still persists, try sweat! It's designed for the task, along with brains.

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   iwriteforyouposted 12 years ago

   I can't remember the last time I did cry but I can definitely recall that I was on the verge of tears when my girlfriend asked me to take her to the cinema to watch 'Sex and the City' !!.

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      Ellana317posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I am officially Rolling On The Floor Laughing.  Hilarious!

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      Nellieannaposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Tears of sadness or of joy?

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   EuroCafeAuLaitposted 12 years ago

   When? My son is here so I asked him to answer.  He said about a month ago.  Why?  He forgot.  Oh well. 

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      Ellana317posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      LOL... I guess it wasn't too devastating then.  I bet just about every woman remembers.

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      EuroCafeAuLaitposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      For myself, I didn't cry for a long time until I saw the movie E.T. That little extraterrestrial got to me,  I just cried my eyes out during the whole movie!  Nowadays, I cry occasionally but I'm no  longer "on strike", if it happens, let them flow.

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      Ellana317posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I agree... Same here.  Sidenote: I find it hilarious that you cried during ET.  It was definitely a good movie though.

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   fostermomposted 12 years ago

   The last time I cried was when I thought I had said to much and wrecked a friendship.

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      Ellana317posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      That's understandable.  Good thing you only "thought" this and it wasn't reality.  :-)

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   LauraGTposted 12 years ago

   A few days ago... a friend lost her baby.  She gave birth at 7 months; the baby lived for only 5 minutes.
   
   I used to cry very rarely. I think with 2 older brothers, I learned not to. In 5th grade a friend was shocked when she saw me crying.  While I still don't cry at the drop of a hat, I do cry much more frequently than I used to - perhaps once/month when I hear sad news, usually related to a child. 
   
   I think our culture still looks down on crying, especially among men. People still see it as a sign of weakness.  It's sad, really, since crying is only a sign of being human. And, it can be a big outlet for helping deal with pain, as you suggest.

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      Ellana317posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Awww... I'll say a prayer for your friend.  The love of my life passed away unexpectedly while we were in college.  After that, it was like the flood gates opened.  I'm much more of an emotional person now.  LOL... It doesn't bother me though. :-)

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      Nellieannaposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Aw - how sad.  Hope your friend has recovered. 
      Shedding tears is a natural response.  Stuffing it seems sad enough to make me cry!

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      breathe2travelposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I am sorry to hear about your friend's loss.

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   padmendraposted 12 years ago

   It was the year 2002 when I lost my father.  When he was admitted in the Hospital, I  went to meet him, I was happy that he was responding to the treatment. After some time I left the hospital. But unfortunately when I was on my way back to Delhi, I was informed by the Hospital people that my father had expired. It was a very painful moment for me  which made me to cry . That was my life's second greatest setback after death of my beloved mother.

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      Nellieannaposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      You have my deepest empathy padmendra.  Hope you're doing well now.  I lost my parents in the 1970s and they're still 'with me'.  I've just recently lost my last sibling, a sister who was 92.  I'm all who's here now.

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   Nellieannaposted 12 years ago

   This morning when I read a touching story.  I didn't cry often till my beloved George died in  2008.  In fact, I suffered from 'dry eye'.  Not since then, though my tears are not negative grief or sadness - just outpouring of feeling for empathy, remembrance and lovely poignant things.  At 80, I've experienced many sad and trying things.  I see them differently - more like LIFE doing its thing and allowing us to participate!  I like to participate with both feet and my heart -- thought being aware of how few things are fatal or that can't be improved by a bit of time and a lot of attitude!!

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   trusouldjposted 12 years ago

   A couple of months ago when I finally saw the finale episode of Gilmore Girls.  My outlet is writing, just the right CD or a fudge sundae from McDonald's ... Seriously.

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      Ellana317posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      A fudge sundae huh???  I guess we all need some type of outlet.  LOL... :-)

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      Moon Daisyposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I love fudge sundae.  The McDonald's here don't do them any more so sad!  And I love Gilmore Girls.  I have cried many a time watching those episodes.

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    SportsBetterposted 12 years ago

    Today, when I read your question.  Brought back some bad memories.

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       Ellana317posted 12 years agoin reply to this

       Awwww... Sorry to hear that but I hope that it was therapeutic for you as well.

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    Rehana Stormmeposted 12 years ago

    Just this afternoon, when I laughed so hard, I cried tears of joy!

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       Ellana317posted 12 years agoin reply to this

       That's priceless and it seems as if thsoe moments are few and far in between.

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       Nellieannaposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       Oh, Rehana - I love that - I do that too!!

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       breathe2travelposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       Awesome. Boo to the down vote, though!  Up, up, up! What a great reason for tears!

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    tsmogposted 12 years ago

    I just wiped a tear at a poem I read. Regarding other outlets there are some that are odd, some that are festive and some of frustration. When a lad maybe near my teens I had a younger friend not yet a teen, when ever he wanted to cry a funny thing occurred - frustration. That frustration led to mixed emotions and anger would soon be visited. Being young and learning of emotions he understood anger seeing examples of all the adults, so instead of crying maybe a fight with another became an outlet.
    
    Mimicking is a form of learning. When younger many learn through this method. Things are heard while growing up - big boys don't cry, are you a little girl, only girls cry, or be a little man. Misunderstanding may ensue. Other outlets are discovered, which are more palatable to social conditioning. Those are learned through rewards and penalties - classical conditioning and operant conditioning mixed up sometimes.
    
    So now you know a bit why chick flicks are taboo to some men. They want to cry and that outlet they learned is not offered in the theater. Maybe better at home with some popcorn. Watch how fast the bowl is emptied or the drink goes dry. Anxiety just may be forming leading to a cry, yet a socially acceptable outlet learned from various forms of learning may just be the answer. There he goes t the bathroom again. Did the water run and he washed his face?

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       Nellieannaposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       Many of living's 'flows' are blocked by custom; parts of bodies, emotions, hearts & souls get severed from the source. Results vary from kidney problems to bound-up psyches to emotional deprivation. Anger is permitted so it takes over the slack.

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    epigrammanposted 12 years ago

    ....I cry all of the time ......lake erie time ontario canada 1:50pm   I cry at how some people treat me with disrespect and talk down to me and don't take me seriously.

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       Ellana317posted 12 years agoin reply to this

       You just have to learn to fly above the insults and continue to keep your head held high...in spite of.  :-)

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       trusouldjposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       I can understand how you feel E.  Just remember that you were created for a purpose and no one can do what you do and how you do it.  It takes a mixture of different kinds of people to make the world interesting.

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    breathe2travelposted 12 years ago

    Two days ago - as in July 14, 2012. I was sad and frustrated about my children's constant fighting & disobedience. For details, visit my hub, "Cultivating the Art of Family".  Good question.

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       Ellana317posted 12 years agoin reply to this

       Words can not express how much I understand this type of frustration...  Keep your head up an continue to take it one day at a time.  :-)

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    Free2writ3posted 12 years ago

    The last time I cried was about 8 months ago. I lost someone dear to me and it was painful

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       Ellana317posted 12 years agoin reply to this

       I know the feeling...

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    Frank Atanacioposted 12 years ago

    yeah..  it had to be December 2003  when I lost my younger brother..  yep..

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       Ellana317posted 12 years agoin reply to this

       Well, I hope that the memory of him brings a smile to your face every now and then.

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    Naomi Rose Weltyposted 12 years ago

    I'm not one of those people at all. I'm afraid they don't have an outlet and the unshed tears poison their bodies (did you know tears release toxins?). The last time I cried was when my boss, who was leaving the job, gave me not ony flowers and a thank you card, but a generous check drawn on her personal account. I was so moved by her appreciation! This was just a few days ago. Actually, I don't know that happy tears shed toxins, but they do help with overwhelming emotion just the same.

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       Ellana317posted 12 years agoin reply to this

       Good for you... Such genuine appreciation is rare.

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    ErinEliseposted 12 years ago

    The last time I cried was about three weeks ago when my little 5 pound papillon dog slipped into an irrigation canal.  I jumped in after her and got her out of the cold (probably about 45 degrees), swift moving water, but then I couldn't get myself out -- I couldn't pull myself up over the edge.   My children were with me and they started to yell for cars to stop, but people kept passing.  Finally, a van came along with these two ladies and, seeing the children with no parent, they immediately stopped.  They ran over to pull me out of the water just as my legs were starting to become fatigued.  Since I had to be pulled out, my legs got all scraped up and I was bleeding and cold.  They walked us to their van, doctored me up and stayed there with us for a bit.  I started crying as soon as I got pulled out of the water and I think I cried all the way home, which was about 45 minutes to an hour drive.

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       Nellieannaposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       Oh, dear, ErinElise!  What an awful experience!  I'm glad you're OK now!  That was definitely a cause to cry - for relief and all kinds of emotions.  And your doggie was safe.  Ah!

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    Moon Daisyposted 12 years ago

    Probably a few days ago, due to a family member getting ill.  I cry quite easily, and don't understand people who hardly cry at all.

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       Nellieannaposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       That is being  tender - hearted!  How serious was the illness?

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    D Shannahanposted 12 years ago

    when i made the horrible mistake of putting a large dab of Dave's Insanity on a bite of pizza.

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       Nellieannaposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       Was it the tummy ache that did it? ;-)  Or were you sympathizing with poor Dave?  Think how bad it must have made him feel!

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    yols-aposted 12 years ago

    You ever stop to think that people glory in your pain, they want you to cry so that they feel as if they are in control of your life? Have ever given the thought that some people expect the same outcome for similar circumstances you experience perhaps in a different location and they constantly come at you to break you down. Mind you however through my devotions I had a beautiful time to cry and release just how I felt to God 2 months ago AMAZING.

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    stclairjackposted 12 years ago

    i cry very rarely,.... those in my life know that if it has resulted in tears its katy bar the door, S**T has gone crooked,...... my outlet is laughter,.... i like to make myself and others laugh,.... laughter is far and away prefered to tears,.... at least for me anyhow.

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    msorenssonposted 12 years ago

    The other night............................

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    JThomp42posted 12 years ago

    Yesterday morning. There are triggers that make me think about my Older Brother that passed that just really get to me. No, I'm not ashamed to admit it's okay for a grown Man to cry. I'm comfortable enough with my masculinity. But, I do always cry alone. Why ruin someone else's day?

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    jellygatorposted 12 years ago

    It's embarrassing how often I shed tears! A simple thank you, the Star Spangled Banner, or every episode of Undercover boss...
    
    I wasn't always this way. I think I stopped crying altogether from the age of about 11 until my mid-20s, after I had children.
    
    This recent development of crying over everything that creates a feeling of empathy is alarming, though. It started after I lost my dad and grandma within a couple months of each other, even though both were better off and out of pain from their cancers.
    
    At least my family gets a laugh from it, because I sure feel like something is wrong these days.

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    brittvan22posted 12 years ago

    5 minutes ago my life flashed before my eyes, I was trying to play Mechanic and got shocked. I am not Miss fix it any longer, I renounce my throne! (in my Eddie Murphy from Coming to America voice), "I Renounce my Throne!"

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    paulynice roldensposted 12 years ago

    This represent the last time I cried. It is about when I tempted to kill myself for a girl whom I love while that girl loved me too and was trying to analyze me before he gave me her heart. Click on this link to read that story and your day is going to be great....http://paulyniceroldens.hubpages.com/hub/Think-before-You-Actroldenspaulynice

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    brakel2posted 12 years ago

    I cry , mostly when I am not breathing properly and cry to make it better.  Our house is always stuffy, and i have breathing problems. I also cry over movies, sad things, happy things. It is a good outlet.

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    romariposted 12 years ago

    I just cried yesterday. I miss my mom.. and I still miss her now and I wanted to rewind the times when she was alive and should have spent more time with her..

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    mandarmk9posted 12 years ago

    I last cried on the 23rd of June 2011!
    It was the day I was informed about my best friend's death in an accident. (It happened on the 22nd) I was like the most distorted person on earth.
    The answer may be wrong, 'cause I am crying now. I still miss him a lot.
    Well, I use poetry as an outlet of each emotion.
    Mandar

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    ExpressFreeposted 12 years ago

    Just today after watching one of the best Korean drama series I have ever seen.  The story was so nice from beginning to end that it made me cry....

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    iharshitaposted 12 years ago

    Just Yesterday... Happened to listen to some of the heart touching stories.
    
    I cry very easily... In fact there were the times in my life when I cried almost everyday! Very sensitive in fact!

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    Simba73posted 12 years ago

    I have cried very rarely in my life even at funerals of very close family and for a long time was worried that I could not express myself that way, But recently my wife (who had/has a severe drink problem and a history of mental illness ran off with my six year old child, and the fear for my daughters welfare and worry for what she may be going through, joined with the feeling of hopelessness as I did not know where they were or what could be happening broke me to the point were I did not sleep for days and could not cry myself to sleep as the weeping was so severe.
    I now have gained access through the courts and my daughter is sleeping on the sofa next to me right this minute, but the story is far from over and there is a hopeless case to fight to get full custody, to get through this terrible time I have turned to writing poetry to help unload my anguish, I have posted many on my hub page profile and it has helped a lot.
    And i will keep writing from now on as I want my daughter to know and remember how much I love her and have and always will fight for her happiness and safety.
    Sorry Guys went on a bit there, but yes that is the last time I have cried.
    From a man who has hardly shed a tear in his life
    Simba

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