How do you deal with being treated unfairly?

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   midget38posted 11 years ago

   How do you deal with being treated unfairly?
   
   We can encounter unfairness in many ways. What are our strategies of dealing with it?

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   Daniel Akitaposted 11 years ago

   It makes me hate everything. But one needs to be careful, because it may lead to self destruction.

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      abbykorinneleeposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Hate is a destructive emotion and can eat away at you...It is a good thing you are aware of that.

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   Jordanwalker39posted 11 years ago

   I get even and retaliate! The best retaliation though is to live well. When being treated unfairly deal with I try to deal with it in such a way that others and myself see the wrongful situation and know that I am dealing with it on the best terms possible.

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   Carole Anzollettiposted 11 years ago

   I believe unfairness is a judgement upon ourselves. Obviously there will be times when outright unfairness is in play via discrimination for one reason or another. Other times we are victims to our own perceptions of the definition of unfairness.
   ... read more

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      midget38posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Read and commented! Thanks for the great write, Carole!!

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   karthikkashposted 11 years ago

   I usually keep that person close to me and make sure that he/she sees me doing things better.. I do things in a nice way so that the person should feel guilty about what they did.

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      vonda g nelsonposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      well why waste time proving something 2 someone that doesn' t like u and would rather see u fail.  Folk that behave in this manner tend 2 do so because they know that u wont fail.  Need 2 prove anything 2 someone of this irrelevant stature is a waste

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      karthikkashposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Vonda, true in a way That's why when I feel that it is not worth it, I just ignore them and move on.. I keep only those who hurt me badly near me (apart from people close to me).

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   Carole Anzollettiposted 11 years ago

   oops I didn't know the hub would post in this thread, so there it is up there

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      midget38posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for sharing the hub, Carole!

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   momsterposted 11 years ago

   Well, sadly to say as of a few weeks ago, I got fired for saying something about the treatment of my supervisor.  My supervisors, higher up boss said I did not fit into their team and they were letting me go. I had previously mentioned to this person that my supervisor seemed to be treating us other employees like little kids. He would act like we did not know things about our job and pretty much manage us like a parent. I was hired on because of my experience and was limited in my job by my supervisor. I was offended and I said something, Well, not a good idea. But hey, if that is how they consider running the company as professional, I do not want to see mature professional.
   But normally I will look to see what is unfair before I open my mouth.No one said life was fair.

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   padmendraposted 11 years ago

   People usually after achieving few things in life forget the way they should treat others specially at work place.  This kind of people are usually found. .However not being disheartened you need to bring along all your talent at one place and prove yourself in front of others so that the person who treated you unfairly gets a good lesson.It is always better to keep silence and find your way and respect through action.

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   Beata Stasakposted 11 years ago

   I don't know if this hub answers your question completely, but it is everything I can say on this topic:)
   
   http://beatastasak.hubpages.com/hub/Wha … o-hurt-you

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    oknoposted 11 years ago

    To err is human to forgive is divine. This has been my propelling philosophy.

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    abbykorinneleeposted 11 years ago

    Depends on the situation.  If it is at work, I request a meeting with my direct chain of command so to speak so as to not ruffle feathers and go the channel until I have some resolution to my situation.  If it still doesn't change, I have had to quit my job because of it.  If it is with friends, I have learned, through a lot of losing friends from how I used to handle myself, to step back and not approach them about it until I was logical and calm..and discuss it in a non-accusatory way...and if it didn't change I would walk away from the friendship.  With my family, especially my sister, I had to end up not responding to it and pulling back on the relationship because it fueled the fire if I spoke up and I didn't desearve to have to take it either so my sister and I don't speak until she can be a better person and treat me right...in relationships I tend to handle it the worst and do a lof of yelling.  If its in school I talk to my professors as an intelligent and openminded individual.  In almost all cases I approach the source of the problem and try to find a solution and if not I calmly disengage.

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    liesl5858posted 9 years ago

    I don't treat others unfairly and so I don't expect others to treat me unfairly but if they do, I will stand up for myself. I used to just walk away from it before when someone treats me unfairly but this time I don't let it go as long as I am in the right. People will carry on treating me like dirt if I just keep quiet. I was once treated badly by a supervisor at work and I stood up to him. Now he thinks twice before he will do it again. Others were afraid to say anything but I am not. I don't like people in position treating those people below them like shit because without them they are nothing.

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