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Do you believe divorced men remarry quicker than divorced women? If so, Why do y

  1. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 5 years ago

    Do you believe divorced men remarry quicker than divorced women? If so, Why do you think that is?

    In a recent Huffington Post article: Why Divorced Men Are Quick to Marry Again, writer Vicki Larson stated more men say "I do" again after divorce. and they're quicker to say it, too, according to the recent Census report "Marital Events of Americans: 2009."
    One person she interviewed stated: “One of the reasons why marriage seems unappealing (to women) is that the sacrifices of marriage are many, and the benefits increasingly few. Do you believe (divorced women) become disillusioned with marriage? Do divorced men see marriage as having great benefits after having done it the first time?


  2. MickS profile image70
    MickSposted 5 years ago

    Perhaps they are gluttons for punishment................................

  3. Rosana Modugno profile image83
    Rosana Modugnoposted 5 years ago

    I think it's because men are more codependent than women, want to be taken care of, and more afraid of living and dying alone.  Women seem to be more independent because we are nurturers, we are the moms and caregivers.  And now more than ever, women are in a higher financial status than ever before, so we really can do fine on our own.

    1. MickS profile image70
      MickSposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Until you want someone to do the 'guy thing', on the car etc.

    2. Rosana Modugno profile image83
      Rosana Modugnoposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Not here.  I learned quickly how to do the "guy thing" when I divorced "the guy".  lol

    3. MickS profile image70
      MickSposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Ah, but the question is about generalities, stereotypes, not individuals, that is why it is asked in the plural.

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    SandCastlesposted 5 years ago

    I don't know if men marry quicker but I think some men believe that second marriages are better. In the sit-com, "til death", there is an episode called, "Second Marriage Guy". Karl, the french teacher, tells Eddie and Jeff how much better his second marriage is because he made list of everything he wanted before he got married to his second wife Stephanie. The show depicts Karl's second wife as a laid back,hip lady that basically lets Karl do whatever he wants. Eddie and Jeff become envious of Karl and make their own lists.

    In reality, second marriages can be worse for men, especially if they marry on the rebound. Sometimes they put the second lady on a pedestal and think she'll be the answers to his prayers only to be disappointed again. Some con artist women want to 'catch' a man like a fish and will exploit his vulnerability so they will act like the 'ideal' woman. They will be extra sexual only to turn cold after the marriage. This happens to women too obviously. If something seems to good to be true it probably is too good to be true.

    Relationships are hard work.

  5. indiegamer profile image59
    indiegamerposted 5 years ago

    I believe that this situation all relates to the male mind and how men and women work in a more scientific approach. I read once that men's minds apparently think that they shouldn't just be with one person , and instead should be with as many people as possible. Where as woman on the other hand are meant to think that they need to be with one man who is suitable to look after them.
    Again this is some thing that i have read in another article , and personally i think in a more modern approach and that women are more than capable to look after themselves.   

    Though little side fact: " only in the past one hundred years have people married for love" .......

  6. cat on a soapbox profile image97
    cat on a soapboxposted 5 years ago

    I frankly think men want to be taken care of. Nobody really wants to have to go back to working the club/bar scene for sex. Really??

  7. dailytop10 profile image92
    dailytop10posted 5 years ago

    the sad truth is..most men are eager about marriage at first but eventually loses their grip in the long run..which is contrary to most woman who treasure marriage the longer it gets....the issue here is contentment..and men are simply searching for a woman who can take care of them and provide all their needs

    1. dashingscorpio profile image88
      dashingscorpioposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      "most men are (eager) about marriage at first"? There are lots of women that would disagree with you on that one! lol! In fact there are a ton of books designed to help women (get men to) the altar. :-)

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    NJmanposted 4 years ago

    Here is the answer nobody want to admit, but sooooo true.

    With so many women tapping into a guy's wallet for years after the marriage ends (divorce), of course they are in no rush to remarry.  The ATM machine shuts down.  They happily collect alimony, date, go have fun on his dime and then when alimony winds down she looks for her next payday.  That is why fewer women than men remarry after 5 years.  I bet after about 10 years the numbers are more even.  Alimony has stopped and now they need another wallet to marry.

  9. DDE profile image25
    DDEposted 4 years ago

    I know this for sure and have seen it happen most men choose to marry soon after the divorce of a first marriage. They feel the need to move on and appreciate their  second marriage more than they did in their first marriage. Men  don't want to be alone.

    1. dashingscorpio profile image88
      dashingscorpioposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Very true. A lot of men were reluctant to get married the first time but afterwards they found it to be nice to have someone taking care of them. Many women after divorce are in no hurry to marry again. Marriage wasn't the fairytale they imagined.