What are THE MOST IMPORTANT qualities in a man, ladies? For me, he must be high

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  1. gmwilliams profile image83
    gmwilliamsposted 11 years ago

    What are THE MOST IMPORTANT qualities in a man, ladies?  For me, he must be highly

    intelligent, humane, a good conversationalist, giving, and an EXCELLENT cook!  If he CANNOT COOK, he isn't going to cut it!

  2. lburmaster profile image72
    lburmasterposted 11 years ago

    I agree with the excellent cook. Definately intelligent. Funny and spontaneous but loves being at home. Honestly, I love philosophers because they are always thinking outside of the box. A handy man is always valuable as well, so women don't have to do the dirty work wink And my husband is all of the above.

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      CJ Sledgehammerposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I am happy for you, Iburmaster, and I am glad that you refer to your spouse as your "husband"...instead of the ambiguous "partner". I truly hope your marriage brings you a great deal of satisfaction and joy. :0)

  3. peeples profile image90
    peeplesposted 11 years ago

    Honest, loving, hard working and a good at  communication. All the rest doesn't matter to me. My husband has cooked 3 times in 6 years. It is not important at all to me.

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    Sunnie Dayposted 11 years ago

    A handy man for sure! Handy in the kitchen, handy in the bathroom, handy in the bedroom, handy in the yard, handy in the living room and handy with the car! I think that covers it! smile

    1. gmwilliams profile image83
      gmwilliamsposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I just love your answer, Sunnie!

  5. AngelWings75 profile image60
    AngelWings75posted 11 years ago

    He has to be honest, and good hygiene! He needs to have a job and be respectful!

  6. duffsmom profile image60
    duffsmomposted 11 years ago

    I love a good sense of humor, someone who can laugh with me (not at me--that is a different kind of humor I don't care for.) I want a man who is absolutely loyal, funny, kind and caring. (oh wait, I have one 42 years this week!)

    He can always learn to cook.

  7. tussin profile image57
    tussinposted 11 years ago

    Given the proponderance of women who knowingly date or marry violent men (Rihanna & Chris Brown, Hope Solo & Jerramy Stevens) I think a lot of women like brutish caveman types, though they would never admit it in public because it's so politically incorrrect.

    And just to be "fair" to the other side, a lot of men go gaga over the mentally ill damsel in distress types; it gives them the opportunity to play knight in shining armor.

    I think the weaknesses that people find attractive are fascinating.

    1. tussin profile image57
      tussinposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I'm a dolt.  That sould be preponderance.

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      Garifaliaposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Though you're right, you're wrong in generalising. That's the impression the media give us. In any case both of the types you mentioned are people with disfunctional backgrounds that have unsolved issues. Sometimes weaknesses are attractive-agree.

    3. Anti-Valentine profile image75
      Anti-Valentineposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      "Eventually you love people - friends or lovers - because of their flaws."

  8. edhan profile image37
    edhanposted 11 years ago


    That is the point where my wife and I go through in life. Cooking is not an issue as it can be learned.

    Second it communication. It is the root of most problem as people do not communicate with one another. That leads to worry and suspicion of one another.

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    Garifaliaposted 11 years ago

    We can all write whatever we think is ideal, but the qualities of the person we are next to reflect our own personality. So no matter what we write, we should first reflect on the gents we are married to or date. Those men and their qualities are what we really look for in a man whether we realise it or not. Having said that, for me it has always been: a sense of humour and the quality to move me; usually attractive eyes or expression. Luckily for me gwilliams, my husband is a better cook than myself and more often than not cooks (but it wasn't a quality I had been looking for).

  10. stricktlydating profile image85
    stricktlydatingposted 11 years ago

    I'm not too worried whether he could cook or not, though it would be a bonus smile 
    The most important qualities in a man when it comes to potential relationships for me are:  Sincerity, easy going-happy nature, and someone trustworthy.

  11. James-wolve profile image74
    James-wolveposted 11 years ago

    Good personality. Kindness.
    Warm, deep eyes and an infectious smile.

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      CJ Sledgehammerposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I thought this question was meant for the ladies...James? :0)

  12. Ebonny profile image80
    Ebonnyposted 11 years ago

    Affectionate, patient, honourable, willingness to openly communicate and the wisdom to hold his hands up if he makes a mistake - those will do for starters!

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    orderedchaosposted 11 years ago

    The #1 most important thing for me is that he be honest. I don't understand why it's so hard for some people to tell the truth.

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      CJ Sledgehammerposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Perhaps they have a guilty conscience?

  14. Beata Stasak profile image78
    Beata Stasakposted 11 years ago

    I don't see really difference between men and women, I think both of us look for the same traits important in a long run, if you want your relationship to last: integrity, trust, honesty and humour.....everything else is just a bonus:)

  15. Junaid Ghani profile image70
    Junaid Ghaniposted 11 years ago

    Qualities are dependent on the situations, for example intelligence and conversation fails when we find an aspect of respect. The more intelligence you show to your elders, it would count negatively and it is not seemingly possible. Sometime we have to make a silence on our conservation so that we might get listen others. The most important quality is the need of time and environment. If it fits in that parameter, it should be highly rewarded but if it fails, it should not be called quality, but a non-sense and mislead!

  16. jaydene profile image60
    jaydeneposted 11 years ago

    Being single, I know I do not wish this to be a permanent condition, so I have thought of the qualities I need in a mate.  He will be kind, attractive to me, and honest, yes a high level of honesty is important.   No one is l00 percent honest, we all have a small private part of us, this is okay. I will have high respect for him, as I also know this is important for a man to feel.  I guess I'm just wanting to meet an all around great guy, who is patient and flexible.  He will be proud to be a man, and willing to step up to the plate, and relax  smile

  17. profile image0
    CJ Sledgehammerposted 11 years ago

    I was taught that ALL women secretly crave "bad boys". Am I mistaken?


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