What do you do if your first date that didn't go too well?

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  1. pradiiphira profile image68
    pradiiphiraposted 11 years ago

    What do you do if your first date that didn't go too well?

  2. windygreen profile image60
    windygreenposted 11 years ago

    That depends on how BAD the first date went and why it did not go well.

    Ask yourself questions like:

    Did the date go bad because the other person is someone you do not like or feel is a bad match for you?
    Could the person you went out with been suffering from a "bad day" or "bad moment"? or Were you having a "bad day"?
    Did the date go badly because of circumstances which were out of either persons' control (ie: pouring down rain, horrible traffic, bad service at a venue)?

    I would seriously and honestly consider all of these before deciding if I would try a second date with the same person.   If I decided not to date the person again, I would be honest (gently) and let them know the reason(s) for my decision, rather than just avoid the person.

  3. Masata profile image60
    Masataposted 11 years ago

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  4. CrazedNovelist profile image85
    CrazedNovelistposted 11 years ago

    I totally agree with Windy. If it's so bad that there's no coming back from it, then there's no hope. Sometimes it takes a person a while to get acclimated to the whole idea of a new person to date and learning all of their little quirks. Perhaps it's not all so bad after at least three dates. If you can't get anything positive after that... then you know what to do.

  5. Jeannieinabottle profile image89
    Jeannieinabottleposted 11 years ago

    It depends on why the date did not go well.  If the date went poorly due to some unfortunate circumstances, such as one person arriving late because of traffic or terrible service at the restaurant, I would go on a second date just to see if things improve.  After all, that is probably no one's fault.  If, however, one person continues to arrive late on dates, that is totally different.

    If the date does not go well because the guy is a total creep (just went out with one of those this weekend!), then I tell the guy I am sorry we did not "click" and have a nice day.  I don't have time to deal with people that are rude or creepy or annoying on dates.  My life is stressful enough.

  6. Martina Mercer profile image61
    Martina Mercerposted 11 years ago

    Don't worry, my first date with my husband was so atrocious, I told him I never wanted another. We decided to be just friends, but in weeks once we'd relaxed we were an item and married within 46 days! It turned out he was just VERY nervous on our first date.

  7. jaydawg808 profile image80
    jaydawg808posted 11 years ago

    I remember my first date which didn't go too well. My exit strategy to cut the date shirt was that I got a lucky phone call from my parents who needed something immediately.

  8. duffsmom profile image61
    duffsmomposted 11 years ago

    Evaluate why it went bad, nerves, no chemistry etc.  Then call her/him up and have a good laugh about it and relax. If you want to see the person again, say "are you interested in trying again?"  You can't beat honest open communication.

  9. Entourage_007 profile image57
    Entourage_007posted 11 years ago

    If it were me I would just make some plans to spend time with some of my closest friends, its helps to distract the thoughts of how it went.

  10. dashingscorpio profile image80
    dashingscorpioposted 11 years ago

    It depends on why you feel the date did not go well. Did it have to do with personality differences? Did something beyond your control such as the weather or an emergency disrupt the date? Did you choose a restaruarnt where the service was poor? pick a movie that was a dud? Did you find it difficult to substain a conversation?
    If things did not go well because of something beyond your control then offer a humorous/creative apology asking to take the person out again under different circumstances.
    If it was a matter of you "not clicking" together and you were being your "authentic self" then accept the fact there was no "love connection". You can't manufacture chemistry. It's either there or it's not.
    If on the other hand you were NOT your "natural self" then tell them you heard the date they had with your (doppelganger) didn't go so well and you'd like them to get to know the "real you".

    1. dashingscorpio profile image80
      dashingscorpioposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Just in case you doubt they'd know what a doppelganger is just insert the words (evil twin). :-)

  11. drspaniel profile image82
    drspanielposted 11 years ago

    Try to arrange another, or simply accept that mistakes were made and move on. But definitely do not dawn on the past!

  12. stricktlydating profile image85
    stricktlydatingposted 11 years ago

    Dating is meant to be fun! It should be a light-hearted time to get to know someone.  If a first date didn't go as planned and you're still interested in that person try something different for the next date - Like a walk on the beach - something other than a sit down type date to see if it goes better in a different environment. Sometimes nerves get in the way on the first date!  If it doesn't go any better then at least you've given it a chance... 

    But if you just don't feel like going on another date with that person, don't worry, at least you're out in the dating world and working towards finding your special someone.  Maybe the next person you go on a date with, or the one after that will be more of a match with you.  Enjoy getting to know new people as it's a positive thing to do when you're single!

  13. pradiiphira profile image68
    pradiiphiraposted 11 years ago

    Thank you al for answering my question
    Now i am going to close thi question
    Tganks once again

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