Here's my heart and soul. When you're done ripping them to shreds, can I get all

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   techapposted 12 years ago

   Here's my heart and soul. When you're done ripping them to shreds, can I get all the pieces back ?
   
   Ever felt like this

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   Kierstin Gunsbergposted 12 years ago

   Needless to say, I think we've all felt like this. But hopefully with time we gain wisdom and realize the importance of not giving parts of ourselves away to people who don't truly care about us.

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   Parks McCantsposted 12 years ago

   Sharing one's love can be painful at times. We leave ourself open to vunerability; when we open our feelings to another. Do so without anticipating equal return of that love. As far as your soul goes?
   
   The alternative is "loneliness." Read the word and think about the intended ( literal) meaning of the word. A state of being alone. Sometimes a good thing...
   
   Know that we live on a planet with 7 billion souls. Finding a " soul" mate may take a bit of devine intervention. Remain guardedly open to new relationships. In time you will feel whole again..

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   Beth37posted 12 years ago

   They can break it, but they can't take it. You still have all the pieces, it just needs mending. No one can do this for you... you'll figure out how to do it in time. Im sorry.

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   ketageposted 12 years ago

   The short answer would be yes, we have all had our hearts broken, and over time it has mended itself, for some of us it takes longer depending on how much of ourself we commited to the relationship. But can you honestly say you regret it. I treasure the time I spend with my ex. And even though I felt horrible after we broke up. I do not regret the time spend with her. People grow apart for many reasons and our hearts wishes are beyond our control. So I hold no ill feelings towards her. I wish her all the best and got on with my life. My only piece of advice is, do not be afraid of love.

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   cebutouristspotposted 12 years ago

   I think everybody is put in this situation at one point of their life.   The important thing is how you gather the pieces of your heart so that it is whole when the right one comes along

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   Kristinmcrposted 12 years ago

   It may sound cliche, but time does heal all wounds. Unfortunately, in cases like this it seems to move at a snail's pace. Take care of yourself. Your heart and soul will heal.

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   SidKempposted 12 years ago

   Been there, many times, and Wow! it hurts, in love, in friendship, and as a writer and artist.
   
   Over time, we can heal all our wounds. And we can learn not to let others hurt us, too.
   
   And the heart grows by breaking and healing.
   
   Please keep growing in Love.

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   SEXYLADYDEEposted 12 years ago

   Yes more than once and it taught me a valuable lesson. I wish I had learned and understood it the first time so it didn't have to repeat itself. (The lesson). First I learned forgiveness. A very difficult concept for me when I was younger. I had to learn to forgive them and to forgive myself. I also learned that people can only take from you what you allow them to. You can love without giving every bit of yourself. It's important to hold on to you.  One of my favorite lines In a poem is "someone almost walked off with all my stuff!"  We can't give all our "stuff" away. It's the essence of you.  When you do it can leave you feeling completely destroyed. A very difficult place to recover from. But you can, with time and self love.  Dee

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    Born2care2001posted 12 years ago

    “Sometimes, the only soul that can mend a broken heart is the one that broke it. For they are the ones holding all the pieces.”
    ― Patti Roberts, The Angels Are Here
    
    Our friends here at Hubpages have offered compassionate advice and on a human level I would agree. However, on a soul level please allow me to offer a slightly different possibility.
    Life, is full of paradox. Because you are one aspect of a collective consciousness or "soul" what we give away or withhold is given to or withheld from ourselves in a sense. We are all connected.
    Granted, the emotional pain makes the phenomena of love seem awfully real. But I would suggest that you are still very much in control. Who else feels exactly what you feel, the way you feel it? Who's in there with you?
    The paradox here, in my humble opinion, is that you still possess all the pieces. As in the quote above, you are the only one who can mend the broken heart as you are still holding all of the pieces. They were never really given away. How do I know? Honestly ask yourself this question. If I knew, before I entered this relationship that my heart and soul would be "ripped to shreds," would I give them to you anyway? If the answer is anything but yes, your gift was with condition and therefore you are withholding the pearls so to speak. If the answer is no, what was it you giving away?
    Practically speaking, we all experience this emotional nightmare and my fellow hubsters are correct, time will heal all wounds. This is just the brief opinion of one human. I hope this gives you a different perspective, at least, and some food for thought about the nature of our relationships with other humans and the power we have over the most difficult relationship of all...the one with ourselves!
    Peace be with you!

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