Solo sex is enough for me

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    Mnbhndcrtnposted 14 years ago

    Perhaps it is just me but I'm kind of burned out on the whole sex with a partner thing. I used to be quite active, married twice, and dated a lot before those commitments. But I honestly have no interest in sex with a partner. Too complicated. Trust is something I don't feel when it comes to most people. With sex you have to trust them not to be lying through their teeth and give you some god-awful  disease. It really isn't worth it  anymore. I am by far happier without all the drama of sex and wondering all the things you do when linked to a lover. If I'm horny I take care of it, and enjoy it. I'd rather talk to a lady and have some laughs than have sex. Can anyone relate to this? Trust me if I wanted sex I could get it. It was never difficult for me and I was skillful at pleasing a woman. I just don't want to do it anymore. It was fun, but too much drama for me. As long as I have my children, my camera and my keyboard I'm happy.

    1. rhamson profile image69
      rhamsonposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Well if you can't trust or have an emotional attachment to the one you are having sex with then I think you would be happier on your own.  Getting burned twice in marriage would give anybody the heebeegeebees.

    2. manlypoetryman profile image81
      manlypoetrymanposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Ok...that last this chosen category...definitely qualifies as: TMI !

    3. prettydarkhorse profile image60
      prettydarkhorseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      that is good, you can save a lot of money on women,

      but you need to learn to trust women again, they are all not the same, some arent faithful, it si afr better to make love than not just sex only, if you knwo what I mean,,,

      are you just scared of sex because of STDs and past experiences of unfaithfulness about your partner in the past?

    4. bettynewberry profile image60
      bettynewberryposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I cannot tell a lie......solo sex is fly. But theres nothing better than being taken on a ride with a big throbbing moisture missle thrust deep inside!!

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        Citrus000posted 14 years agoin reply to this

        Naughty...   wink

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    fun2hubposted 14 years ago

    What is solo sex anyway as mentioned in the title??

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      Stevennix2001posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      its basically masturbation that i think he's refferring to

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    ralwusposted 14 years ago

    sex, children, camera? hmmmm

  4. habee profile image91
    habeeposted 14 years ago

    Well, it's better than nothing! But it's always more fun when there are two players.

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      bloodnlatexposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Perhaps someone doesn't play well with others....

      1. habee profile image91
        habeeposted 14 years agoin reply to this

        Good point, Blood.

      2. SoftCornHippo profile image60
        SoftCornHippoposted 14 years agoin reply to this


    2. tantrum profile image60
      tantrumposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      If the players are clean and reliable  lol

      1. Hmrjmr1 profile image69
        Hmrjmr1posted 14 years agoin reply to this

        and ready for lots o practice!! Gotta get back in the groove! smile smile cool

  5. habee profile image91
    habeeposted 14 years ago

    Thanks, Rhamson. I've always wondered how to spell "heebeegeebees."

    1. rhamson profile image69
      rhamsonposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I wasn't sure but I took a shot at it.  Public school education and all that.

  6. BeccaHubbardWoods profile image86
    BeccaHubbardWoodsposted 14 years ago

    It's so not the same though. Sex isn't just for orgasm. It's a merging of the soul, a way to get closer (if you will), a relationship you can enjoy with only that person. When emotions are left out of sex, then it sucks. You need to find that person who gives you butterflies again. That's when sex with a partner is not only fun, it's completely gratifying.

    1. viryabo profile image94
      viryaboposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      In total agreement with you Becca

    2. thevoice profile image61
      thevoiceposted 14 years agoin reply to this

        you hit the sex right on the head

      1. tantrum profile image60
        tantrumposted 14 years agoin reply to this


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    ralwusposted 14 years ago

    I think he is gratified

  8. habee profile image91
    habeeposted 14 years ago

    Becca, I must say I've had my share of great sex without any emotion involved. Sure, it's more emotionally fulfilling with someone you love, but sometimes good ol' monkey lust is hard to beat! Or at least I felt that way when I was younger...

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      ralwusposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I knew I liked you for a good reason. Lust is good enough for a good time.

    2. BeccaHubbardWoods profile image86
      BeccaHubbardWoodsposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      lol monkey lust... lol

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    Poppa Bluesposted 14 years ago

    Sex by yourself isn't sex, it's relief. We've all been burned by those we have trusted, but that is always the chance you take when you allow someone to get close to you and after all, there had to be times when that closeness was well worth the chance! Nothing comes without a price, just as day follows night, there is a light in love to complement the dark side and we need to experience both. One has to know the coldness of darkness to appreciate the warmth of the sun, otherwise it's just another day not to be given another thought, it's to be expected like your next breath or another beat of your heart. which I'm sure we'd all appreciate more if we knew death was imminent. Sure take a break from love. Spend some time in self discovery. There will come a time when you will be ready to try again.

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    bloodnlatexposted 14 years ago

    I guess the one positive of solo sex is that you'll know if your faking it!

  11. Betty Reid profile image61
    Betty Reidposted 14 years ago

    It's better to be alone than to be with the wrong person.

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      cosetteposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      i second that.

  12. SoftCornHippo profile image60
    SoftCornHippoposted 14 years ago

    Ok, don't take this wrong, but, if you just want to do it alone, how come y'all askin US to agree that its ok?  Cuz if you care what we think, then maybe you're worried you might be missin' somethin !  just curious lol

  13. Anath profile image62
    Anathposted 14 years ago

    I enjoy a solo game but I really DO prefer group games smile what can I say... I am a social kitten...

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    Mnbhndcrtnposted 14 years ago

    Thanks for the comments. I'm not scared really, just not interested in a relationship or sex. Yes, I was referring to masturbation.  I thought that was obvious. Anyway, I was just curious if others felt like it isn't worth all the fuss anymore. Been there done that sort of thing.

    For the record none of my ex's gave me any diseases. I was speaking of the dangers of sex in a non committal relationship. It just doesn't have enough appeal to make me chance getting anything, or the whole closeness thing. so overrated.

    Thanks again.

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    AdviceDoctorposted 14 years ago

    Sex is so much more than just intercourse. The definition of sex is two people sharing their love for each other. Is that just intercourse? When you make out, you're having sex. When you hug someone, it's considered as sex, because you're sharing care with another person. Sex isn't JUST intercourse. This is a very common confusion and misunderstanding.

  16. fishtiger58 profile image68
    fishtiger58posted 14 years ago

    I got nothing. To each his own  so to speak. LOL

  17. yoshi97 profile image56
    yoshi97posted 14 years ago

    You might want to wear protection, lest you might have an accident and impregnate yourself. smile

  18. Bovine Currency profile image60
    Bovine Currencyposted 14 years ago

    I can relate to the original post.  I have no desire to play trust right now.  That is how it seems to me, trust is never real it is a guessing game that's all.  Too many friends I know and family have been burnt.  I am lucky, I got married young, definitely wrong woman but now I just think what is the point.  I have probably been over-sexed as it is.  Maybe one day but I think it is normal to question these things.  Blah, anyway, I am so tired.  Just thought I'd put my 2c in.

  19. docrehab profile image60
    docrehabposted 14 years ago

    Well, being happy is not just having sex...If you feel happy in it's ok...Hoping "solo sex" is not

    1. TMMason profile image60
      TMMasonposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Yes it is, or?... they are. lol

      You got rehab for that? LOL

  20. Bill Manning profile image69
    Bill Manningposted 14 years ago

    I've been by myself for about 2 years and,,uh,,, take care of myself every day. But that's just relief, and I'm always thinking of being with a girl.

    Most people want to have sex with a partner because of the erotic thoughts of being with that other person. I want to see those curves, lick that smooth skin, feel that soft body sliding over mine,,, and much more! wink

    So if you don't want to have sex with anyone else, it seems like you have lost your lust for a partner, that longing of touching and being touched. Just plain banging is so little of what the whole sexual experience is all about. smile

  21. sexeducationnow profile image59
    sexeducationnowposted 14 years ago

    good one smile

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    lyricsingrayposted 14 years ago

    Try Three and you'll see
    lol lol lol

  23. blondepoet profile image68
    blondepoetposted 14 years ago

    The only way solo sex is good for me is if you sit on your hand for 10min so when you come to do it, it doesnt feel like your own hand,it does not compare to the real deal by miles.
    Mind you, those sparks have to be flying when there are two of you or you may as well be sitting on your own hand.

  24. alexandriaruthk profile image70
    alexandriaruthkposted 14 years ago

    lest you be hugging and kissing a stone


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