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What causes some men to consider the worth of a woman as to HOW MANY sexual part

  1. gmwilliams profile image87
    gmwilliamsposted 4 years ago

    What causes some men to consider the worth of a woman as to HOW MANY sexual partners she have



  2. Minnetonka Twin profile image88
    Minnetonka Twinposted 4 years ago

    I am sorry but this is a ridiculous question, not to mention I have Never heard any good man think this way. If a man does look at a woman's worth this way, I would run as fast as possible. Very low consciousness view as well as disgusting and immature.

    1. gmwilliams profile image87
      gmwilliamsposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      There ARE some unenlightened, unevolved "men" who believe in that inane premise.They value women who are virgins while demonizing & otherwise ostracizing women who have ANY type of sexual experience. Such "men" subscribe to the madonna/whore comp

    2. Minnetonka Twin profile image88
      Minnetonka Twinposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I apologize~I read into this question wrong. I thought you were saying the more men woman have had, the more a guy likes it. Therefore my rant. There is reverse discrimination on this issue. A guy is seen as cool, a woman a tramp, if many partners.

    3. gmwilliams profile image87
      gmwilliamsposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Sadly among some unevolved "men" such as the case.  I find this totally atavistic.  Consenting adults have THE RIGHT to have as many sexual partners w/o judgement albeit responsible & respectful sexuality.

    4. C.V.Rajan profile image79
      C.V.Rajanposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I agree with you that the phrasing of the question does sound as you have understood.


  3. Moon Daisy profile image84
    Moon Daisyposted 4 years ago

    I'm sorry to say that society and the media causes some men (and women too), to judge a woman in this way. Although it's not just the media of course, I would say that a lot of the major religions also perpetuate this view of a woman's worth.

  4. Insane Mundane profile image60
    Insane Mundaneposted 4 years ago

    I mean, if she is an obvious prostitute that screws half the town, it is fairly obvious why some people would devalue her.  What I don't like, is when just the females get the credit for being whores.  Some people are under the false impression that when guys do this very same thing, it is somehow a manly achievement.  When a female shows a little sexual diversity, it is like "hey, she's a slut."

    1. ChristinS profile image96
      ChristinSposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Yep, definite double standard in play.

  5. GlendaGoodWitch profile image89
    GlendaGoodWitchposted 4 years ago

    I would say that we all want to be important, and when we think that someone we are involved with has done this (relationship/sex act) over and over again, it makes us feel less special.  Think of how you might feel marrying someone who has been married 10 times before.

    Women don't respect men who sleep around a lot any more than men do,  and when they have a guy who has been around too much they tend to feel less secure and view the "special" little things between them as being less special.

    When a man gets involved with a woman who is very discriminating as to who she becomes intimate with he will automatically have more respect for her, and will also have more respect for the intimacy he has with her. Women feel the same way but are more likely to overlook things.

    This trait is entirely normal and there is nothing wrong with it. I see some of the comments here are quick to criticize men for this behavior as being out dated. The more intelligent way to approach this is to understand why these emotions are there.

    When we are a lot more careful and particular about who we are involved with we tend to avoid many of the bad things that repeatedly happen to those who swing, not to mention diseases. This gives both men and women piece of mind when considering a marriage partner.

    Who feels comfortable marrying and then making love to someone who has been in numerous beds before? Think of why that would put a damper on things for you. We also look at those who sleep around a lot as being more likely to cheat due to how lightly they take intimacy.

  6. theclevercat profile image95
    theclevercatposted 4 years ago

    Insecurity. Obviously. I mean, what else could it be? What a ridiculous question.

  7. Kathleen Cochran profile image83
    Kathleen Cochranposted 4 years ago

    This tendency has been around since time immemorial.  It has nothing to do with society, media, or any thing other then human nature, the desire to control, and defining power. Hopefully, most people have evolved beyond it, but unfortunately, some have not.

    1. Kathleen Cochran profile image83
      Kathleen Cochranposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      than - not then

  8. BuffaloGal1960 profile image74
    BuffaloGal1960posted 4 years ago

    I feel there are many factors why men choose to do this.  One is the influence of Hollywood but that is trivial considering parenting flaws. I'm certainly not including all parents in this opinion.

    I mean, a couple has a boy, right?  The boy grows up and the parents have the attitude "boys will be boys" and make all kinds of excuses for their behavior.  His male role models give ataboys for inappropriate sexual behaviors and parents don't have curfews the way they do for their girls.  When a boy tells his father he finally got laid, it's entirely different than when the same is learned of the daughter.

    A couple has a girl.  They do everything they can to protect her reputation as pure. If she comes up pregnant, it's swept under the rug.

    Another factor is there is NO positive role models in the home.

    In my opinion, boys should be taught to respect girls. They are someone's sister, mother, daughter, niece, cousin.  And that includes prostitutes!  They are people too.  They may be in the situation they are in because they were once forced into it and it became a life form.

    1. gmwilliams profile image87
      gmwilliamsposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Insightful answer, males are granted more sexual license than females in many societies.  It is like females are considered to be sexual non-persons.

  9. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 4 years ago

    I think it's the male ego and tradition. A lot of men still believe (they) should have had the most sexual experience in a relationship. Oftentimes if a couple discusses their "number" men tend to inflate theirs and women deflate theirs. The sexual revolution and better birth control methods changed a lot of things.
    Men are also very visual and competitive by nature. Some of them picture their woman doing all the same things she does for him with other guys. They want to believe they are bigger or better than her previous lovers. This is especially true if he knows some of her exes.
    Having said that even porn stars, strippers, hookers, and women famous for their sexuality such as the singer Madonna don't have a problem finding men to date or even marry them. A lot of guys don't care as long as she makes (them) feel special.