How would you know if you are attracted to someone?

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   DDEposted 11 years ago

   How would you know if you are attracted to someone?
   
   Attracted to another even though you are married  the characteristics  of this man is different from your husband and you have grown fond of him seeing him daily makes you most happy he fills a apart of your that your husband is not a part of.

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   dashingscorpioposted 11 years ago

   I believe there are many people who have a list of characteristics for their  "ideal mate". However most people end up marrying those who lack many of those traits. Some call this "settling"  while others call it becoming "realistic" and still others had hoped that with time they could get their mate to "change" or take on those desired traits.
   It's not uncommon to feel attracted to someone that displays those traits that your spouse or significant other lacks. The deciding factor of whether an affair of the mind/heart or body ensues depends on how important those traits really are to us.
   Another major factor is our perception of the current state of our marriage, our relationship or our life in general. If we are not feeling good about things on the home front it would take very little for us to see another person as "a breath of fresh air".
   Sure signs that you are attracted to someone are you think about them often, you fantasize about them, you find yourself dressing to impress them or elicit compliments from them. If this is someone at your job and suddenly you go from saying; "Thank God it's Friday!" to saying: "Thank God it's Monday!" because you can't wait to see them again; it is a sure sign you are attracted to them.
   It's completely normal to be attracted to people other than our spouse. Just becomes one gets married does not mean they go blind or deaf. You buy a new home or car and yet you still can admire the beauty of other homes and cars. However we must avoid doing things that would jeopardize relationships we value and took years to build. Most affairs begin with having "secret friends", saying or doing things with someone we'd never would if our mate were sitting right next to us. We kid ourselves by saying "As long as (this) does not happen then it is innocent." The word (this) is different for everyone. People draw their own lines; flirting, secret lunches together, emails/texts, phone calls, emotional investment, holding hands, kissing, or having sex.

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      DDEposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      You made such good points here and this is so true thanks for taking part in this question

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   JThomp42posted 11 years ago

   Uh oh. Your gut feeling will tell you the truth every time. The butterflies never lie.

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      DDEposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      You are right about the gut feeling  well said

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      JThomp42posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you DDE.

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      DDEposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      ''The butterflies never lie'' thank you

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   prajwalpokharelposted 11 years ago

   Don't know this is a question for a girl but still i am going to answer because i am right now attracted to girl right now...answering only to question
   when i see here there is strange feeling in my stomach(feel like my stomach is dancing), this happens when she calls or even facebook me .... when i imagine her face i feel happy and know i can start a life with her.

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      DDEposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Awesome and tis is my best answer well said thanks for taking part here.

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   ravinderkumarsharposted 10 years ago

   it differ man to man.in my view if any one is attracted with good and nice person their characteristics will hardly change. conversation and view point tell about the affection but most of the people may not be good so every thing is possible. most of the people are selfish and only say yes to yes. we should have to search who is right person.

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   ravinderkumarsharposted 10 years ago

   anyone may love each others what if they do not respect each others, not give the maximum importance or hurt their self confidence without logic and try to degrade there relations cannot remain normal read more

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   ravinderkumarsharposted 10 years ago

   It is not a easy job for male and female to get a partner/life partner of their choice or a perfect one.  most of the books are written on this issue.still we are very much away to solve this problem read more

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   Sammyknowsbestposted 10 years ago

   People fantasize everyday whether married or single. Attraction is just part of human nature, we were not built for monogamy so we have to fight the natural urges we have. You don't necessarily have an outline for whether you are attracted to someone. Every person you see your chemistry scans their facial features and body to see how well they would mesh with you for reproduction. In general you just find yourself thinking about that person more often. Possibly picturing what its like to have sex with them, etc.

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