Would you admit you were wrong if it meant losing face (respect)?
Hypothetical time. Say you made the statement "Johnny stole my apple". To back that up, you say there were several people who witnessed Johhny stealing your apple. Now someone comes along and asks you for the names of the witnesses. You do not provide the names after repeatedly stating that they were there and saw the whole thing. Then someone else comes and gives you video evidence that shows Johhny eating an orange at the time of the supposed apple theft. Do you admit you were wrong? Or avoid answering queries and leave the situation? Which leaves you with more respect in the end?
I think you lose more respect if you continue to lie when you're obviously wrong. You look like an idiot if you stand there saying "nope Johnny definitely stole the apple" when there's video evidence that you're mistaken. If you admit you're wrong youre actually more likely for people to forgive you and less likely to 'lose face'. Just my opinion though.
I would admit that I was wrong. This would probably earn you more respect in the long run. I don't like it when people keep trying to say they are right when then clearly aren't. It makes them look arrogant and like a fool. Just admit when you're wrong - it will have the best possible outcome in the long run.
I find it odd then that the insults start flying after i point out the person in question is being whatever they are being, especially when i quote or point out an instance that proves it. But Im sure thats just the hateful child in me though, right?
I'd admit I was wrong and apologise for my mistake.
I think in the face of irrefutable evidence such as actual proof like videos, a written statement where the person has contradicted themselves etc one will lose a lot if not all respect if one continues to carry on in their statement of truth or correctness.
I've had this recently and have notice my respect for the persons involved has decreased in proportion to how long they continue to go on despite contrary evidence of the things they are saying. IRL even!
The blatant disregard of self inspection baffles me at times. Its one thing if the problem is only between 2 people, but if more than one person is pointing something out, you would think the guilty party would stop and think for a second.
Baffles me also. You'd think they would, and some do, but some don't! It's particularly odd when it's obvious to everyone but the person saying it. Oh well, I have better things to do with my time than worry about them now so I've given up.
Your hypothetical question is more about lying and jumping to conclusions than anything else. Personally I don't like to lie or jump to conclusions, so me in situation like the one described above is VERY unlikely. Even so, I would admit I was wrong because to me respect doesn't matter (especially if you are arguing with that person/they already lost respect for you). Its embarrassing and you feel stupid but its the right thing to do. You can't leave a situation like that because you will lose face and won't have a chance to get it back. If you admit you were wrong and apologize there is chance that the person may forgive you and you actually gain respect (gain face) from it. Admitting you're wrong doesn't have to be a bad thing. Its a human thing. Admitting you're wrong is HARD BUT it is also VERY respectable (in my opinion). It shows you are not hung up on your ego, and that you are reasonable and decent! More people need to do this!
Indeed they do. Sadly I've run into a few people on this site who edit their comments (in the forums) or delete conversations in the Q&A to avoid looking like idiots themselves or in an attempt to make someone look bad. Started taking screenshots
Nothing really, unless said person continually lies about things. I wont be making the same mistake i made with you and being nice when lies and insults are flying around. Helps to reference things better as well
I remember an experience a while back! I commented on a hub, disagreeing respectfully. The author deleted most of my comments and edited her hub to take out all the parts I disagreed with/made her look bad. Talk about pride. She lost face in my book!
Just had that happen 2 days ago. Someone called me an idiot after i called him out on something and said he would leave the comments up for people to see that i was. Oddly enough, he deleted the comments an hour or so later.
I always have more respect for someone if they admit they screwed up and apologize. I think it's a great trait and one that unfortunately a lot of people don't possess. I think being able to reflect and see that you were wrong will only make you smarter. Running away doesn't resolve anything and reflects poorly on the person doing the running.
So yes, I will always try to see when I'm wrong and apologize if I made a misleading statement.
I have had a few people on here accuse me of being a hypocrite. Aside from it being a "Oh I stink? Well you stink more!" kind of thing on their end, I asked them to point out where so we could address it. Never get a response aside from more insults
All I'm saying is that some times people are oblivious to how arrogant and condescending they are. You are not exactly what I'd call polite, or objective. You are constantly belittling others and talking down to them.
And i have asked you in the past to point out where i did so and it was completely unwarranted, rather than me getting insulted first. You have yet to do so, instead you agree with the person who is against me simply because its me. Bravo
Really? You were pretty quick to jump the gun in accusing me of making a guest account just to insult you a few weeks back. Hardly doubt that was an honest mistake, rather you just being biased because it was me.
Mmm, and was this before or after you started gloating at how you got my main account with 200 posts deleted, all because i didnt report you for defaming me right before. Those silly details you keep forgetting to mention are annoying arent they?
JT did you know I made a Hub Pages account when I was still with Bubblews and it stayed inactive for 2 or 3 months? Did you also know I asked Lybrah to stop talking to me months ago, to which she agreed and reneged?
What were those posts about Lybrah? Did they have anything to do with your personality, writing ability, or insulting your audience? Or did it have to do with the gaps in logic in your belief that you were using to condemn and insult people?
I said, several times, that just because I find your reasons for belief to be illogical that it had nothing to do with you as a person. Kinda why I asked you plenty of questions, and look what it led to. Both our accounts gone.
And the winner is ... Jag! Those 2 have had their accounts deleted here at HP! Thank you for standing up to their evil ways. I was so tired of them. Now one of them is back with a new account that sounds like my account! Stargrl - right!
More often than not under this scenario I probably would not make a big deal out of it. In fact I would most likely make a mental note not to leave my apples out when Johnny was around. I've never been one to openly jump to conclusions or make accusations without solid proof. If it's just a "hunch" on my part I'd keep it to myself. However I imagine if I did accuse someone of doing something they did not do I would feel guilty for continuing to insist they did something which I knew they did not. I rather be known as someone who owns up to their mistakes than to be known as a liar.
I would definitely admit I was wrong and be furious at the people who called Johnny out. There is never a reason just to be a jerk just for the sake of it. In fact I may not say nothing at all. Johnny may have been starved and needed that apple more than I.
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