What would you do if you find out your wife is having an affair with your brothe

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   peter565posted 10 years ago

   What would you do if you find out your wife is having an affair with your brother?

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   FatFreddysCatposted 10 years ago

   Kick my wife out and kick my brother's ass.

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   ChristinSposted 10 years ago

   file for divorce and walk out the door and disown a family member.

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      gmwilliamsposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      A+ response, in TOTAL AGREEMENT!

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   JThomp42posted 10 years ago

   Oh wow! I would be devastated. You are not only looking at a divorce; but you are also losing your brother. I cannot imagine how someone's brother could do this. This is just so wrong on so many levels. Definitely enough to turn your world upside down.

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      gmwilliamsposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      You're right, this is beyond criminal!

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      JThomp42posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you gm.

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   gmwilliamsposted 10 years ago

   
   
   The smart thing to do is to COMPLETELY SEVER ties with BOTH.  To do something like having an insidious affair is totally unconscionable behavior.  It is a mortal transgression of the highest order!

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   Billie Kelpinposted 10 years ago

   Excrutiating situation. Whether or not this is a question from personal experience or a hypothetical situation, my answer would be the same.  If no one knows at this point, just calm down and think.  Do a Google search for Dr. Scott Halzman who writes about recovering from infidelity.  This conundrum would be called a Cornelian Dilemma I believe, (a dilemma in which someone is obliged to choose between two courses of action either of which will have a detrimental effect on themselves or on someone near to them.)  I was in an ALMOST similar situation and handled it poorly and lost everything I held dear - most importantly, the psychological health of my daughter. 1 I wish I had NEVER told ANYONE I knew. 2. I wish I could have explored the psychology of what was going on.  I think people who commit such an obviously egregious act against societal norms, against what anyone in most religions would call moral, against all manner of kindness, good sense, and thought of the future - people who would do this are acting out of some deep-seated psychological issue that has little to do with the spouse and not to get all fruedian here, probably has to do with mother-son, daughter-father relationships. I would also guess, playing armchair psychologist, one or both of the people has issues with authority.  So, the offended brother probably has always realized that one or both of these people in his life is a bit "off" in terms of psychological health and has to be the strong, balanced person dealing with the situation.  Why?  Because EVERYONE in this situation is at risk of losing EVERYTHING that is of value.  So counseling by the RIGHT person for the offended brother is a first step.  Many counselors will view my perspective as unhealthy, so you have to find one that feels that there is hope for recovery from this terrible dilemma.  I don't feel this is an unhealthy position because I know what I lost.  Yes, it would have taken years to get over the infidelity and for my husband and me to restore the marriage.  Instead I have NEVER gotten over the loss of my family and the tremendous cost my daughter had to pay is THE sorrow of my life, THE regret. Am I happy now? Mostly  Did I recover? about 80 % Do I wish, after 2 years of trying to get my marriage back, that I had tried one month, two months, three months, a half of year longer, maybe even another year longer?  Yes.

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      Billie Kelpinposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      It's difficult to state this position knowing so many would disagree, but I have to say what I feel in my heart and know for my own life in the hope that another person, another family might fare better than mine did. Thank you All Warm Wishes

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   chaitanyasaivbposted 10 years ago

   It would be better, if we leave our relationship. Because, Its not a right thing, to give her another chance to realize the mistake, she has committed. Even, Breaking up our relation, with our brother, will be advisable. Because, He also had, turned bad.

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