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What would you do if you find out your wife is having an affair with your brothe

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    peter565posted 3 years ago

    What would you do if you find out your wife is having an affair with your brother?

  2. FatFreddysCat profile image100
    FatFreddysCatposted 3 years ago

    Kick my wife out and kick my brother's ass.

  3. ChristinS profile image96
    ChristinSposted 3 years ago

    file for divorce and walk out the door and disown a family member.

    1. gmwilliams profile image85
      gmwilliamsposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      A+ response, in TOTAL AGREEMENT!

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    JThomp42posted 3 years ago

    Oh wow! I would be devastated. You are not only looking at a divorce; but you are also losing your brother. I cannot imagine how someone's brother could do this. This is just so wrong on so many levels. Definitely enough to turn your world upside down.

    1. gmwilliams profile image85
      gmwilliamsposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      You're right, this is beyond criminal!

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      JThomp42posted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you gm.

  5. gmwilliams profile image85
    gmwilliamsposted 3 years ago


    The smart thing to do is to COMPLETELY SEVER ties with BOTH.  To do something like having an insidious affair is totally unconscionable behavior.  It is a mortal transgression of the highest order!

  6. Billie Kelpin profile image87
    Billie Kelpinposted 3 years ago

    Excrutiating situation. Whether or not this is a question from personal experience or a hypothetical situation, my answer would be the same.  If no one knows at this point, just calm down and think.  Do a Google search for Dr. Scott Halzman who writes about recovering from infidelity.  This conundrum would be called a Cornelian Dilemma I believe, (a dilemma in which someone is obliged to choose between two courses of action either of which will have a detrimental effect on themselves or on someone near to them.)  I was in an ALMOST similar situation and handled it poorly and lost everything I held dear - most importantly, the psychological health of my daughter. 1 I wish I had NEVER told ANYONE I knew. 2. I wish I could have explored the psychology of what was going on.  I think people who commit such an obviously egregious act against societal norms, against what anyone in most religions would call moral, against all manner of kindness, good sense, and thought of the future - people who would do this are acting out of some deep-seated psychological issue that has little to do with the spouse and not to get all fruedian here, probably has to do with mother-son, daughter-father relationships. I would also guess, playing armchair psychologist, one or both of the people has issues with authority.  So, the offended brother probably has always realized that one or both of these people in his life is a bit "off" in terms of psychological health and has to be the strong, balanced person dealing with the situation.  Why?  Because EVERYONE in this situation is at risk of losing EVERYTHING that is of value.  So counseling by the RIGHT person for the offended brother is a first step.  Many counselors will view my perspective as unhealthy, so you have to find one that feels that there is hope for recovery from this terrible dilemma.  I don't feel this is an unhealthy position because I know what I lost.  Yes, it would have taken years to get over the infidelity and for my husband and me to restore the marriage.  Instead I have NEVER gotten over the loss of my family and the tremendous cost my daughter had to pay is THE sorrow of my life, THE regret. Am I happy now? Mostly  Did I recover? about 80 % Do I wish, after 2 years of trying to get my marriage back, that I had tried one month, two months, three months, a half of year longer, maybe even another year longer?  Yes.

    1. Billie Kelpin profile image87
      Billie Kelpinposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      It's difficult to state this position knowing so many would disagree, but I have to say what I feel in my heart and know for my own life in the hope that another person, another family might fare better than mine did. Thank you smile All Warm Wishes

  7. chaitanyasaivb profile image76
    chaitanyasaivbposted 3 years ago

    It would be better, if we leave our relationship. Because, Its not a right thing, to give her another chance to realize the mistake, she has committed. Even, Breaking up our relation, with our brother, will be advisable. Because, He also had, turned bad.