What will you do if you found out that your boss is having an affair with your co worker?
I am working really hard to move up the ladder while there is this co worker of mine that is not really doing much but is just going out with the boss who promoted her. I feel so down. I can't just imagine where this world is headed with these type of people living on it.
It's really none of my business unless it affects my job personally. If I were expected to lie, carry an added and unreasonable workload , or be subjected to public displays of affection that made me uncomfortable, THEN I would speak up. If work is miserable, perhaps look elsewhere. You can't control the behavior of others, even if it is despicable.
did you know that i personally asked the girl what needs to be done to get promoted since she got it in such a short period of time, and her reply: just keep your head up even if everyone is putting you down. so i guess ill just keep it to myself.
You did the right thing. If you feel that you'll never progress in a hostile environment, and you don't have years invested in your job, think about sending feelers out for another position elsewhere.
Not sure if progressing is part of work there, since there are a few that has been there for over a decade and still with the same position. I guess in a way this is only a stepping stone for minor experience.
If the boss is divorce (assuming the girl is not married) then he is courting her ?
I am not sure if he is but either way it still affects most of us working there. She was chosen to be promoted over someone that is more deserving. If you know what I mean.
Stay out of it. Doesn't matter what we think, morally or ethically, or anything else, because they are going to do what they want anyway.
It isn't our business, but if one of them is a friend of mine then I will tell them my thoughts and leave it at that, because once it's over one of them will need a friend.
Had a similar incident in one of my work places..very strange that they thought no one knew, everyone knew! But it did cause problems and made it very hard to work there..many managers left unable to work in such a toxic environment - it always ends in tears.
My suggestions is lay low, say absolutely nothing to anyone, and if the situation impacts negatively on your work environment, look for another job.
I would advise you either you quit, either you forget or send an anonymous letter to his wife because apparently it is affecting you.
I would do nothing. It's their lives and none of my business.
I agree with others in that I would probably stay out of it. If I was treated poorly I would definitely speak up or just leave. It's unfortunate but also pretty common. It might not be fun to deal with but at the same time they are in a relationship, whether it's moral or not. We treat people differently when we're in relationships. If it were his wife or girlfriend, they would probably be treated better than other employees as well.
This situation is worse than favoritism and we all know how it feels when we are not the boss's favorite. I personally am dealing with this situation right now. More work load for me while she chilling. But I will get over it in time. Hopefully.
Ignore it. Nothing good can come of reacting. Allow them whatever little bit of joy they gain from it now, as behavior like this usually ends up causing trouble for them in the future. Concentrate on your own career. If you are being unfairly ignored for promotion, see if you can arrange to be transferred to another department.
I've been there, too, snoblet. It will get worse before it gets better. Your boss is heading for a fall and will probably take a lot of your co-workers along with him. My best advise is to either transfer to a different department or find another job. And if you're asked why tell whomever asks the truth of the situation. Better to start over than be dragged through the mud because of such peccadilloes.
I think it's time to stop sulking and maybe try making some moves on your boss!
That's a tough break. I, personally, wouldn't do anything. I believe in Karma and you all will get what you deserve eventually, so just be patient. Who knows? One day you may be the boss of both of them!
Have faith, and don't let them get to you.
I believe heavily in karma too but it seems though that people are always getting away with things by taking the lazy route. I don't intend to stay with this job long but it goes to show how lazy some people are to do anything for so little.
I have to agree with you snoblet. Many people do get away with things when they have little to no work ethic. Even worse is seeing hard working and ambitious people held back or overlooked by the lazy ones.
There was someone that was not promoted because the managers are afraid that the person might eventually end up much higher than them. Its sad how people are, and I know this because I overheard them speaking about it. sad sad sad
That is between two consenting adult. She also work hard for the promotion but just on a different field/job description hahahahah.
Anyway you should just stay out of it and continue doing your job.
There is nothing you can do. It is rumor unless you have evidence. If it is a matter of life or death, national security, or financial compromise, do your job. If there are risks, the pros and cons should be weighed before blowing the proverbial whistle.
Without knowing how your company is structured, I will answer with the parameters of mine.
Going directly to the boss is not a wise move. He may consider this blackmail of sorts. I would go to my boss' superior. Not wanting to be a 'tattle tail' but wanting fairness, I would ask the superior of my boss to please evaluate the job that I performed verses that of the co-worker that is sleeping with the boss. This would call attention to the inconsistency of performance causing your immediate boss to answer for his choices.
Before using this move, be very certain that your performance is beyond reproach.
I don't want to be a rat, but it cross my mind. My performance is what is too good from what the manager said and because of that they want to keep me in that dept. Not wanting me to leave and move up. The whole company is a joke.
Knowing the company is a joke, I'd leave. There are are many companies that allow this type of behavior to go on and it does affect other employees and morale even if people are afraid to say so.
Some or most people there feel that they have no chance in moving anywhere from where they are. If you are hard working they want you to stay to make them look good and so they refuse to promote anyone out of their current position, lazy gets to go.
I know of a company where it is an open secret that females can sleep their way up the promotion ladder and nepotism is also in open practice. It is disgusting and unfair. Even if it doesn't affect one person's job directly, it affects others. In addition, it affects employee moral, ambition, and loyalty.
A lot of things are compromised in the process and it is a slap in the face of those who have dignity, integrity, and the commitment needed for their work.
If this behavior occurs, I'd look for work elsewhere especially if there's reason to believe the behavior is part of the culture. Don't allow yourself to be around these people any longer than you have to. It's similar to negative and positive people spending time together. Sooner or later the negative person's mindset & ways will bring their attitude down if not rub off on the positive person.
I try to keep to myself as much as I can. Go to work, and than go home and try to not associate with those people too much. Others might not mind because they don't expect to advance or have no desire to do so, but there are those that want more.
It sounds like you are a good employee to have on board. Hopefully someone there will recognize this and you will be rewarded. Perhaps karma will come around and prompt a removal of those that aren't conducting themselves like smart adults.
Thanks for the praise, but I guess the only thing to do is to ignore it for the time being. I hope something else will pop up soon, but who knows how it will be if I get another job, it seems like its a typical problem the more I look at it.
look you guys are trying to be politically correct. Yes who cares who your boss sleeps with, but the truth is , his affair is going to affect you. Unless they make it public, there are a whole lot of issues that come up. What if you have a disagreement with his girlfriend, is it going to affect your job? Is there a power issue here? of course there is, so if an affair is going to work, then they have to make it public, but of course they're never going to admit it, particularly if they are married to other partners. So it's just not good news at all. why should you have to change your job for their lack of judgement. This is a human resource issue and they should be making sure that their personal relationship doesn't affect you, not you changing your life around for their indiscretions
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I personally, would do NOTHING. This is the perfect scenario to mind your own business. Period. Can you imagine how long you'd have a job at all, if it was found out that you vocalized your complaint? to anyone?
Just be a good employee, do your job as expected and wait patiently.
Workplace affairs don't last forever....especially if one or both of them is married....and when it ends, it's never a pretty sight. You may find yourself in the right place at the right time. Good question!
Nothing, as long as my well-deserved promotion or raise isn't given to her instead. My opinion of both parties would definitely plummet and would not do anything with either socially anymore. I feel that it is not my place to get involved...however, if someone (his wife, the boss' boss, etc) asked me outright about it I would not lie.
If it started to affect work, I would report the boss to his superior and be ready to back it up with evidence (such as times/places that I witnessed inappropriate contact that could be looked up on the company's security cameras).
It's none of my business and I just hope it wouldn't interfere with my work productivity. In situations like that, if you annoy one of them, you have annoyed both of them. I have been in a situation like that before but thankfully, I got on well with both of them.
If you are unhappy, discuss with a Senior Manager or start looking for another job. Your happiness is important.
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It is always someone that's willing to go that extra mile unfortunately, that the times we live in but what she's doing is very short lived . When your boss is ready to upgrade her job is over.Mean while when it's time for you to be promoted it would be for you hard work and your brains.
It's better to keep quiet and carry on with your job. If you find that this incident hinders your career in any way it's better to look for any other job. If you have no other option, concentrate more on your work and don't pay much attention to what others talk about it. Just don't interfere in it in any manner. God is the ultimate power and he will make you succeed in life.
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