What makes good/nice girls unappealing in terms of their sensuality quotient? What makes
men totally turned off to the good/nice girl?
I can be considered a good girl, I work hard, don't drink and love to go to church. It is easier to live my life in a positive mind frame, which might be considered nice.
Nice women or women who care about others, do no harm, and enjoy life are good women. Even nice girls can be overly sensual. Too much make-up, trying too hard to impress the rest.
From a girls point of view, I think men might like "bad girls better" because they might be better in bed, have more world experience, and enjoy life a bit more.
Some men aren't seeking thrills, they need to settle down, get real about dying someday, and have children.
A bad girl may not be the best mother, due to bad habits or just a lack of empathy or concern for others (they aren't nice)
I actually find women with inner beauty more attractive, but I am a woman, so I can't tell you from a mans point of view.
Some nasty girls are very, very sensual, this is very unattractive to Christian men and men who had girls like that cheat on them.
Good girls can make great mothers, bad girls may be more experienced, but can come with more baggage and may not be suitable mothers or even make good friends because they lack concern for others.
In modern days, it´s their attachment to the traditions and morals.
Men are commonly attracted by liberal women. This does not apply to all men, while some would prefer them liberal, others, including me, would prefer them good/nice girls.
What is a "good/nice girl"?
Btw, whatever the definition, how can you (or anyone) answer for all men? Who is turn off? How many? Maybe the question should be why some men bla bla? And then I guess the answer is for the same reason some are turn off by the "bad girls". Preferences. To know a specific reason, you should ask if there is any here.
Tell us, a good girl is a turn off for you? Why?
I believe "good girls" are in the same boat as "nice guys" in that they often go unappreciated until later on in life.
Oftentimes the "good girl" and "nice guy" for that matter are introverts who for the most part remain in the (background of social circles).
During high school they're not the cheerleaders, home coming queen, or the leader of any organization. They don't visibly display confidence and they also tend to be more conformist. They obey the rules and never question authority.
Much of our youth is about being rebellious, believing we are adults deserving of all the perks that come with it (without the responsibilities).
The "hot girls" in high school were the one's who dressed more provocatively, openly talked about sex , dated/partied with guys and acted like she was a "woman" among girls. "Nice guys" fantasized about being with her much like a "nice girl" might have fantasized about being with the captain of the football team or "bad boy". The "in crowd" are viewed as real life "celebrities".
Where as the "nice girls" and "nice guys" are peering at them with their noses pressed against the looking glass. It never occurs to them to date each other as they both pine over those who don't acknowledge them!
People want to associate with the "stars" or those who light up the room.
Nice girls don't want to use sex appeal to draw attention to themselves. They may subscribe to the idea of becoming friends and getting to know one another very well before considering to have sex. They may also have a strong religious background and want a guy who is similar or believes in waiting to have sex after marriage. They're analytical about life and the choices they make.
Young men in particular with raging hormones would rather "fast forward" to having sex and being spontaneous in general.
For young guys going "slow" is boring. Sex and parties are fun!
Last but not least "nice girls" and "nice guys" aren't usually respected or admired by the "in crowd". People tend to want to be with "winners" as opposed to "losers" especially during the teenage years and early 20s. If all the "hot girls" or those in the "in crowd' consider the "nice girl" to be a loser or damaged goods then a lot of guys will ignore her.
Eventually as everyone matures most girls let go of their "bad boy" phase and most guys look to settle down with a "nice girl"
That is not true, I actually find nice girls to be more attractive. Nice girls have grace and substance, something bitchy girls don't have. Also, nice girls are usually much more attractive, because girls whom are of bad personality, usually have a bad life style and that make their appearance deteriorate much faster. Take a look at Lindsy Lohan, she was so hot, 10 years ago, but due to her bad life style, look at her now, without makeup she look like a zombie. Also girls whom are not nice, usually have no substance, and that can be a big turn off for many men. In fact, one of the reason Natalie Portman is consider one of the most sexy celebrity is because she got a PhD.
In the media, they frequently portray the hot girls to be bitchy cheerleaders and nice girls to be less attractive and guys don't notice her. But in my experience that is never the case. I met so much nice girls, whom are really hot and bitchy girls whom are ugly. But the jerky ones, always do what they can to make themselve look pretty and some even go as far as lying about people been sexual obsess with her, when she is an ugly fuck that nobody give a crap about. Nice girls, usually do overdo in trying to make them self look nice, in college the girls during year one they try to look pretty, by their final year, it was like "whatever", but even without dressing up pretty with nice makeup, and their hair is a mess, but the hot one still look hot, even if they looked like a complete mess. Take a few real life example, Emma Watson, well...she is a hottie and she is a nice girl, everybody like her (well, at least until she gone radical feminist, while knowing nothing about the topic. Paris Hilton on the other hand, despite the media continue to portray her as the hottest woman and men's desire, in reality, most men are not that into her and eventually, she become yesterday's news, very quickly)
I believe it's the Madonna / Whore syndrome. "Good" means sexually suppressed, while "bad" refers to those who are more erotically expressive. A thin line exists between tastefulness and being crass.
Growing up in the ghetto, which was rife with violence and the uglier aspects of sex, made me prudish; staying as invisible as possible was the best way I knew to avoid becoming yet another statistic. I was extremely fortunate to attend a Christian high school, which enabled me to escape the violence of Oakland public schools, and be blessed to have an excellent sex ed teacher who taught us EVERYTHING. As a result, I have always been attracted to healthy and wholesome men. My sex ed teacher herself was a young, sensual hottie – living breathing proof that “good girls” can be highly attractive as well.
American society tends to be afraid of sex. Europeans are more comfortable with it, and some religions, like Buddhism, actively embrace it. We can learn from them.
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