I would attend a gay wedding even if it was against my beliefs. (which it isn't, I have many, many gay, lesbian and bisexual friends).
He is your friend, and yes, even though you are against it... you should put it aside and be there for him on his special day. Suck it up and enjoy the cake. His fiance may be a jerk, but your friend is your friend. Don't let his sexuallity get in the way of seeing him start a brand new chapter in his life.
Why do I need new friends? I have straight friends. Gay friends. Lesbian friends. Bisexual friends. I'm friends with pretty much everyone at my school and people outside school too.
Sometimes I can't pass an opportunity, I was teasing.
Ohh, haha ok! Sorryyyy, I've had a bad migrane all day today so I'm testy.
But to the girl who posted this: I agree with the person who said love is love... no matter what gender you are.
Sorry about the pain in the head and me being a pain in the ass. Well we have both ends covered anyway!
Sorry you have a migrane stormie. I hope it goes away soon!
What's wrong with a gay wedding ?
What I don't understand is why your products which you promote on your profile are called
Cheap Quality Products.
Well, being gay is a pretty large part of who someone is. If you are that troubled by what is such a tremendous piece of what defines that person, then you probably don't really like him as much as you seem to think you do. Sounds like more of an acquaintance than a real friend. Sounds like you both would be better off without each other. Just ditch him and spare yourself having to suffer the discomfort of his un-sanctionable choices and stuff.
I don't think this story is real.
Coming from one promoting Cheap Quality Products as her own.
Well, still provides a nice venue for my particular brand of sarcasm, which I enjoy perpetrating even if it is ultimately just hollering into the emptiness.
I love sarcasm. that's why I posted your comment again
go to the OP profile
And you'll see what I'm talking about!
Darn i was hoping you were lol just kidding I'm not cheap. well unless if comes to my hubby then yea hehehe
You have to admit the paradoxical quality of Cheap Quality Products is fun.
As long as it is an emptiness between two artificial breasts
I would go..it's not against my beliefs at all so i would happily attend a gay marriage. but it is your call not mine or anyone else's. but if you love your friend you would go.
i think basically what you should be asking yourself is how much of a friend this person is. if they're just a mutual acquaintence, then just don't go and make up and excuse. if they're like really close to you, then you have a decision to make. look, nobody here can tell you what to do as only you can do that. my advice is get a sheet of paper and write down all the pros and cons about going. then go from there. you might find your fears and beliefs aren't as bad it seemed to keep you from attending or it might help you reaffirm your believes to allow you stick by them. it's your choice.
Sure, go, attend the "wedding". Your position is well known to your friend and his "significant" other. It should not be against your belief to support your friend by attending the wedding. Now if you were officiating the wedding or getting hitched with your "significant" other of the same gender I would understand but you are not - you are just attending.
On the other side of the token, though, he has no right to give you an ultimatum like that. That puts you in an unnecessary position. He should respect your feelings as well.
So - in a nutshell there needs to be some compromising on both sides or the friendship is null and void as it stands. I would suggest sitting down with him, alone, and discuss the entire situation. Agree to attend but stress the unfairness of his ultimatum. If he continues to hold to the ultimatum you might want to strongly consider declining the attendance.
Just remember you both feel threatened only in different ways and different ends of the spectrum. Mutual understanding and respect is needed here. I feel for you but it is a new year and it is a perfect time to put our personal pride in check.
I think you should stick to your "principles" (as convenient as they are for you as a heterosexual) and not attend the wedding. Your "friend" will have rid himself of someone who really isn't his friend.
Mamelody wrote: "...I don't agree with his lifestyle but I don't judge him either, I respect his choice."
Hi Mamelody -
No one "chooses" their sexual orientation. Heteros never "give in to temptation" to become gay because they have no interest in a gay lifestyle. Likewise, gays are born "prewired" for their sexual orientation.
Since 1995 it's been known that homosexuality in men is associated with an abnormality on the long arm of the X chromosome (Xq28). This has been verified several times since in other scientific studies. It's genetic. (Link below).
Whether you go to the wedding or not, know that he's like he is because he was created that way.
Good luck with your decision.
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/7581 … t=Abstract
Thank you mamelody, now dress up nice and go and toast your friend and have a great time..Enjoy the wedding and keep a smile on that pretty face.
Of course I would.It certainly would be a different experience for me but I would go. Doesn't matter if you are white, black, green, straight, gay, have an addiction, live on the streets,I'll be there anyway I can.
For people who are christians, if you alienate any of these people how are you going to show them God's love anyway, that's what I thought it was all about.
Yes please do go.
What kind of person issues ultimatims to bribe/force supposed "friends" to attend his wedding?
To me, that sounds desperate and really ridiculous!
The friend has issues.The friend knows you have issues with him and his partner. And apparently the gay partner has issues too. Oy!
So what IS the real issue?
Would your choice be any easier for you if you DID happen to like his partner? In other words, if this was a straight couple getting married and you didn't like the spouse, would you attend or not?
It also sounds like the partner doesn't want you in a friendship with his man. Maybe you should use this as an excuse to bow out gracefully. Your friend has made HIS choice -- his partner. Sometimes friendships end.
On the other side of the coin -- I can guarantee you the earth will not swallow you up and you won't get cooties if you do attend.
Finally -- if you plan to continue being friends with any gay people in future, you might seriously want to check your judgment at the door. For the vast majority of gays, it's NOT a lifestyle, it's their life. They can't choose to be gay any more than you can choose to be straight.
Ha ha, BP. Right back atcha!
So wonderful to see you again!
People continue to talk about you all the time here but I rarely see you anymore, dear.
Hope you are well.
I've said my peace (or is it piece?) here and now must head to work but will check back later.
xoxo and keep the conversation flowing.
Haha, yes... I would go. But I'm a lesbian myself.. so that makes it easy for me.
You though.. I honestly don't think the ultimatum was such a good idea on his part. I don't think forcing someone to do anything on both sides is wrong. The only reason I would suggest you go, is that he is and has been your friend. Nothing more.
However, the ultimatum would really put me off if I were in your position.
Perhaps this is a time for looking into yourself about how you think of your friends and value your relationships.
Nothing is either black or white.
Could this be a time for you to take a step into territory that is not comfortable for you, but territory that might offer you a new landscape further along in your life?
First and foremost, why is it NOT common sense that being gay is NOT a choice? I grimace each and every time I hear (or read) someone say that. Did you choose to be straight? No, you didn't. That's just how you're wired. To discriminate against someone's so-called lifestyle in that he or she is gay is to dismiss that person's inner being altogether, and that's wrong. Ignorance is to blame for this mentality; ignorance that stems from the inherent religious beliefs instilled in so many Americans.
I hate to sound preachy, but this is a topic of deep passion and personal interest to me. I think that it is wrong for your friend to stick you with an ultimatum, and I think it's worth telling him that. If you feel that your friendship is worth it, just be the bigger person. Be there for him, and be loving. If his current relationship blows up in his face one day, he'll know that he still has a friend in you.
I would go to a gay wedding, although marriage is really just an extension of woman as chattel...
and about the personal things. If they were not gay would you go even if you didnt like the partner?
What would you regret most, not going and letting your friend down or going and feeling like a hypocrite because of your dislike of the partner.
Sometimes, no matter who, or how they think something appears, if you dont like the partner, maybe down the track, your friend will come to you and say sorry for pressuring you... if you do go on the other hand, you could have a good time.
If you see marriage as a celebration of the good things in a couples relationship, any relationship... then maybe it wouldnt be so challenging emotionally - sometimes, you just need to turn the question around abit to see what answers fit how you feel.
And I agree about ultimatums, .. they are not good .. if it was out of pure emotion maybe you know your friend well enought to forgive etc... but its still not a nice thing to do.
I would go to a gay wedding, but if I didnt want to go for other reasons which were personal, I wouldnt.
I would attend a gay wedding! First of all, I think gay marriage is fine. Secondly, I bet the food would be amazing!
Greek One! Where've you been?
....I'm wondering how the poster preceding you got to revive this thread.......
Every time I've thought of reviving an old thread, a notification pops up about how it's an old thread and to think twice about bumping it, or something to that effect.
Guess I'm just more cowed down by the powers-that-be than others are, huh?!
Well, shucks, since it's now a moot point and it is revived, I'm gonna say--------
No, I would not attend a gay wedding.
Just like I said three years ago when this thread was made.
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My short answer is: No? I mean not as a guest or even as clergy. I would only be found there if I had to cover the story as a journalist or protect life and property as a policeman.Come on over and vote?<snipped link>
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