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   confused barbieposted 13 years ago

   Can a man realy change? Or is it once a cheater always a cheater??

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      Cagsilposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      http://hubpages.com/forum/post/777309
      
      http://hubpages.com/forum/post/702903
      
      Forum threads already answering this question.

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         confused barbieposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Thanks that realy helps!

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         tobey100posted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Having never been a cheater I can't speak for their side but I can tell you, once a liar always a liar.  From my experiences you only get one shot at trust.  Once its gone its gone inspite of what marriage counselors may tell you.  You can say, oh, we're over that now, I do trust him but......let him come home 2 hours late or not be where he says he's gonna be and what's the first thing that pops into your mind?  See what I mean?

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      Mamelodyposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      goes both ways hun.. women too are equally cheaters.

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      livewithrichardposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      You have to ask yourself why the person cheated in the first place and realize that there is nothing you could have done because cheating is an individual's choice. 
      
      Would I stay in, or try to repair, a relationship with a cheater? Absolutely not because that would mean I have to change for that person and since I did nothing wrong, I'm not about to change. 
      
      If you have a cheater in your life, move on, you don't deserve that kind of disrespect.

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         confused barbieposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Thanks Richard that makes me feel so much better!

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      B.C. BOUTIQUEposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      if a person truly has a good heart and is remorseful and THEY WANT TO CHANGE..they can and they will...
      a person can change anything about themselves, but they have to sincerly want it for themselves..they have to be the one to change themselves to better themselves, no one can force them or make them change..
      
      this goes for anything about a person, even someone who has made a mistake , cheated , and truly hates it in their heart that they did that to another...it also fits addicts, criminals, etc.
      
      only a person can fully change their heart and bring out the good if they want, no one can ever do it for them , no matter how much you might want to, another human will never change the true heart of another human..
      
      I kind of rambled, but I hope it makes some sense

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   Mikel G Robertsposted 13 years ago

   Women!!! Can a woman really change? Or is it once a cheater always a cheater??
   
   You tell me, I was faithful for over 18 years, while 'SHE' cheated on me???

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      Crazdwriterposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      aaa Mikel I'm sorry to hear that. *hugs*

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      confused barbieposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I dont know hence Im asking....
      But it seems like the two of us were the ones who got hurt:(
      I think a person can change but only if they realy want to!
      Sorry to here that you got cheated on because I no its the worst fealing!

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         Mikel G Robertsposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         No the worst feeling is being lumped into a category by someone because someone else who pees standing up cheated on that someone else.
         
         Kinda like a German Jew might feel about being called a Nazi, because they are from Berlin.

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            confused barbieposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            At least we can hope that we both find someone spacial!

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      AnythingArtzyposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I'm so sorry to hear that.
      
      I think that is the worst pain to suffer in a relationship. I have been there twice. I feel for you. I think that's why I've stayed alone all these years. I'm afraid to trust completely.

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         Mikel G Robertsposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         

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   Crazdwriterposted 13 years ago

   and I think it does go for both sexes....once a cheater always a cheater. In my humble opinion that is

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      confused barbieposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Yea I kind of think that as well just wanted to see what everyone else thought !

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   Stevennix2001posted 13 years ago

   it depends really on the person, and how much sincerity they have when they tell you they're going to change.  Some people are capable of this, but most aren't.  If this is the first time you caught him cheating and you still love him, then just tell him honestly how you feel and work it out with him.  then lay out some ground rules,  if he ever cheats on you again.  be stern about it, and be prepared to follow it if you have to.  However, if he cheats on you AGAIN, after you said all that and allegedly made up.  Then  leave  him.  Seriously, if he was really sincere about changing, then he would've done it the first time.  anyway, i hope that helps.

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      confused barbieposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      But I cant help but think has he cheated on me with more than one person??
      Thanks for the advice though!

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         Stevennix2001posted 13 years agoin reply to this

         oh i see.  well have you tried talking to him about this?  try to talk to him first to see what he says.  If you still don't know if you can trust him or not, then just tell him you need some space and  time to think.  If he really cared about you, then he'll respect that.  If you happen to live with the guy, then try to see if you can call up a relative or friend that lives close by, and ask to stay with them for a while until you work this out.

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   prettydarkhorseposted 13 years ago

   both men and women are capable of cheating --
   
   I wish that a person who cheats should consider the feelings of the other person
   
   It is best to be honest and to be faithful to your partner -- Tell your partner if youre having a problem about the relationship, dont hurt anybody as things you do will always come back to you in any form,
   
   BARBIE DOLL, There are person out there who are not into cheating and dont lose hope, one is waiting for you

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      confused barbieposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks
      Hopefully he will come along soon!

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   earnestshubposted 13 years ago

   I always find the blaming of one gender interesting.
   
   Are all the men cheating with the one woman or something.
   Mathematically not too accurate this type of thinking!

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      confused barbieposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      sorry didnt mean to blame just men... Sure nobodys perfect!
      Just with my situation it involves a man

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   confused barbieposted 13 years ago

   Do you believe in fate and mr Right?

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   lyricsingrayposted 13 years ago

   Works both ways and some cheat once others repeatedly - I don't think there is an absolute question to your answer.

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