When a women's intuition sets in, and the untold reality hits you, what do you do? So I broke it off being inside I really knew....but, months later, a new relationship has found its way to my doorstep, and now the past comes back to tell me he really did cheat. So, my new love is clouded by my reawakened past heartache....how do you get over that?
Its really confusing but you just have to weigh out whose is the closest to your heart and who you love most. choose the one who will love you and will stay with you till you grow old.
You were enough! Some people especially men have a tendency to not want to deal with the complexities of a relationship. Just don't give your heart away too fast and don't let lonly drive you into the arms of another self-serving twit!
Happens all the time. (sorry to be blunt)
Move on.... clinging on to the past stops you from moving on to better things in the Future.
If you care about your present relationship you won't let what someone else did in the past cloud it. If you do, you could run the risk of creating a self-fulfilling prophecy by acting as if clouds are there when they aren't. I think you should ask yourself what you get, if anything, emotionally out of seeing yourself as "wounded" rather than just writing off the previous person as "jerk" and moving on.
It is natural that you would ask yourself why you were not enough. I know first hand, my ex left me for her crack smoking buddy, but one thing that you have to realize is that it is not your fault you were cheated on. I know talk is real cheap, and some things are easier said then done, but in order for you to move on, you must not blame yourself.
It's not always you weren't enough, sometimes we're too good and make the other person feel inadequate.
Totally agree with Lady_E, only thing the past can do is teach you how to live in the future, but you can't dwell on it. Humans are meant to make mistakes because we have to learn somehow, but you can't let those mistakes drag you down.
No matter what you believe or what he tells you, the cheating was never about you. But like everyone is saying, move on. It's not up to you to figure out what his problem was.
This certainly is difficult, isn't it? The past always creeps into our present life to remind us. There's no quick fix for 'letting it go'. We don't come equipped with an ON/OFF button to push when we want to stop feeling a certain emotion or feeling. When it hurts, it hurts. Time gives us a chance to heal. But remembering can be used as learning. Compare the 'intuition feelings' of before to what you get from this relationship. Warning signs are predictors of disaster. You are wise to follow your gut instinct.
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I would say, when the doctor tells you that your heart is too frail for the Viagra!
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