what will you do if you were me

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  1. sweetjulie profile image74
    sweetjulieposted 8 years ago

    i caught my guy in bed with my best friend. help

    1. pisean282311 profile image60
      pisean282311posted 8 years agoin reply to this

      oh my god..it wuld have been one of worst moment of ur life..

    2. Ron Montgomery profile image60
      Ron Montgomeryposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I would post a picture of your friend on this forum, along with a phone number.

      1. Greek One profile image75
        Greek Oneposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        I would post a picture of the friend and of yourself.. to see if there was anything physical that would have caused his behaviour.....

        After all, in your very own hubs, you list a woman being overweight as a cause of a man's cheating

        1. sweetjulie profile image74
          sweetjulieposted 8 years agoin reply to this

          i never said that

          1. Greek One profile image75
            Greek Oneposted 8 years agoin reply to this

            Really?  Please check your Hub "10 Reasons Men Cheat", where you write...

            There are many reasons why men cheat, but these are some of the most common ones...


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            1. Pandoras Box profile image67
              Pandoras Boxposted 8 years agoin reply to this

              Puffy checks... Cheeks or chicks? Cheeks I guess. Don't care enough to go read the hub.

              1. Greek One profile image75
                Greek Oneposted 8 years agoin reply to this

                if a girl has a puffy check (or gold, silver, coins,etc) for me, i would find her very attractive!

                1. pisean282311 profile image60
                  pisean282311posted 8 years agoin reply to this

                  lol lol lol

        2. tantrum profile image59
          tantrumposted 8 years agoin reply to this

          lol lol

    3. profile image0
      kimberlyslyricsposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      sleep with your best friend when your guy is due to come home.  Then walk out and never look back

      Sorry this happened

      She is nOT your best friend and he is not YOUR guy

      fly girl fly

      big_smile

      1. deosfluviatilis profile image67
        deosfluviatilisposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        Sleep with his best friend..

        1. profile image0
          kimberlyslyricsposted 8 years agoin reply to this

          nope,hers, much better kill 2 at once.

          1. Greek One profile image75
            Greek Oneposted 8 years agoin reply to this

            Today, The Electric Company brings you the letter "V"...

            V is for vengence AND for vagina

        2. pisean282311 profile image60
          pisean282311posted 8 years agoin reply to this

          lol

    4. tantrum profile image59
      tantrumposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      What kind of help would you like ? roll

    5. andromida profile image60
      andromidaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I would have talk to them to learn what actually going on:)

      1. tantrum profile image59
        tantrumposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        It's obvious what's going on. lol

        1. andromida profile image60
          andromidaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

          yeah, it's obvious that everybody makes mistake smile

          1. tantrum profile image59
            tantrumposted 8 years agoin reply to this

            Yes! In this case it was opening a door lol

    6. rebekahELLE profile image87
      rebekahELLEposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      hmm, I would ditch both of them.

    7. Anath profile image70
      Anathposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I would have jumped in to share the fun ;-) and then get rid of both of them.

    8. profile image45
      connoreediposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      You should not keep any relation with both of them. Let them go to hell!!
      http://www.articlesbase.com/health-arti … 08756.html

    9. Jluvies profile image60
      Jluviesposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      i would have looked at them both and shook my head, 'you guys really are the bottom of the barrel, too cowardly to break up with me and so slutty and desperate you had to go for your own best friends boyfriend.'  There are so many people out there to meet yet, it's hard for us to find the right one and true best friends.  Why would we risk it in an inner circle affair, where probabilities are very high it is not going to last anyways?  And then you lose two relationships when instead you could have just tried a little harder to meet someone new and started another friendship.  If your friend and boyfriend are incapable of thinking this way or just too skanky to care then who gives a fuck about them anyways.  This must mean you are associating yourself with people that are selfish, ignorant, and straight out scandalous.  Free your self! Let them go and surround your self with good people and positive energy.

  2. Origin profile image59
    Originposted 8 years ago

    I would just leave him then. Also, stop being friends with that friend of yours that did that. smile

  3. Greek One profile image75
    Greek Oneposted 8 years ago

    any inkling at all to join them?

    1. Wayne Orvisburg profile image72
      Wayne Orvisburgposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      That's what I was gonna say, but thought I'd leave it alone. HA HA

      1. Greek One profile image75
        Greek Oneposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        yeah, but you have a little editing voice inside your head...

        I just tell mine to shut up lol

        1. susanlang profile image56
          susanlangposted 8 years agoin reply to this

          lol Ha..ha..ha, Oh I think I'm inlove with Greek's Humor.  lol

  4. luvpassion profile image59
    luvpassionposted 8 years ago

    Have you considered a Harliquin book...seriously. OH...dump em both...fast!

  5. Shadesbreath profile image83
    Shadesbreathposted 8 years ago

    Married - get help.  If you value the relationship, fix it. If not, leave.

    If not married - leave.  Seems silly to consider taking a relationship further with someone who is already cheating.  (I'd definately dump the friend. THAT is not a friend.)

    1. Origin profile image59
      Originposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I agree 100% smile

  6. myownworld profile image78
    myownworldposted 8 years ago

    Depending on how important the two people are for you, I'd DEFINITELY talk and at least hear what they have to say first before taking any final decision. I don't believe in vengeance, so if I felt I could not work through either of the relationships, then walking away is the best thing to do....

    1. Greek One profile image75
      Greek Oneposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      ... but first tell them to put some clothes on!

      1. rebekahELLE profile image87
        rebekahELLEposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        really, what can they say? hmm 
        it would change the relationships forever.
        I couldn't continue with either of them.
        no revenge necessary, that stuff comes back to haunt people.

        1. myownworld profile image78
          myownworldposted 8 years agoin reply to this

          I know... and that is why I added that bit about how important the relationship is to you....(how much time you've invested in it/ how long you've known each other/married or not/kids involved etc.) Besides, to walk away from someone you've truly loved is not as easy as we think it is....

          Yes, words fail at such moments in life; But...still... I believe that every person in life deserves a chance to defend themselves and for us to hear them out. I might eventually walk away too, but not before I've known the reason for their betrayal. And I'm not saying that's what others should do in a similar situation; just what I personally would.  smile

          1. Greek One profile image75
            Greek Oneposted 8 years agoin reply to this

            .... I would do the same thing... and then sleep with one of their parents

            1. profile image0
              kimberlyslyricsposted 8 years agoin reply to this

              and a cousin-theirs not yours.

            2. myownworld profile image78
              myownworldposted 8 years agoin reply to this

              ok...we're trying to have a serious discussion here you two! roll

              And now why am I laughing away?! big_smile yikes

              1. Greek One profile image75
                Greek Oneposted 8 years agoin reply to this

                the only real solution to this problem is an impromptu castration

  7. Jayne Lancer profile image95
    Jayne Lancerposted 8 years ago

    I agree with MOW, although I might be inclined to take revenge. This is one of my more negative character traits. MOW offers the most sensible advice.

  8. SummerSteward profile image62
    SummerStewardposted 8 years ago

    I don't think there is any real room for talking here. Nothing the friend says will make you forgive her, certainly not trust her. She betrayed you and chose him. He chose her. The only real option here is to keep your dignity and walk away. The choice has sorta been taken away, they chose eachother, not you. I am sorry this happened, and I wish you the best of luck in the coming days. Please, please, please don't let this scummy two faced thunder cock ruin your day, or the way you see yourself. You will find another love, who will choose you. You deserve that, no matter what. If that's not what you want, then may you find whatever it is. Keep your chin up!

  9. profile image63
    logic,commonsenseposted 8 years ago

    Or just have an orgy and invite hubbers! smile

    1. profile image0
      kimberlyslyricsposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      especially ones with a great ass.

      1. profile image63
        logic,commonsenseposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        and I'm looking at one right now!

  10. mythbuster profile image78
    mythbusterposted 8 years ago

    It might be a good idea to speak with your partner and find out your partner's reasons for cheating in this situation instead of asking a bunch of people about this who really don't know you and do not know your partner?

  11. mythbuster profile image78
    mythbusterposted 8 years ago

    I'm sorry - I intended to say "in addition to" instead of "instead of asking a bunch of people[...]," sweetjulie. I realize how harsh my comment seems now that it's submitted. I hadn't intended to imply you'd ONLY get advice or reach for advice from a bunch of relative strangers on Hubpages.

    My intent was a suggestion that you speak with your partner - your partner might have some important things to communicate to you - perhaps things your partner might have tried communicating before turning to the act of cheating.

    mythbusterFAIL at communicating *hangshead*

  12. susanlang profile image56
    susanlangposted 8 years ago

    My answer is, if your married and you love him, then try to work it out at least once. If he's just your boyfriend without attachments, run like heck and never look back!!!! My guess is your still very young and so you have plenty of time for a another relationship. Now go do the right thing! smile

  13. sweetjulie profile image74
    sweetjulieposted 8 years ago

    thanks all

  14. profile image0
    ralwusposted 8 years ago

    hmmm, I would have spanked them

  15. donotfear profile image88
    donotfearposted 8 years ago

    Dump them both and never look back.

 
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