what will you do if you were me

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   sweetjulieposted 13 years ago

   i caught my guy in bed with my best friend. help

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      pisean282311posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      oh my god..it wuld have been one of worst moment of ur life..

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      Ron Montgomeryposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I would post a picture of your friend on this forum, along with a phone number.

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         Greek Oneposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         I would post a picture of the friend and of yourself.. to see if there was anything physical that would have caused his behaviour.....
         
         After all, in your very own hubs, you list a woman being overweight as a cause of a man's cheating

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            sweetjulieposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            i never said that

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               Greek Oneposted 13 years agoin reply to this

               Really?  Please check your Hub "10 Reasons Men Cheat", where you write...
               
               There are many reasons why men cheat, but these are some of the most common ones...
               
               
               5 ways to lose face fat
               The first thing you notice when you look at someone is their face, so therefore, it is important to keep the face lean a beautiful. There is nothing as annoying as a puffy check so below are tips on how to...

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                  Pandoras Boxposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                  Puffy checks... Cheeks or chicks? Cheeks I guess. Don't care enough to go read the hub.

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                     Greek Oneposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                     if a girl has a puffy check (or gold, silver, coins,etc) for me, i would find her very attractive!

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                        pisean282311posted 13 years agoin reply to this

                        

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            tantrumposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            

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      kimberlyslyricsposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      sleep with your best friend when your guy is due to come home.  Then walk out and never look back
      
      Sorry this happened
      
      She is nOT your best friend and he is not YOUR guy
      
      fly girl fly
      
      

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         deosfluviatilisposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Sleep with his best friend..

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            kimberlyslyricsposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            nope,hers, much better kill 2 at once.

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               Greek Oneposted 13 years agoin reply to this

               Today, The Electric Company brings you the letter "V"...
               
               V is for vengence AND for vagina

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            pisean282311posted 13 years agoin reply to this

            

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      tantrumposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      What kind of help would you like ?

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      andromidaposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I would have talk to them to learn what actually going on:)

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         tantrumposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         It's obvious what's going on.

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            andromidaposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            yeah, it's obvious that everybody makes mistake

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               tantrumposted 13 years agoin reply to this

               Yes! In this case it was opening a door

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      rebekahELLEposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      hmm, I would ditch both of them.

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      Anathposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I would have jumped in to share the fun ;-) and then get rid of both of them.

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      connoreediposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      You should not keep any relation with both of them. Let them go to hell!!
      http://www.articlesbase.com/health-arti … 08756.html

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      Jluviesposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      i would have looked at them both and shook my head, 'you guys really are the bottom of the barrel, too cowardly to break up with me and so slutty and desperate you had to go for your own best friends boyfriend.'  There are so many people out there to meet yet, it's hard for us to find the right one and true best friends.  Why would we risk it in an inner circle affair, where probabilities are very high it is not going to last anyways?  And then you lose two relationships when instead you could have just tried a little harder to meet someone new and started another friendship.  If your friend and boyfriend are incapable of thinking this way or just too skanky to care then who gives a fuck about them anyways.  This must mean you are associating yourself with people that are selfish, ignorant, and straight out scandalous.  Free your self! Let them go and surround your self with good people and positive energy.

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   Originposted 13 years ago

   I would just leave him then. Also, stop being friends with that friend of yours that did that.

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   Greek Oneposted 13 years ago

   any inkling at all to join them?

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      Wayne Orvisburgposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      That's what I was gonna say, but thought I'd leave it alone. HA HA

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         Greek Oneposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         yeah, but you have a little editing voice inside your head...
         
         I just tell mine to shut up lol

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            susanlangposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            Ha..ha..ha, Oh I think I'm inlove with Greek's Humor. 

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   luvpassionposted 13 years ago

   Have you considered a Harliquin book...seriously. OH...dump em both...fast!

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   Shadesbreathposted 13 years ago

   Married - get help.  If you value the relationship, fix it. If not, leave.
   
   If not married - leave.  Seems silly to consider taking a relationship further with someone who is already cheating.  (I'd definately dump the friend. THAT is not a friend.)

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      Originposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I agree 100%

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   myownworldposted 13 years ago

   Depending on how important the two people are for you, I'd DEFINITELY talk and at least hear what they have to say first before taking any final decision. I don't believe in vengeance, so if I felt I could not work through either of the relationships, then walking away is the best thing to do....

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      Greek Oneposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      ... but first tell them to put some clothes on!

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         rebekahELLEposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         really, what can they say?  
         it would change the relationships forever.
         I couldn't continue with either of them.
         no revenge necessary, that stuff comes back to haunt people.

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            myownworldposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            I know... and that is why I added that bit about how important the relationship is to you....(how much time you've invested in it/ how long you've known each other/married or not/kids involved etc.) Besides, to walk away from someone you've truly loved is not as easy as we think it is....
            
            Yes, words fail at such moments in life; But...still... I believe that every person in life deserves a chance to defend themselves and for us to hear them out. I might eventually walk away too, but not before I've known the reason for their betrayal. And I'm not saying that's what others should do in a similar situation; just what I personally would. 

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               Greek Oneposted 13 years agoin reply to this

               .... I would do the same thing... and then sleep with one of their parents

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                  kimberlyslyricsposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                  and a cousin-theirs not yours.

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                  myownworldposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                  ok...we're trying to have a serious discussion here you two!
                  
                  And now why am I laughing away?!

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                     Greek Oneposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                     the only real solution to this problem is an impromptu castration

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   Jayne Lancerposted 13 years ago

   I agree with MOW, although I might be inclined to take revenge. This is one of my more negative character traits. MOW offers the most sensible advice.

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   SummerStewardposted 13 years ago

   I don't think there is any real room for talking here. Nothing the friend says will make you forgive her, certainly not trust her. She betrayed you and chose him. He chose her. The only real option here is to keep your dignity and walk away. The choice has sorta been taken away, they chose eachother, not you. I am sorry this happened, and I wish you the best of luck in the coming days. Please, please, please don't let this scummy two faced thunder cock ruin your day, or the way you see yourself. You will find another love, who will choose you. You deserve that, no matter what. If that's not what you want, then may you find whatever it is. Keep your chin up!

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   logic,commonsenseposted 13 years ago

   Or just have an orgy and invite hubbers!

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      kimberlyslyricsposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      especially ones with a great ass.

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         logic,commonsenseposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         and I'm looking at one right now!

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    mythbusterposted 13 years ago

    It might be a good idea to speak with your partner and find out your partner's reasons for cheating in this situation instead of asking a bunch of people about this who really don't know you and do not know your partner?

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    mythbusterposted 13 years ago

    I'm sorry - I intended to say "in addition to" instead of "instead of asking a bunch of people[...]," sweetjulie. I realize how harsh my comment seems now that it's submitted. I hadn't intended to imply you'd ONLY get advice or reach for advice from a bunch of relative strangers on Hubpages.
    
    My intent was a suggestion that you speak with your partner - your partner might have some important things to communicate to you - perhaps things your partner might have tried communicating before turning to the act of cheating.
    
    mythbusterFAIL at communicating *hangshead*

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    susanlangposted 13 years ago

    My answer is, if your married and you love him, then try to work it out at least once. If he's just your boyfriend without attachments, run like heck and never look back!!!! My guess is your still very young and so you have plenty of time for a another relationship. Now go do the right thing!

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    sweetjulieposted 13 years ago

    thanks all

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    ralwusposted 13 years ago

    hmmm, I would have spanked them

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    donotfearposted 13 years ago

    Dump them both and never look back.

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