i just want to know if it is ok to have sex with your friend when he is in a relationship and he said relationships are not meant to last
Does it really matter?
It sounds like it's done already so the question is meaningless.
I'd pretty much say it isn't OK, and it isn't too smart either; because this so-called friend pretty much seems like a sleazy and misguided friend to boot.
Well aren't YOU a crafty Whitch!
My friend said exactly the same thing to me... But He's Gay and I'm Not!
Ho - Ho - How old Are You?
Off course it is not okay! Why would it be okay to hurt someone and even if this other woman does not know she was hurt.
there is no way i would sleep with my friend...
the whole 'he has a penis' thing is a REAL turn off
NAH, friends indeed in times of need
Did you really ask this question?????? wow!
you're joining a site and jumping into a forum to ask this one?
who cares what he says? that is just an excuse for him to have his cake and eat it too...
Well he had no problem sleeping with me, so yeah it's ok! heehee
Yes, but only if he buys you gifts and takes you out for an expensive dinner.
only if this friend is in a open relationship with his girlfriend, then i guess that would be okay, as it's your choice. however, if not, then I would say no. it's never good to be involved in a situation like that, as any guy that says, "relationships aren't meant to last" might do the same thing to you once you get together with him.
kharma is the word, "Bird is another word"
A better question would be: Why would someone undermine their own self worth with someone who never intends to give them a real relationship? Is the sex really worth it?
Unless his realtionship is "open" it is not ok. I would say this is a definate no no.
How much do you understand the word "integrity"?
If you have no understanding of that word, then by all means, look it up before you decide to sleep with someone who is supposedly in a relationship.
This should be a warning sign to you about your friend's integrity, let alone a wake up call to you about your own.
Just a thought.
How would you feel if the person you thought you were in a relationship with suddenly told you they had been having sex with someone else, and what they had with you wasn't meant to last?
If you are going to be non-monogamous, at least be ethical about it. Which is another way of saying, unless all the romantic partners of the person you want to have sex with know about it and are okay with you having sex with that person, don't do it.
yes i know he is a good friend and i thought he was joking at the time i am not like this i really dont know what got into me but in my last relationship i was the other woman and didnt know about it and then had it done to it is too late now but i have learnt my lesson i just want to remain friends with him it has upset me about what i done
Well said relache, If your a swinger and run in a crowd of swingers than it's a go. But the population in general (non swingers) don't like swapping or sharing and take great offense. If everyone is okay with it and informed.
No one can be okay with something if their not informed and given a choice...
Amen ....good answer. Do unto others , right
Just how can it be OK ? Is there no longer honor and trust in our society? It seems that we live in an age "if it feels good just DO IT"
We all make our own choices and must live with the consequences.
It is not anyone else's responsibility to make your choice for you nor is it their right. Ultimately you know what is wrong and what is right and it is up to you to choose what you wish to do.
OP - Joins HP to attend a confessional
Opens a thread to total strangers
Bleats about some fictitious event
(which could have been a tree falling in the forest somewhere)
Gets told straight by the hubber's
Arghhhhhhhhhh Feel Sooooooo Much Better now....
Let's the thread die
Goes and does exactly what it was going to anyway.....
Phew.... Just another One Night Stand Passing through.. on HubPages
WTF... Do these Empty People come from?
And WTF... Can they do this BS Here on a regular basis?
Strange that someone would ask such a question. I would say that sleeping with a friend would be okay if they weren't in another relationship. Sometimes friendships blossom between uncomitted adults.
Relationships work if both people have love and respect in their hearts for each other. Therefore casual sex is not a good idea with friends partners-it damages respect and hurts people when they realise they have been cheated.
sometimes things happen we let them when maybe we shouldn`t but we learn from it.
If he is the one in a relationship & your not, he is the one in the wrong.
morally you probably shouldn`t do it knowing his in a relationship but you cant be blamed for his actions.
I think it's ok so long as you bring your teddy bear and don't indulge in a threesome.
NO! NOT AT ALL! You have to think about that other person in his life and how that would make them feel. He is just trying to get more.
You don't sound like a good person to me. Of course it's not okay.
What comes around goes around. Choose wisely.
This is the sort of stuff that causes people to kill others! If this person is in a relationship then he is cheating... and if you are sleeping with this person, knowing he or she is in a relationship then that makes you a home wrecker!
As humans we should learn to have a little respect for others, and most of all ourselves. How can you respect yourself if you are sleeping with someone elses mate? How would you feel if you were in a relationship and later on you find out they had cheated on you with someone who you thought was just a "friend". After you have a sexual relationship with this person they become more than friends... you become "lovers".
This is immoral and wrong! Remember, what goes around comes around! What you do will come back to haunt you! Good luck with that one!
Maybe you should not ask this question to us but to yourself: is it ok? Answer to youself with sincerity. We can tell you yes or no, but you ... Do you really not know the answer?
First of all, why would you want to sleep with someone that's in a relationship? Second,why are you even considering sleeping with your "friend"? Third, how would you feel if it was your bf sleeping with his so called friend? This sounds like a bad idea waiting to happen. People get hurt over mess like this! Don't do it!
As they say everyone has the right to be heard under a "fair judge." Were you sober at the time of the act? If yes, what prompted you to perform the act? Did the act interest you in any way? And if Yes, do you intend to do it again? These are the questions you have to wonder about? How ever much we might say, they could all fall on dead ears.
By the look of things, you are up to for the next episode.
We are all in it to win it.
What makes one truly free is to sleep with many.
What makes one truly free is to sleep with one.
There is no rule for all people.
Find what is decent, pleasing for oneself that's what's important.
Very philosophical point of view. I just wonder respectfully: where do a person's emotions come into play here? Especially a womans, as we all know men and women feel quite differently about sex.
However, there is a certain beauty to your words...
If you have to ask, you must already know it is questionable.
It's probably ok to sleep with a friend when both of you may realized that you have feelings for each other. But definitely NOT ok if there's a gf or bf involved while you're doing it.
You have already made the situation complicated by sleeping with your friend, more so if you you're going to be the third wheel.
No, he is just a jerk. wait till he breaks up with her, then that winner is all yours.use a condom.....
If both of you are free and single consenting adults, I guess it is ok. But if either of you, or both of you, are involved with someone else, then that is cheating and might cause you a relationship or your marriage. What we see on television is not real.. people get hurt. I don't like being hurt, so I won't do something that might hurt someone else on purpose.
Have a nice day,
No, that is why he/she is called a friend, not a lover or a bf.
Unless you have a consensual agreement, friends with carnal benefits? LOL
Sex is the only field to unite and become one to help nature in reproduction to continue creation. Please do not consider it as mere tool to satisfy with biological performance dynamics. that is why we are called human.
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