is it ok to sleep with your friend

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  1. profile image48
    craftywhitchposted 12 years ago

    i just want to know if it is ok to have sex with your friend when he is in a relationship and he said relationships are not meant to last

    1. Anath profile image61
      Anathposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Does it really matter? 

      It sounds like it's done already so the question is meaningless.

      1. The Power Glider profile image61
        The Power Gliderposted 12 years agoin reply to this

        I am stunned that the question is even asked.  My question is, why would you feel that it would be ok?  Have we as a culture gone so far afield that we've lost sight of something as simple as that?

      2. Lisa HW profile image63
        Lisa HWposted 12 years agoin reply to this

        I'd pretty much say it isn't OK, and it isn't too smart either; because this so-called friend pretty much seems like a sleazy and misguided friend to boot.

      3. Pearldiver profile image72
        Pearldiverposted 12 years agoin reply to this

        Well aren't YOU a crafty Whitch! hmm

        My friend said exactly the same thing to me... But He's Gay and I'm Not! roll

        Ho - Ho - How old Are You? hmm

        1. katiem2 profile image60
          katiem2posted 12 years agoin reply to this

          LMAO.... thanks Pearldiver I needed that.  big_smile

      4. Ben Evans profile image65
        Ben Evansposted 12 years agoin reply to this

        Off course it is not okay!  Why would it be okay to hurt someone and even if this other woman does not know she was hurt.

      5. Greek One profile image64
        Greek Oneposted 12 years agoin reply to this

        there is no way i would sleep with my friend...

        the whole 'he has a penis' thing is a REAL turn off

      6. wildorangeflower profile image60
        wildorangeflowerposted 12 years agoin reply to this

        NAH, friends indeed in times of need

      7. profile image0
        michelelavellposted 12 years agoin reply to this

        Did you really ask this question?????? wow!

      8. rebekahELLE profile image83
        rebekahELLEposted 12 years agoin reply to this

        you're joining a site and jumping into a forum to ask this one?

      9. profile image0
        cosetteposted 12 years agoin reply to this

        who cares what he says? that is just an excuse for him to have his cake and eat it too...

      10. lady_love158 profile image59
        lady_love158posted 12 years agoin reply to this

        Well he had no problem sleeping with me, so yeah it's ok! heehee

      11. lady_love158 profile image59
        lady_love158posted 11 years agoin reply to this

        Yes, but only if he buys you gifts and takes you out for an expensive dinner.

        1. Jim Hunter profile image61
          Jim Hunterposted 11 years agoin reply to this


          1. lady_love158 profile image59
            lady_love158posted 11 years agoin reply to this

            or cash is good!

      12. Stevennix2001 profile image83
        Stevennix2001posted 11 years agoin reply to this

        only if this friend is in a open relationship with his girlfriend, then i guess that would be okay, as it's your choice.  however, if not, then I would say no.  it's never good to be involved in a situation like that, as any guy that says, "relationships aren't meant to last" might do the same thing to you once you get together with him.

        1. schoolgirlforreal profile image73
          schoolgirlforrealposted 11 years agoin reply to this

          exactly what I was gonna say, He'll do it to you! ha ha

          1. LondonGirl profile image79
            LondonGirlposted 11 years agoin reply to this

            "A man who marries his mistress creates a vacancy"

      13. prettydarkhorse profile image57
        prettydarkhorseposted 11 years agoin reply to this

        kharma is the word, "Bird is another word"

      14. Kaybomb31 profile image56
        Kaybomb31posted 11 years agoin reply to this

        A better question would be: Why would someone undermine their own self worth with someone who never intends to give them a real relationship? Is the sex really worth it?

      15. zduckman profile image59
        zduckmanposted 11 years agoin reply to this

        Unless his realtionship is "open" it is not ok. I would say this is a definate no no.

    2. Cagsil profile image82
      Cagsilposted 12 years ago

      How much do you understand the word "integrity"?

      If you have no understanding of that word, then by all means, look it up before you decide to sleep with someone who is supposedly in a relationship.

      This should be a warning sign to you about your friend's integrity, let alone a wake up call to you about your own.

      Just a thought. smile

    3. relache profile image72
      relacheposted 12 years ago

      How would you feel if the person you thought you were in a relationship with suddenly told you they had been having sex with someone else, and what they had with you wasn't meant to last?

      If you are going to be non-monogamous, at least be ethical about it.  Which is another way of saying, unless all the romantic partners of the person you want to have sex with know about it and are okay with you having sex with that person, don't do it.

      1. profile image48
        craftywhitchposted 12 years agoin reply to this

        yes i know he is a good friend and i thought he was joking at the time i am not like this i really dont know what got into me but in my last relationship i was the other woman and didnt know about it and then had it done to it is too late now but i have learnt my lesson i just want to remain friends with him it has upset me about what i done

      2. katiem2 profile image60
        katiem2posted 12 years agoin reply to this

        Well said relache,  If your a swinger and run in a crowd of swingers than it's a go.  But the population in general (non swingers) don't like swapping or sharing and take great offense.  If everyone is okay with it and informed.

        No one can be okay with something if their not informed and given a choice...

      3. zduckman profile image59
        zduckmanposted 11 years agoin reply to this

        Amen ....good answer. Do unto others , right

    4. TerryGl profile image57
      TerryGlposted 12 years ago


      It's not ok.

    5. CYBERSUPE profile image60
      CYBERSUPEposted 12 years ago

      Just how can it be OK ?  Is there no longer honor and trust in our society? It seems that we live in an age "if it feels good just DO IT"

    6. profile image61
      logic,commonsenseposted 12 years ago

      We all make our own choices and must live with the consequences.
      It is not anyone else's responsibility to make your choice for you nor is it their right.  Ultimately you know what is wrong and what is right and it is up to you to choose what you wish to do.

    7. Pearldiver profile image72
      Pearldiverposted 12 years ago

      OP - Joins HP to attend a confessional
      Opens a thread to total strangers
      Bleats about some fictitious event
      (which could have been a tree falling in the forest somewhere)
      Gets told straight by the hubber's
      Arghhhhhhhhhh Feel Sooooooo Much Better now....
      Let's the thread die
      Goes and does exactly what it was going to anyway..... hmm

      Phew.... Just another One Night Stand Passing through.. on HubPages roll

      WTF... Do these Empty People come from? hmm

      And WTF... Can they do this BS Here on a regular basis? hmm

    8. srwnson profile image59
      srwnsonposted 12 years ago

      Strange that someone would ask such a question. I would say that sleeping with a friend would be okay if they weren't in another relationship. Sometimes friendships blossom between uncomitted adults.

    9. beebong profile image56
      beebongposted 12 years ago

      Relationships work if both people have love and respect in their hearts for each other. Therefore casual sex is not a good idea with friends partners-it damages respect and hurts people when they realise they have been cheated.

    10. minxibell profile image60
      minxibellposted 12 years ago

      sometimes things happen we let them when maybe we shouldn`t but we learn from it.

      If he is the one in a relationship & your not, he is the one in the wrong.
      morally you probably shouldn`t do it knowing his in a relationship but you cant be blamed for his actions.

    11. seanorjohn profile image74
      seanorjohnposted 12 years ago

      I think it's ok so long as you bring your teddy bear and don't indulge in a threesome.

    12. sabrinaaq profile image59
      sabrinaaqposted 12 years ago

      NO! NOT AT ALL! You have to think about that other person in his life and how that would make them feel. He is just trying to get more.

    13. profile image48
      swiftkicksposted 11 years ago

      You don't sound like a good person to me. Of course it's not okay. 

      What comes around goes around. Choose wisely.

    14. couturepopcafe profile image60
      couturepopcafeposted 11 years ago

      stupid is as stupid does.

    15. libby101a profile image59
      libby101aposted 11 years ago

      This is the sort of stuff that causes people to kill others! If this person is in a relationship then he is cheating... and if you are sleeping with this person, knowing he or she is in a relationship then that makes you a home wrecker!

      As humans we should learn to have a little respect for others, and most of all ourselves. How can you respect yourself if you are sleeping with someone elses mate? How would you feel if you were in a relationship and later on you find out they had cheated on you with someone who you thought was just a "friend". After you have a sexual relationship with this person they become more than friends... you become "lovers".

      This is immoral and wrong! Remember, what goes around comes around! What you do will come back to haunt you! Good luck with that one!

    16. fucsia profile image60
      fucsiaposted 11 years ago

      Maybe you should not ask this question to us but to yourself: is it ok? Answer to youself with sincerity. We can tell you yes or no, but you ... Do you really not know the answer?

      1. mrfluffy profile image60
        mrfluffyposted 11 years agoin reply to this

        Excellent point, most people know the answer before they ask the question, they are just thinking out loud.

        And no it’s not all right unless all parties are aware and understand, even then there are other unanswered questions.

    17. S. Jordan profile image85
      S. Jordanposted 11 years ago

      First of all, why would you want to sleep with someone that's in a relationship? Second,why are you even considering sleeping with your "friend"? Third, how would you feel if it was your bf sleeping with his so called friend? This sounds like a bad idea waiting to happen. People get hurt over mess like this! Don't do it!

    18. Rajab Nsubuga profile image60
      Rajab Nsubugaposted 11 years ago

      As they say everyone has the right to be heard under a "fair judge." Were you sober at the time of the act? If yes, what prompted you to perform the act? Did the act interest you in any way? And if Yes, do you intend to do it again? These are the questions you have to wonder about? How ever much we might say, they could all fall on dead ears.

      By the look of things, you are up to for the next episode.

    19. inspiredbydg profile image61
      inspiredbydgposted 11 years ago

      We are all in it to win it.

      What makes one truly free is to sleep with many.

      What makes one truly free is to sleep with one.

      There is no rule for all people.

      Find what is decent, pleasing for oneself that's what's important.

      1. Kaybomb31 profile image56
        Kaybomb31posted 11 years agoin reply to this

        Very philosophical point of view. I just wonder respectfully: where do a person's emotions come into play here? Especially a womans, as we all know men and women feel quite differently about sex.
        However, there is a certain beauty to your words...

    20. Rochelle Frank profile image91
      Rochelle Frankposted 11 years ago

      If you have to ask, you must already know it is questionable.

    21. Catering101 profile image59
      Catering101posted 11 years ago

      It's probably ok to sleep with a friend when both of you may realized that you have feelings for each other. But definitely NOT ok if there's a gf or bf involved while you're doing it.
      You have already made the situation complicated by sleeping with your friend, more so if you you're going to be the third wheel.

    22. lovetherain profile image82
      lovetherainposted 11 years ago

      No, he is just a jerk. wait till he breaks up with her, then that winner is all yours.use a condom.....

    23. Rosie2010 profile image66
      Rosie2010posted 11 years ago

      If both of you are free and single consenting adults, I guess it is ok.  But if either of you, or both of you, are involved with someone else, then that is cheating and might cause you a relationship or your marriage.  What we see on television is not real.. people get hurt.  I don't like being hurt, so I won't do something that might hurt someone else on purpose.

      Have a nice day,

    24. prettydarkhorse profile image57
      prettydarkhorseposted 11 years ago

      No, that is why he/she is called a friend, not a lover or a bf.

      Unless you have a consensual agreement, friends with carnal benefits? LOL

    25. yssubramanyam profile image61
      yssubramanyamposted 10 years ago

      Sex is the only field to unite and become one to help nature in reproduction to continue creation. Please do not consider it as mere tool to satisfy with biological performance dynamics. that is why we are called human.


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