Should the husband or the wife be the one to work? or both?

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   Evan Hutchinsonposted 14 years ago

   Who should work and who should stay at home?

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      schoolgirlforrealposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      sorry there's a dog barking incessantly and I can barely think.
      
      But I think...it depends on many things
      children
      health
      job payout
      etc

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      sandra rinckposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      They could figure it out between them. Gender roles are obsolete.  Establishing what is going to work best as a family is better.  
      
      Though I do personally feel that at least one person should be home with the kid/s until they go to school but if you can't afford it or the mother or father want to work and enroll their kid/s in some sort of childcare program, that is good too just as long as there is an agreement.

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      kerrygposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I've seen a pretty reasonable argument that neither should leave the house to work.
      
      Since that's not an option in most families, though, I think at least one parent should ideally be home all the time until the kids are in school. It doesn't matter to me which one, or if they take turns. I've known families where the mother was better suited to be the stay-at-home partner, and families where the father was better suited to stay at home. It depends on too many factors to make any kind of sweeping generalization. Each individual family needs to make its own individual decision based on its own individual circumstances.

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   WryLiltposted 14 years ago

   I think the wife should stay home till the kids go to school. But after that, unless she's bringing in money staying at home, she should goto work, even if it's part time.
   
   Just because you're a woman doesn't mean you have to depend on a man to support you. My mum did that, always spending dads money, spending all day on the phone and visiting friends.
   
   I'd like to get to the point where I'm earning enough online to support myself while staying home. But I have a nine month old baby right now and I work part time.

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      ceciliabeltranposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      The cost to your baby is huge. The thing is do the part-time thing knowing what your priorities are. I realize that you really have to know what you can willingly give up in the task of balancing child and self and it's not an easy answer. Without time for your self, ultimately it is your child that suffers.

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   pylos26posted 14 years ago

   In our town only the wives work...husbands have much more important things to attend to like drinking beer and fishing.

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   Tom Cornettposted 14 years ago

   Families have to be diverse...especially in the world today.  I worked to make money.  My wife worked to raise the children....along with raising me at times. The children worked at their education with parental guidance to become responsible adults.
   We just need to do what is best for our own family. That could be many different ways.

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   Ladybird33posted 14 years ago

   I think it is best for each family to figure out what works bests for them, the times are different.  I think most moms would like to stay home but times are tough, so it's harder for them to do so...my opinion

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   just meeposted 14 years ago

   who ever makes the most money.

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   cathylynn99posted 14 years ago

   A study in the 80's showed that what well-adjusted children have in common is one hour of face-to-face time with a parent each day. I had a stay-at-home mom but I didn't get that hour regularly. A good daycare has socialization advantages over staying at home with mom or dad. No one needs to stay home.
   
   I recommend that you read "Iron John" about sons needs to see their father at work.
   
   Otherwise, I second kerryg.

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   dgicreposted 14 years ago

   Guess I am old fashioned, but I always wanted to be the one to go to work. I could make more money and I would much rather let my wife stay home if that is what she wants to do. This gives me comfort knowing that my two dogs(kids) are not cooped up all day alone at home and they also provide companionship to my wife as well. If I had to hire someone that could do all the stuff my wife get's done around the home front. It would be really expensive, not to mention the burden it takes off of me. Wish I could make enough money to work from home and be with the wife and kids. In this tough economy, I do consider myself fortunate to have a full-time day job to go to.

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