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Should the husband or the wife be the one to work? or both?

  1. Evan Hutchinson profile image75
    Evan Hutchinsonposted 7 years ago

    Who should work and who should stay at home?

    1. schoolgirlforreal profile image82
      schoolgirlforrealposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      sorry there's a dog barking incessantly and I can barely think.

      But I think...it depends on many things
      job payout

    2. profile image0
      sandra rinckposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      They could figure it out between them. Gender roles are obsolete.  Establishing what is going to work best as a family is better. big_smile 

      Though I do personally feel that at least one person should be home with the kid/s until they go to school but if you can't afford it or the mother or father want to work and enroll their kid/s in some sort of childcare program, that is good too just as long as there is an agreement. big_smile

    3. kerryg profile image87
      kerrygposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I've seen a pretty reasonable argument that neither should leave the house to work.

      Since that's not an option in most families, though, I think at least one parent should ideally be home all the time until the kids are in school. It doesn't matter to me which one, or if they take turns. I've known families where the mother was better suited to be the stay-at-home partner, and families where the father was better suited to stay at home. It depends on too many factors to make any kind of sweeping generalization. Each individual family needs to make its own individual decision based on its own individual circumstances.

  2. WryLilt profile image91
    WryLiltposted 7 years ago

    I think the wife should stay home till the kids go to school. But after that, unless she's bringing in money staying at home, she should goto work, even if it's part time.

    Just because you're a woman doesn't mean you have to depend on a man to support you. My mum did that, always spending dads money, spending all day on the phone and visiting friends.

    I'd like to get to the point where I'm earning enough online to support myself while staying home. But I have a nine month old baby right now and I work part time.

    1. ceciliabeltran profile image73
      ceciliabeltranposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      The cost to your baby is huge. The thing is do the part-time thing knowing what your priorities are. I realize that you really have to know what you can willingly give up in the task of balancing child and self and it's not an easy answer. Without time for your self, ultimately it is your child that suffers.

  3. pylos26 profile image75
    pylos26posted 7 years ago

    In our town only the wives work...husbands have much more important things to attend to like drinking beer and fishing.

  4. Tom Cornett profile image63
    Tom Cornettposted 7 years ago

    Families have to be diverse...especially in the world today.  I worked to make money.  My wife worked to raise the children....along with raising me at times. The children worked at their education with parental guidance to become responsible adults.
    We just need to do what is best for our own family. That could be many different ways.

  5. Ladybird33 profile image57
    Ladybird33posted 7 years ago

    I think it is best for each family to figure out what works bests for them, the times are different.  I think most moms would like to stay home but times are tough, so it's harder for them to do so...my opinion

  6. just mee profile image55
    just meeposted 7 years ago

    who ever makes the most money.

  7. cathylynn99 profile image75
    cathylynn99posted 7 years ago

    A study in the 80's showed that what well-adjusted children have in common is one hour of face-to-face time with a parent each day. I had a stay-at-home mom but I didn't get that hour regularly. A good daycare has socialization advantages over staying at home with mom or dad. No one needs to stay home.

    I recommend that you read "Iron John" about sons needs to see their father at work.

    Otherwise, I second kerryg.

  8. dgicre profile image81
    dgicreposted 7 years ago

    Guess I am old fashioned, but I always wanted to be the one to go to work. I could make more money and I would much rather let my wife stay home if that is what she wants to do. This gives me comfort knowing that my two dogs(kids) are not cooped up all day alone at home and they also provide companionship to my wife as well. If I had to hire someone that could do all the stuff my wife get's done around the home front. It would be really expensive, not to mention the burden it takes off of me. Wish I could make enough money to work from home and be with the wife and kids. In this tough economy, I do consider myself fortunate to have a full-time day job to go to.