Lust & Love

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   andycoolposted 12 years ago

   How love is related to lust? Can lust destroy true love? Where should one draw the line between love and lust in life partners?

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      saddlerider1posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I believe Lust can destroy true love. Lust wears out quickly in many relationships thus causing the other partner to wander. If the foundation is Lust then love suffers. I know first hand sad to say. LOVE is so elusive for so many, yet LUST is all consuming and can destroy LOVE.

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         katiem2posted 12 years agoin reply to this

         Good tip saddle rider

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         andycoolposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         I totally agree... thanks!

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         Freya Cesareposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         Agree. Very true.

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         RSBrauerposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         I agree that many people think that lust is love just like many people think they are connecting with real people by spending hours and hours on facebook.

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      lady_love158posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Lust is pure sexual desire! If you have love without lust, then you're probably with your brother or sister.

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      RSBrauerposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      In buddhism they say that lust (desire) will destroy everything if you let it.  Instead, love is already present in this moment.  Let go of desire just to see what happens and I bet you'll be surprised!

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      thomasbolinposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Well, I believe in love. Lust is something I hate the most.
      http://stopsnoringinsights.com

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   katiem2posted 12 years ago

   Good Grief, I'd hope for both.  Assuming lust is a healthy dose of passion, you can have intense passion for your lover leading you to lust them... 

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      andycoolposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Hooommm!!! 

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   SirDentposted 12 years ago

   Lust is impatient, unkind, self gratifying.  It will destroy that which it is directed.
   
   Love is kind, patient and waits for the exact right moment.  It builds up the object to which it is directed.

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      lifegateposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Well said,SirDent!

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         andycoolposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         Sometimes lust gets too hot & sexy to resist... what should one do then?

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   Joy56posted 12 years ago

   well run maybe, if you can that is

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      andycoolposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      

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   b. Malinposted 12 years ago

   LUST is in a category of it's own.  You can lust after someone physically, but not really like them as a person...once you get to know them.
   
   Love on the other hand, may start as a physical thing, an attraction, and yes, it can sometimes in the beginning, have some LUST built in.  But in order for the relationship to build and survive, it needs so much more...  Like, understanding and a reality of one another.
   
   I've had both lust and love relationships...and in my case...I chose LOVE, and wow, got  a bonus of some LUST mixed in....he's quit a guy!

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   Greek Oneposted 12 years ago

   what was that old saying...
   
   Love is using a feather, Lust the whole chicken

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      mega1posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      you made that up!! 

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      Freya Cesareposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      
      
      Where that came from?

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   Jonathan Jancoposted 12 years ago

   One cannot live without some sort of love in their heart. This I truly believe. I'm sure it is possible to live without lust, but as far as I'm concerned, there is nothing like being all flushed and sticky once in a while, even if it's a self-inflicted thing.

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   flying higherposted 12 years ago

   You can lust after somebody without liking or loving them as a person. I lust after some actresses without knowing them, one of them I heard is very nasty and arrogant, but still I lust for her.
   
   Would I be able to love her ? No.  Or stay with her in a LTR ? No.
   
   I prefer LOVE, but with a little bit of lust added in. Lust is much shorter lasting than love.

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      lady_love158posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      How do you know? Wouldn't you have to get to know her before you could make such a judgement? Perhaps satisfying your lust with her might change your mind about her.

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   libby101aposted 12 years ago

   Truthfully, most relationships begin with a form of lust. It's hard to start seeing someone emotionally if they don't have something we find attractive!
   
   I believe once you begin to truly know the person the love begins to grow, that is if you are compatable and there's a little chemistry. However, lust can destroy any relationship...especially if someone has problems with lusting after others. It can cause problems in the relationship!
   
   I also believe there is a healthy lust, and an unhealthy lust! What you feel for your wife or husband is an attraction (a form of healthy lust), but what you would feel for an actress or stranger is unhealthy... it's even more unhealthy if you are in a relationship with someone else or married!

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    hubs with kissesposted 12 years ago

    Lust after love otherwise you'll be a dog with it's tongue hanging out your mouth.  No one wants desperation.  Waiting and committment will make the moment come without feeling hurt or disgusted afterward.  Lust after her sexiness never at an object.

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    acaetnnaposted 12 years ago

    Love is not lust that is true but love is not without lust.  Lust transferred into love gives you a complete glow! There is nothing wrong with healthy lust within a loving relationship.

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    schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years ago

    Lust is fun and can last one night or for years
    Love is quality and hopefully has some lust in it as well

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    deeders84posted 12 years ago

    I loved and he had lust for me.people in lust will lie to keep that excitment going while people in love do not have to work at all. I learned my lesson,i choose love over lust anyday!

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    mtsi1098posted 12 years ago

    lust is possible anytime with anyone and is a limited thing but love is immeasurable and unanticipated so why not have both - lust the one you love

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    Jaggedfrostposted 12 years ago

    Please world.... can't we all just agree that we have broken the copy writes on each other's sentiments on this subject some ... my counter just broke... umpteen times?  Move along, move along, nothing to see.

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       andycoolposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       Katie has explained the topic in the following hub:
       http://hubpages.com/hub/What-is-the-dif … e-and-lust
       Simply excellent hub... have a reading!

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    HonestAbe95posted 12 years ago

    Trust me , lust will ruin ur life.
    love will make ur life worth living... dont make the same mistake i did.. love with all your heart and mind, not your body

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    LondonGirlposted 12 years ago

    I don't agree. Love with your heart, mind and body. Lust and love aren't alternatives, necessarily. I want both!

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    Dynickyposted 12 years ago

    In everything you do you need a little balance and I believe you will be fine!
    
    Too much of anything, even the healthy stuff can be bad if you overdose!
    
    Love is good.  Lust is good.  Neither is good in a relationship if that's all you have.
    
    I vote for both!  The two of them together makes for a great relationship..

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       habeeposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       Ditto! What's wrong with lusting for someone you love?

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    arbposted 12 years ago

    Which of two shall rule and which of two shall serve?
    One will take to school, the one with lesser nerve. It isn't either/or - but who will be the teacher.

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    Ashantinaposted 12 years ago

    "How love is related to lust?"
    - Love, real loves' foundation is compatibility.. of mind, body and spirit. Compatibility = attraction, so therefore physical attraction is lust.
    
    "Can lust destroy true love?"
    - Not sure which context you mean here.. Lusting for a 3rd party?  having differing sex drives..??
    
    "Where should one draw the line between love and lust in life partners?"
    Again not sure what you mean here.
    However, if you're lucky enough to meet someone who you are compatible with.. there is no line to draw.

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    Lovesloveposted 12 years ago

    The first time after a long time apart is usually LUST ..(for me anyway)......then its sweet lovemaking after that !!!

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       luke855posted 12 years agoin reply to this

       yeah,i agree, this human natrare.

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          luke855posted 12 years agoin reply to this

          and i need both,

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    mike71090posted 12 years ago

    Love comes after lust..

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    bboshposted 12 years ago

    I've written an article about this on my page- I believe that love and lust are related and come together, somewhat like a packaged deal. Isn't lust really just passion? Passion is never frowned upon in a relationship but when you give it a new word everyone suddenly finds it to be something different.

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       couturepopcafeposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       I believe love is indestructible.  If it was in fact love at all.  Many people have not made the decision to love so they are swayed by distractions such as infidelity.  This does not mean one should necessarily stay in a relationship that is not companionable but the fact remains we can still love the other regardless of their shortcomings.  Some only make it through minor shortcomings and fail on the bigger issues.  They have not loved in the true sense of the word.
       
       Lust is physical, transitory and ephemeral.  Love is timeless and exists without change forever.

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    habeeposted 12 years ago

    Lust is a hot fire that burns out quickly.
    
    Love is a slow burning fire that lasts a lot longer.

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