Pre-Marital Sex is Socially Unacceptable !

1. 38

   alisha4uposted 13 years ago

   
   Do you feel the same ? How true is that ??
   
   Chime In Please......

   replyreport
   1. 60

      John Holdenposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      To who?

      replyreport
      1. 38

         alisha4uposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         ???

         replyreport
         1. 60

            John Holdenposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            Well, Pre-Marital sex is socially unacceptable to who?

            replyreport
            1. 38

               alisha4uposted 13 years agoin reply to this

               Society !
               It's kinda obvious in the question though....

               replyreport
               1. 60

                  John Holdenposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                  Well, I'm society and it isn't unacceptable to me!

                  replyreport
                  1. 38

                     alisha4uposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                     Great !!
                     You are a part of society..not society !! People have their own views and I do appreciate you putting in your thoughts....

                     replyreport
                     1. 60

                        John Holdenposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                        But everybody is a part of society, both believers and none believers therefore you can not say that pre marital sex is socially unacceptable, by the same token I can not say that it is socially acceptable either.

                        replyreport
                        1. 38

                           alisha4uposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                           Agreed !!
                           According to a survey, majority of the people all over the world do not support sex before marriage....
                           That's where the Title came from..... :0

                           replyreport
                           1. 60

                              John Holdenposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                              I'd be interested to know who commissioned the survey.
                              Must have been somebody pretty big to survey the whole world!

                              replyreport
                              1. 38

                                 alisha4uposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                                 Google is the answer for you buddy.

                                 replyreport
                              2. 38

                                 alisha4uposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                                 Google is the answer for you buddy.

                                 replyreport
                                 1. 60

                                    John Holdenposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                                    OK, make me work, I thought that you might have the answer at your finger tips having posted the result so recently!

                                    replyreport
                                 2. 60

                                    John Holdenposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                                    Hm, I did google it and got page after page of results saying that it was now socially acceptable in most cultures.
                                    The only dissent on the first page at least was actually this forum topic!

                                    replyreport
                                    1. 38

                                       alisha4uposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                                       Congrats !!

                                       report
                           2. 61

                              nightwork4posted 13 years agoin reply to this

                              the survey is false. what i mean is people are accustomed to saying what they think they should, not how they honestly feel. i've seen surveys that say the majority of people support all kinds of things like prison time for marijuana possession and it's a lie. these surveys are done by folks who look for the answers they want to here.

                              replyreport
                     2. 60

                        vector7posted 13 years agoin reply to this

                        lol..

                        replyreport
               2. 76

                  Uninvited Writerposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                  Not now, maybe in the 50s

                  replyreport
   2. 84

      kerrygposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Some people have religious convictions that discourage it, others don't. Personally, I wouldn't want to buy a car before taking it for a test drive first, if you know what I mean, but I don't understand people who hop into bed on the first date, either. Better to wait until you're with someone you truly love and respect, and who feels the same about you.

      replyreport
      1. 38

         alisha4uposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         I am with you on this Kerryg !!

         replyreport
   3. 0

      Deborah Sextonposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      **********
      
      It's too acceptable and shouldn't happen at all.

      replyreport
   4. 76

      TIMETRAVELER2posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I can't respond to the basic question asked here, but I do know that if more people abstained from having premarital sex there would be fewer abortions, fewer unwed mothers and more federal funds for important programs such as health care.

      replyreport
   5. 61

      nightwork4posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      it is? i don't think so in the least. to me it's a good thing and people should enjoy it.

      replyreport
2. 66

   Greek Oneposted 13 years ago

   on most days, I don't look too favorably upon post-marital sex either

   replyreport
   1. 76

      livelongerposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      

      replyreport
      1. 60

         Druid Dudeposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Being judgemental is divinely unacceptable.

         replyreport
         1. 60

            Druid Dudeposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            kick the tires....take 'er out for a test drive!

            replyreport
         2. 76

            livelongerposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            Huh?

            replyreport
            1. 38

               alisha4uposted 13 years agoin reply to this

               ???

               replyreport
      2. 38

         alisha4uposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Greek one - Gotcha !!

         replyreport
   2. 38

      alisha4uposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Hehehe...So, why don't you put in some thoughts to the discussion Druid...??

      replyreport
      1. 60

         Druid Dudeposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         I indulged when I was young...with my present wife....we've been married since stonehenge was built. So, I'm not really a good one to ask, except for that. I believe that true marriage is between the individuals concerned and that entity we call God, and that the concept which we, in this world call marriage has been made into an institution of man.

         replyreport
3. 60

   vector7posted 13 years ago

   I used to think it was fine, but now that I've been down a long road with betrayal left in hand I believe in post marital only.
   
   No kicking tires or test drives for me anymore, lol..

   replyreport
   1. 38

      alisha4uposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      

      replyreport
   2. 60

      John Holdenposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Oh! I never knew that married people don't cheat.

      replyreport
      1. 60

         vector7posted 13 years agoin reply to this

         ?
         
         Married? I said that?
         
         Wow buddy, you jumped right off the cliff without a chute. lol
         
         It was eight years, and yes I know what you meant.
         
         But my point was that if I hadn't had engaged with her, I never got married and I wouldn't have been a 'used vehicle'.. [goodness that sounds bad, lol]
         
         Or at least not THAT used.. [maybe I should delete this post ]
         
         I never said she wouldn't cheat. I had notions she would, which was the reason for not marrying and for doing what I did, to try to keep her. 'But she was a hoe', in some of my friend's words..
         
         Had I just waited to find someone that truly loved me, genuine and truthful, I would have saved myself a lot of pain and crap.
         
         Not too bad though, popping your foot in the open door like that..
         
         

         replyreport
4. 71

   BLACKANDGOLDJACKposted 13 years ago

   This reminds me of a true story. My buddy Ed was youth pastor at a church. He has sex with a certain young lady who is also a member of the congregation. One time, so he says. It just sorta happened, and they both felt guilty.
   
   So Ed goes and tells the pastor. The pastor dismisses Ed as youth pastor. And Ed is ticked off that he is no longer youth pastor.
   
   So what is the moral of the story?

   replyreport
   1. 60

      Disturbiaposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Being a youth pastor comes with certain responsibilities and obligations, the moral is Ed should have known better and sex doesn't "just happen". And the fact that he got "ticked off" at the consequences for his actions, only speaks to his character, or lack thereof.

      replyreport
      1. 71

         BLACKANDGOLDJACKposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         That is exactly what I wanted to tell Ed, but I was afraid to.
         
         Before he became a youth pastor, he married a  stripper in Vegas. She used to take off on him for days at a time on a coke binge.
         
         He should have know better about that too, especially the sex just doesn't happen with a stripper part.
         
         But he made a CD with him singing gospel songs, so that makes it all good. One day he'll be up there in heaven singing to everybody who ever had premarital sex. What's the name of that song?

         replyreport
         1. 60

            Disturbiaposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            Ed doesn't have ADHD does he?  I'm not joking because I'm very familiar with that kind of impulsive behavior.

            replyreport
            1. 71

               BLACKANDGOLDJACKposted 13 years agoin reply to this

               Well, Dr. Disturbia, he did go from being a stuntman in Hollywood to now driving a school bus in western Pennsylvania, with about a million jobs in between, including being the maid for the stripper in Vegas. The only positive thing that girl ever said about him was that he was really good at cleaning the house (obsessive-compulsive behavior).
               
               He definitely blurts out inappropriate comments in public and talks nonstop, telling me the same thing over and over and asking me the same questions over and over.
               
               I don't know what this all has to do with premarital sex, other than he has told me a hundred times, at least, about his date with Sharon Stone.

               replyreport
5. 76

   perryaposted 13 years ago

   I think it depends on the age and culture they are from. It depends on what your definition is of sex. Generally, having sex before age 16-17, not condoned, but hormones are hormones and if it is going to happen, it will occur regardless of what parents want. Better be safe. Is sex forbidden before marriage, well, I think for most in the Western  cultures, that disappeared in the 60's. I do not see why not.

   replyreport
   1. 81

      mega1posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      yes! this is all true.  This question about premarital sex is deceptively simple and usually leads into one of those paternalistic "there should be a law" kind of discussions - where some people who reply want to inflict their own religious and otherwise beliefs on everyone else, "for our own good".   It isn't a simple issue - people who have premarital sex should not be labelled bad or good or anything else.  Premarital sex just is.  Whoever thinks they have the right to tell people what they should do in this and so many other regards is way out of line.  Of course, I personally believe that young people should not have sex until they are quite ready and reasonable and have good judgment about it, and that isn't going to be the same for everyone.  This thing called "marriage" doesn't automatically make people better than others.  I don't really believe in marriage any more - really!  so pre-marital sex for me is a moot question. 
      
      It has more to do with who, and how, and when people have sex, but ultimately it is their choice and I would not want anyone to take that away because some uptight majority says "no".

      replyreport
6. 0

   The Writers Dogposted 13 years ago

   I cannot legally marry. Therefore all that I can have is pre-marital sex.

   replyreport
   1. 60

      Disturbiaposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Why can't you "legally" marry?

      replyreport
      1. 60

         vector7posted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Well you see the picture..
         
         Don't rub it in.
         
         

         replyreport
         1. 0

            The Writers Dogposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            

            replyreport
7. 76

   perryaposted 13 years ago

   actually, the question poses a dilemma-that is, all have had sex after their 1st marriage, then after a divorce, but before the 2nd marriage makes the question moot.

   replyreport
8. 0

   The Writers Dogposted 13 years ago

   Disturbia wrote:
   Why can't you "legally" marry?
   
   Disturbia... My allegedly democratic first world country denies me the human right to marry because I am transsexual. But that is for another forum.

   replyreport
   1. 62

      paradigmsearchposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      As far as I know, come to America! Get married; then go back if so inclined. This is conditioned that Australian law recognizes marriages performed in other countries. I'm just thinking out loud here.
      
      edit: You'll also have to figure out which US state to go to.

      replyreport
      1. 0

         The Writers Dogposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         And which day to go!

         replyreport
         1. 76

            Uninvited Writerposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            Come to Canada, they let anyone get married here

            replyreport
            1. 38

               alisha4uposted 13 years agoin reply to this

               

               replyreport
9. 67

   Astra Nomikposted 13 years ago

   If both people are adults and in love and romantically involved, and responsible .. and sensible ... and loving... oh wait there are so few people I know who are like this....LOL.
   
   I am kidding. No one can control or be the boss of you if you don't want them to be. Apart from your actual job boss.

   replyreport
10. 72

    getitriteposted 13 years ago

    

    replyreport
    1. 76

       Uninvited Writerposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       

       replyreport
    2. 38

       alisha4uposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       

       replyreport
    3. 79

       aka-djposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       In which case it's fornication.

       replyreport
       1. 72

          getitriteposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          Yep.  And both are punishable by eternity in hell.  That's why I'm saving myself for marriage.  However, being a fifty year old virgin sucks, especially since I've never had pre-marital sex nor have I fornicated...and will probably need viagra for my first sexual experience...but after all my effort I may still go to hell for lusting in my heart.
          
          God help me! 

          replyreport
          1. 63

             prettydarkhorseposted 13 years agoin reply to this

             

             replyreport
          2. 70

             Pearldiverposted 13 years agoin reply to this

             Nothing worse than being lost and impatience when it comes to bonking - so it's good that your Dog can help you first time up!
             
             It's kinda important that you take your time and enjoy the surroundings though... but be sure not to enjoy the surroundings too much, or you're likely to gain a reputation for being 2 Minute Terrier!

             replyreport
             1. 72

                getitriteposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                How disturbing!!!  I'm gonna have to pray for you. 

                replyreport
          3. 61

             pisean282311posted 13 years agoin reply to this

             @getitrite any how most are destined to be in hell as per religion...if u dont accept christ u r going to hell according to christians and if u dont accept that muhammad is final messenger and allah is god , u r going to hell as per muslim....it is better to go to hell without being virgin bcoz in hell anyway one would get screwed

             replyreport
             1. 72

                getitriteposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                You mean all that sacrifice was for naught?!!  I'll make it a point the next time to study my religious beliefs more carefully.  It could have saved me alot of time and intense frustration.
                
                

                replyreport
          4. 38

             alisha4uposted 13 years agoin reply to this

             

             replyreport
11. 85

    gmwilliamsposted 13 years ago

    I see nothing unacceptable about consenting adults(keyword here is ADULTS) indulging in premarital sex.   How else are we going to learn about our sexuality and the sexual compatiblity of the persons we are with.   Many people married while they are virgins much to either one person's or both persons regret.  I believe in premarital sex and sexual experimentation because how would we learn about the other persons' sexual compatiblity otherwise.

    replyreport
12. 63

    prettydarkhorseposted 13 years ago

    Pre marital sex assumes you will marry that person. That phrase I think is more used in restrictive societies.
    
    In some societies, virginity is highly valued. Usually the youth without much knowledge in protecting themselves (sexual education), they are forced to marry once they get pregnant bec. of lack of it or once their parents know that they are having sex.
    
    For me, as long as they are doing it with their own volition and are aware of the consequences if they don't protect themselves (for pregnancy and STD) then it is ok.

    replyreport
13. 61

    pisean282311posted 13 years ago

    depends

    replyreport
14. 75

    Karandaposted 13 years ago

    I'm not sure what social circles you participate in but I don't know anyone younger than sixty who would feel that premarital sex is socially unacceptable. Besides, it is a personal choice between two consenting adults and should not need acceptance or approval from anyone else.

    replyreport
    1. 61

       pisean282311posted 13 years agoin reply to this

       

       replyreport
15. 61

    SoManyPathsposted 13 years ago

    my question as well. to who? it is more of an opinion or regional like a monk.

    replyreport