Do you feel the same ? How true is that ??
Chime In Please......
Well, Pre-Marital sex is socially unacceptable to who?
Society !
It's kinda obvious in the question though....
Well, I'm society and it isn't unacceptable to me!
Great !!
You are a part of society..not society !! People have their own views and I do appreciate you putting in your thoughts....
But everybody is a part of society, both believers and none believers therefore you can not say that pre marital sex is socially unacceptable, by the same token I can not say that it is socially acceptable either.
Agreed !!
According to a survey, majority of the people all over the world do not support sex before marriage....
That's where the Title came from..... :0
I'd be interested to know who commissioned the survey.
Must have been somebody pretty big to survey the whole world!
OK, make me work, I thought that you might have the answer at your finger tips having posted the result so recently!
Hm, I did google it and got page after page of results saying that it was now socially acceptable in most cultures.
The only dissent on the first page at least was actually this forum topic!
the survey is false. what i mean is people are accustomed to saying what they think they should, not how they honestly feel. i've seen surveys that say the majority of people support all kinds of things like prison time for marijuana possession and it's a lie. these surveys are done by folks who look for the answers they want to here.
Some people have religious convictions that discourage it, others don't. Personally, I wouldn't want to buy a car before taking it for a test drive first, if you know what I mean, but I don't understand people who hop into bed on the first date, either. Better to wait until you're with someone you truly love and respect, and who feels the same about you.
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It's too acceptable and shouldn't happen at all.
I can't respond to the basic question asked here, but I do know that if more people abstained from having premarital sex there would be fewer abortions, fewer unwed mothers and more federal funds for important programs such as health care.
it is? i don't think so in the least. to me it's a good thing and people should enjoy it.
on most days, I don't look too favorably upon post-marital sex either
Being judgemental is divinely unacceptable.
Hehehe...So, why don't you put in some thoughts to the discussion Druid...??
I indulged when I was young...with my present wife....we've been married since stonehenge was built. So, I'm not really a good one to ask, except for that. I believe that true marriage is between the individuals concerned and that entity we call God, and that the concept which we, in this world call marriage has been made into an institution of man.
I used to think it was fine, but now that I've been down a long road with betrayal left in hand I believe in post marital only.
No kicking tires or test drives for me anymore, lol..
Oh! I never knew that married people don't cheat.
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Married? I said that?
Wow buddy, you jumped right off the cliff without a chute. lol
It was eight years, and yes I know what you meant.
But my point was that if I hadn't had engaged with her, I never got married and I wouldn't have been a 'used vehicle'.. [goodness that sounds bad, lol]
Or at least not THAT used.. [maybe I should delete this post ]
I never said she wouldn't cheat. I had notions she would, which was the reason for not marrying and for doing what I did, to try to keep her. 'But she was a hoe', in some of my friend's words..
Had I just waited to find someone that truly loved me, genuine and truthful, I would have saved myself a lot of pain and crap.
Not too bad though, popping your foot in the open door like that..
This reminds me of a true story. My buddy Ed was youth pastor at a church. He has sex with a certain young lady who is also a member of the congregation. One time, so he says. It just sorta happened, and they both felt guilty.
So Ed goes and tells the pastor. The pastor dismisses Ed as youth pastor. And Ed is ticked off that he is no longer youth pastor.
So what is the moral of the story?
Being a youth pastor comes with certain responsibilities and obligations, the moral is Ed should have known better and sex doesn't "just happen". And the fact that he got "ticked off" at the consequences for his actions, only speaks to his character, or lack thereof.
That is exactly what I wanted to tell Ed, but I was afraid to.
Before he became a youth pastor, he married a stripper in Vegas. She used to take off on him for days at a time on a coke binge.
He should have know better about that too, especially the sex just doesn't happen with a stripper part.
But he made a CD with him singing gospel songs, so that makes it all good. One day he'll be up there in heaven singing to everybody who ever had premarital sex. What's the name of that song?
Ed doesn't have ADHD does he? I'm not joking because I'm very familiar with that kind of impulsive behavior.
Well, Dr. Disturbia, he did go from being a stuntman in Hollywood to now driving a school bus in western Pennsylvania, with about a million jobs in between, including being the maid for the stripper in Vegas. The only positive thing that girl ever said about him was that he was really good at cleaning the house (obsessive-compulsive behavior).
He definitely blurts out inappropriate comments in public and talks nonstop, telling me the same thing over and over and asking me the same questions over and over.
I don't know what this all has to do with premarital sex, other than he has told me a hundred times, at least, about his date with Sharon Stone.
I think it depends on the age and culture they are from. It depends on what your definition is of sex. Generally, having sex before age 16-17, not condoned, but hormones are hormones and if it is going to happen, it will occur regardless of what parents want. Better be safe. Is sex forbidden before marriage, well, I think for most in the Western cultures, that disappeared in the 60's. I do not see why not.
yes! this is all true. This question about premarital sex is deceptively simple and usually leads into one of those paternalistic "there should be a law" kind of discussions - where some people who reply want to inflict their own religious and otherwise beliefs on everyone else, "for our own good". It isn't a simple issue - people who have premarital sex should not be labelled bad or good or anything else. Premarital sex just is. Whoever thinks they have the right to tell people what they should do in this and so many other regards is way out of line. Of course, I personally believe that young people should not have sex until they are quite ready and reasonable and have good judgment about it, and that isn't going to be the same for everyone. This thing called "marriage" doesn't automatically make people better than others. I don't really believe in marriage any more - really! so pre-marital sex for me is a moot question.
It has more to do with who, and how, and when people have sex, but ultimately it is their choice and I would not want anyone to take that away because some uptight majority says "no".
I cannot legally marry. Therefore all that I can have is pre-marital sex.
actually, the question poses a dilemma-that is, all have had sex after their 1st marriage, then after a divorce, but before the 2nd marriage makes the question moot.
Disturbia wrote:
Why can't you "legally" marry?
Disturbia... My allegedly democratic first world country denies me the human right to marry because I am transsexual. But that is for another forum.
As far as I know, come to America! Get married; then go back if so inclined. This is conditioned that Australian law recognizes marriages performed in other countries. I'm just thinking out loud here.
edit: You'll also have to figure out which US state to go to.
If both people are adults and in love and romantically involved, and responsible .. and sensible ... and loving... oh wait there are so few people I know who are like this....LOL.
I am kidding. No one can control or be the boss of you if you don't want them to be. Apart from your actual job boss.
Yep. And both are punishable by eternity in hell. That's why I'm saving myself for marriage. However, being a fifty year old virgin sucks, especially since I've never had pre-marital sex nor have I fornicated...and will probably need viagra for my first sexual experience...but after all my effort I may still go to hell for lusting in my heart.
God help me!
Nothing worse than being lost and impatience when it comes to bonking - so it's good that your Dog can help you first time up!
It's kinda important that you take your time and enjoy the surroundings though... but be sure not to enjoy the surroundings too much, or you're likely to gain a reputation for being 2 Minute Terrier!
@getitrite any how most are destined to be in hell as per religion...if u dont accept christ u r going to hell according to christians and if u dont accept that muhammad is final messenger and allah is god , u r going to hell as per muslim....it is better to go to hell without being virgin bcoz in hell anyway one would get screwed
I see nothing unacceptable about consenting adults(keyword here is ADULTS) indulging in premarital sex. How else are we going to learn about our sexuality and the sexual compatiblity of the persons we are with. Many people married while they are virgins much to either one person's or both persons regret. I believe in premarital sex and sexual experimentation because how would we learn about the other persons' sexual compatiblity otherwise.
Pre marital sex assumes you will marry that person. That phrase I think is more used in restrictive societies.
In some societies, virginity is highly valued. Usually the youth without much knowledge in protecting themselves (sexual education), they are forced to marry once they get pregnant bec. of lack of it or once their parents know that they are having sex.
For me, as long as they are doing it with their own volition and are aware of the consequences if they don't protect themselves (for pregnancy and STD) then it is ok.
I'm not sure what social circles you participate in but I don't know anyone younger than sixty who would feel that premarital sex is socially unacceptable. Besides, it is a personal choice between two consenting adults and should not need acceptance or approval from anyone else.
my question as well. to who? it is more of an opinion or regional like a monk.
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