What is the number one thing that stops people from pursuing their dreams?

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   Seek-n-Findposted 12 years ago

   What is the number one thing that stops people from pursuing their dreams?
   
   So  many people have vision of what life could be.  They have a sense of purpose and passion but then...it never comes to fruition.  Why? What blocks people from living their life's dream?
   
   

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   coleikerdposted 12 years ago

   I've heard time and time again from people who have achieved their dreams. They all say that their own mindset, their own false ideas, were their biggest enemy. They had to challenge their beliefs, and change the way they think about what is possible before being successful. This is true for the people who's dream was vast wealth, and for people who wanted love.
   
   Break your own negative patterns of behavior and do the things that will bring you what you want.

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   artist101posted 12 years ago

   I can't speak for others, but it seems to be one of many things. It's either not enough time, too many other responsibilities, opportunity, and the number one thing? Money. Either you don't have it to begin with, or your venture doesn't create enough of it to support "the dream". Great picture by the way.

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      Billie Kelpinposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I just saw a marvelous video on aol that illustrates your idea beautifully.  A young boy with Down's Syndrome runs "Tim's Place," a restuarant his parents were able to help him set up, I assume.  Can't we all on hubpages support each other somehow?

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   Sri Tposted 12 years ago

   Not getting all the facts and details required to succeed. When this happens, there will be lots of mistakes. Also fear stops a lot of people. They don't know who to trust. They also may not have the necessary drive to keep going forward no matter how many mistakes they make. And they may not be able to handle all the uncooperative people that they are bound to run into. The good news is, there are ways to overcome every barrier, whether internal or external.

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   Proud Footposted 12 years ago

   A lot of the time people spread themselves too thin in terms of how they set about trying to achieve their dreams. It's all about patience and acceptance, taking one thing after another and when it doesn't go quite right working from that anyway.
   Unfortunately people are often told by their peers that they have no hopes of finding what they wish for but it's a combination of this and the wrong mindset.
   You've just got to believe it will happen and accept it might take longer than anticipated.

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   Lisa HWposted 12 years ago

   I'd guess it could be that the importance of some of the dreams people tend to have when they're kids, or at least just starting out in life, can start to diminish as people encounter things, other people, new dreams based on their new level of maturity move in and kind of make those old dreams seem less important (maybe even not all that important or appealing at all).
   
   People grow, find those things in their life that are far more important to them than achieving their own "life's dream" , and either build new, updated (sometimes even more important, although different) dreams or else just abandon the idea of "a dream" altogether.  What started out as dreams can turn into a case of "Well, that might be nice if I can do it," or "..would have been nice if I could have done it, but isn't something that's all that important to me now anyway, because I have so many people and things in my life that I care about so much more than I ever did that dream I once thought was so important."
   
   More youthful life dreams aside, I'd guess that a sense of responsibility might stop a lot of dream-pursuing.  I really tend to think, though, that people just change as they grow and their life changes.  Circumstances, illness, etc. stops some people.  I don't know if that would Number 1 or not.  Not being willing to make some sacrifices that would be required could be a big one.  That goes back to people's thinking that some dreams aren't worth the sacrifices of other more important things.  Sometimes I think that the less well rounded and whole someone's life is, the more likely it is he'll a) have little to sacrifice if he pursues a dream, and b) see his dream as more important than someone else would see a dream.

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   Relationshipcposted 12 years ago

   Fear. They can't push past their fears and go for it. Fear of stepping out of their comfort zone, failing, looking like an idiot, and losing everything. Fear.

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   dashingscorpioposted 12 years ago

   1. Lack of faith that they can achieve their dream.
   2. Lack of knowledge of how to pursue their dream.
   3. Lack of ambition or unwilling to sacrifice to realize their dream.

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   abbykorinneleeposted 12 years ago

   I believe starting having kids and getting married to young puts them off and along the way they lose hope and determination at achieving them and never try

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    howtobeasuccessposted 12 years ago

    It would be FEAR. It limits the things that you can do in order to achieve your dream. It stops you from doing something that you certainly can when you just put your focus and attention to it. Fear is the one that will made you idle in a certain state that you are comfortable enough, but definitely far away from the dream that you are aiming.

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    lburmasterposted 12 years ago

    Lack of time. Everything is busy, busy, busy. There is rarely time to get anything done anymore. If you are not doing one thing, you're doing another.

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    Raitu Disongposted 12 years ago

    I think thats because they are afraid, they might fail..

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    thegeckoposted 12 years ago

    Some people realize that what they once dreamed of doing or living, isn't actually something they wanted

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    Dorothee-Gyposted 12 years ago

    1. FEAR
    2. Limiting Beliefs
    3. Low self-esteem

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    connorjposted 12 years ago

    
    
    Quite simply it comes down to attachments. Now attachments can manifest themselves in a myriad of forms and combinations. They could include: my favorite, the attachment to never making a mistake or taking risk if you will, family, security, status quo, temporary discomfort, comfort, financing, time, health, stability, and the most significant issue of all; uncertainty. I believe uncertainty (it could also be considered faith or confidence) is the real culprit...

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    Billie Kelpinposted 12 years ago

    Seek-n-Find, I CAN'T believe this.  First you have part of my favorite quote of all time as part of your name and secondly, I was JUST composing a question almost identical to this one to post.  Are we on some psychic connection here?  I DO have to read your hubs. (Time is my errant child right now.)  My question was going to be "What is holding you back from realizing your highest potential? (or something like that).  Fear and laziness is holding me back.  I had an opportunity for a teaching job 5 years ago at a school for the deaf (I was proud that not a word was spoken during my whole interview.  The principal and all the teachers were deaf.)  I CANNOT get myself back into the classroom even though doing so would get us out of deep financial trouble.  I had an experience before we left MN where I was subbing for deaf 8th graders who ADORED their young teacher who was on maternity leave. They wouldn't even look at me, and when deaf kids don't look at you, you can't do a thing.  I was so incrediably traumatized at how ineffective I was during that time, and in fact, all my time teaching, that I simply can't bring myself to go back.  (I know, I'm a psychological wreck.)  I thought my online learning games would be a great business and my writing, but I really need to get a real live physical job.  At 68, after over 30 years of work, I'm spent, kinda lazy and stubborn to do what I have to do to help out our family, probably resentful that I have to, and disappointed that I can't make it any other way than doing what I don't want to do.  My next question will on hubpages will be "How do you discipline yourself to do what you know will help you out of your stinkin' mess?"

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