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Do you remember that thing you were so upset about last year?

  1. pstraubie48 profile image88
    pstraubie48posted 5 years ago

    Do you remember that thing you were so upset about last year?

    Was it really a 'biggie'? Do you still consider it important?


  2. bac2basics profile image91
    bac2basicsposted 5 years ago

    Yes it was a biggie. It also took a huge amount of sorting out, and even when it was, it´s still an ongoing concern and has made me re-think and plan changes for the future. It most certainly was not a case of " sweating the small stuff"

  3. MellyMoo profile image61
    MellyMooposted 5 years ago

    No because i have learnt that thete's no point remembering back only to make ourselves feel yuck. In order to move forward&feel good, we have to let go

  4. Renee Abbott profile image85
    Renee Abbottposted 5 years ago

    Yes, it was a biggie. The level of importance will always remain, for I was able to deal with these events in a constructive and positive way. When you are fighting for your life, and you make it; the impact is significant. What you have learned you can take with you.

  5. IreneLawrence profile image61
    IreneLawrenceposted 5 years ago

    I think people generally remember feelings with much more clarity than either specific events or small details. That's just how we're built. Even if we know logically that that thing we were upset about at this time last year (or sometime in the past) isn't so important, the memories of our feelings of hurt, anger, etc. are generally still poignant.

  6. phillippeengel profile image79
    phillippeengelposted 5 years ago

    Yes, I can still remember. That problem still bother me, ingrained in my head. Perhaps it might not be solved. The problem is the high cost of living.

    1. kathyjones1952@at profile image60
      kathyjones1952@atposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I stay upset about this, myself, because I'm living on SSI and I'm trying to find something to supplement my SSI check.

  7. kathyjones1952@at profile image60
    kathyjones1952@atposted 5 years ago

    I remember being sick about this time last year!  I hope that counts.  I had mono and I was 59 years old!  I'm aware that not only teenagers get mono but it was rough!  I also had a UTI at the same time!

    1. kathyjones1952@at profile image60
      kathyjones1952@atposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      It seemed like it took me forever to get well!!!!

  8. Civil War Bob profile image60
    Civil War Bobposted 5 years ago

    Nope...along with 95% of my entire 60 years so that I can focus on the 5% that's worth remembering....which, if I do the math, comes to about 3 years' worth! wink

  9. edhan profile image60
    edhanposted 5 years ago

    One thing I've learnt in life is not to dwell the past.

    I do not want myself to be tied with anger of unhappiness.

    My motto is: There is no reason to be upset or angry over things as it will not do you any good but harm in your health. So why worry over things or get upset in life?

    I constantly remind myself to question: If I am unhappy over that thing, what benefit do I get? So, I normally move on with my life and letting things go as I do believe I am happier in life doing that.

    1. dlegendre profile image61
      dlegendreposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Yes,edhan,There is a strong mind-body connection.There are many sayings to go along with this."Stress kills"and it does,"Live in the present"."Life is too short"(you never know)."Stop and smell the roses".Remember,vices also stem from this"sweating".

  10. HLKeeley profile image80
    HLKeeleyposted 5 years ago

    What the thing? I honestly do not remember what my problems were last year. The only thing I remember fretting about was grades and the boy I liked. Grades important, but they are final and done with. Thank God!

  11. T. R. Brown profile image79
    T. R. Brownposted 5 years ago

    Not really,

    As long as you and those close to you are healthy, not much else really matters.

    1. dlegendre profile image61
      dlegendreposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Yes!  If we don't have our health, then we have nothing. No amount of riches, possessions or fame can take its place.

  12. dipsmi profile image74
    dipsmiposted 5 years ago

    Yes! I had a miscarriage last year. I was shocked when my doc broke the news to me. I could not understand what went wrong!

  13. Chen Suen profile image72
    Chen Suenposted 5 years ago

    I do and it was a "biggie".  It is still important, but I've taken a completely different perspective on the subject.  When you let things affect you so much that it alters the way you live your life negatively, then you need to cut it out.  Fighting and responding in a negative way only worsens the situation.  Although it's much harder, everyone ultimately benefits when you take the higher road.

  14. LongTimeMother profile image97
    LongTimeMotherposted 5 years ago

    It would only be worth remembering if it was still upsetting me this year.

  15. self absorbed profile image59
    self absorbedposted 5 years ago

    I sure do, just like the year before, and the year before, and the year before, and the... oh you get the picture.  I have mastered the fine art of grudge holding;)

    1. dlegendre profile image61
      dlegendreposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      How familiar. I have a sister who does just that.I am the opposite of her in almost every way.

  16. Sparkle Chi profile image75
    Sparkle Chiposted 5 years ago

    You asked this on a bad year. Yes, I most definitely remember what was upsetting me last year.

    1. After suffering with health issues for a couple of years, my grandmother died in March. She was my best friend.

    2. My father was diagnosed with cancer. After not speaking to me for over five years, he called me with that news, and an apology. He asked to be part of my life and my children's lives. He planned out his recovery and we planned to go see him this summer. He died two months later, at the beginning of December.

    These events led to a great amount of soul searching, and reassessing my life. I am still working through it.

    Usually my answer would be, "not really. I like to let go of upsetting things, resolving them quickly."

    1. kathyjones1952@at profile image60
      kathyjones1952@atposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I'm so sorry to hear about the deaths of your grandmother and father!  It sounds like you really did have a rought year!  My brother, who was the oldest in my family and 18 years older than I was, also passed away in March of last year!

  17. dlegendre profile image61
    dlegendreposted 5 years ago

    Well, the things I was upset about a year ago has been the same stuff, plus more,for years and they are not small and they can't be ignored. So, I processed. For many years. Since this was huge in my life I did not fret with the little things that go wrong. I had no room for them.  Today, I stick to that saying with the negative things in life.  The positive small stuff I now enjoy and savor for I might not be here another day...another hour.... So to me, it only applies to negative pesky things like spilled milk, flat tire, forgot my credit card and have no cash.  Because there are much bigger stuff out there and God forbid I have to sweat one of those! (like cancer, blindness, deafness, head injury, amputation, diabetes, heart attack).