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Are you really happy or make people think you are?

  1. Atiquemr9 profile image41
    Atiquemr9posted 5 years ago

    Are you really happy or make people think you are?

  2. grinnin1 profile image82
    grinnin1posted 5 years ago

    I was thinking about this the other day, I think a lot of the mistakes I made in my 20's were due to the fact that I didn't know what made me happy, I wasn't in tune with myself, but instead of sharing that with others, talking things over, and questioning my decisions, I wore a smile as a sort of mask - to convince myself and others that I was happy. Good questions-

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    Garifaliaposted 5 years ago

    To ask a question like this, one has to be very philosophycal. Well, when I face this question I can never be sure. Why? Because every time that I look that question square in the face there's always something going on in my life that keeps me back from appreciating my life to the fullest.

    But one thing is for sure, I never make people think I'm happy. Now that I stare that question in the face (once more) I must honestly say that I am happy for all the good (like having the opportunity to write here) and invaluable things in my life (like my family). Thank you for asking and making us take a good look at all that we should be happy & grateful for.

    How about you?

  4. Maria Cecilia profile image75
    Maria Ceciliaposted 5 years ago

    I am happy, to pretend I am happy is something I cannot do because  I don't think I am good in pretending.  It's not important for other people to know that you are happy, the important thing is you are really happy even if some people around you assumed that you are not.   You know happiness is something unique to every individual. for example, some married people think a single person is missing something in his life and that he is very lonely.... do you agree? A single person does not need to be sad but peer pressures and reaction of people around her is what really making her sad...

  5. SidKemp profile image94
    SidKempposted 5 years ago

    For me, there are two types of happiness.

    Unconditional happiness comes with having a connection to Spirit or God or the Light or the Divine, however we define that. I am able to feel peace at all times, regardless of circumstances. Practicing gratitude connects me to that feeling that is always within me, and, I think, within all of us. Sometimes, it's buried pretty deep.

    Conditional happiness is natural and arises when we are happy about something. But, as everything changes, it cannot last. A colleague does a good piece of work, and I am happy. He makes a mistake, and my natural reaction is anger. At those moments, I do what I can to let go of the anger (or guilt or sadness), and return to the inner peace of unconditional happiness.

    I've never tried to make people think I was happy when I wasn't. I guess I'm really hung up on being authentic!

  6. John Sarkis profile image83
    John Sarkisposted 5 years ago

    This question poses two sides: to whom are you referring to?  If you love your family and friends, then you should always try your very best to accommodate and make them happy and be happy yourself in the process.  If you're at work, then it's probably best to at least show some contentment, even amongst those whom you might towards feel otherwise, because, it's hard to find work nowadays.  Additionally, I've seeing people hired others who were underqualified over qualified individuals simply because of their perky and positive attitude....

  7. vtwilli profile image75
    vtwilliposted 5 years ago

    That is a hard question to answer. I think that people believe that happiness is constant state and it is not. There are so many things that effect happiness, old memories, current crisis, relationships, disappointments, the list goes on and on. I think the correct question is "whether or not a person is happy at the present time". I can be happy right now and an hour from now I may fall into thought and not be


  8. Diana Lee profile image83
    Diana Leeposted 5 years ago

    I think it depends on what our meaning of happy is. Doing something special and out of the ordinary especially with family and friends makes me happy. Memories of such things can be recalled to make happiness last longer, but contentment in every day life as we live it is what happy means to me. If I can get out of bed and put one foot in front of the other without pain and be able to maintain a full time job and keep up with household duties at home I should be content. This should make me happy. It often does, but mostly it makes me thankful. Perhaps happy really is being thankful. I do let people know I'm thankful and I mean every word. I don't always let people see my sad or unhappy side. So, yes, I tend to make people think I'm happy when I have something else going on in my mind.

  9. moiponetsoka profile image70
    moiponetsokaposted 5 years ago

    I make people think I am happy. I don't people to pity me because of my struggle with depression.

    1. grinnin1 profile image82
      grinnin1posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I know exactly what you mean, but you need at least a couple of people that "get" you and know who you are inside. Depressed people tend to try to do it on their own and it doesn't work. Believe me! Be honest and people may surprise you-

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      Garifaliaposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I too know what you mean. I have a friend (27) that has been struggling with depression the past 3 years. And her fear of being discovered and thought ill of caused even more anxiety. Those who matter will understand. Be patient and it'll be OK.

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    Larry Wallposted 5 years ago

    I am happy about the things that are good in my life, my wife, my son, my dogs, my home, my faith. I am disappointed that I am unemployed, have some minor health issues and do not decent health insurance. The things that I am happy about are the important things. The things that I am disappointed about are things that are really of no one else's concerns and thing I have to work on to make better. That fact that I have the ability to make some improvements, also makes me happy. So despite some challenges in life, I am a happy person. I am not a person who bubbles over with enthusiasm, or assume that everything will work out for the best. I am a realist. I know there are problems in the world and my life that are not perfect. But I am happy for what I have.

  11. g-girl11 profile image80
    g-girl11posted 5 years ago

    I like this question because it made me realize that yes, I am happy.  However, there are times when maybe something is on my mind or upsetting me, but I can cover my feelings with a smile in order to go about my day. This question also made me think about how we never truly know what is in someone's heart--they may appear happy but not be.  Very interesting topic.

  12. EuroCafeAuLait profile image84
    EuroCafeAuLaitposted 5 years ago

    I sometimes get in over my head with work and obligations, but generally speaking, I am happy and satisfied with my life.  I consider it important to start the day with a smile because I want to encourage others to keep trying.  Whether they see me as happy or not, I don't know.  Of course I feel good when I see them return my smile or get some kind of energy from the determination to move forward, ever forward.

  13. sherrituck profile image87
    sherrituckposted 5 years ago

    This is a great question.  Even when I am not happy, I go the extra mile to make people think that I am happy.  Our society conditions us to act this way.  We are socialized to be polite and cheerful even with we are dying inside.  Only in certain situations are we allowed to remove the mask.

  14. dzephaniah profile image59
    dzephaniahposted 5 years ago

    True happiness doesn't depend on anything. I am happy all the time, because I have an authentic happiness. Only few people possess authentic happiness. Most of the people are happy sometimes, because of material items or certain happy moments. The rest of the time they are unhappy. They just learned how to pretend.

    True happiness and love are connected. If you are unhappy, you can't truly love, because you will have an artificial love, which is dependent upon the circumstances, or material things.
    Love, happiness and peace of mind, are all connected, and they are a result of a true faith. People, who have no true faith, can never have happiness. It all has to do with the upbringing.
    The only reason that the adult grew up unhappy, is because of the bad upbringing. If a child doesn't have a complete respect, love and faith in their parents, they can't have faith in God either. Once you lose faith, you lose happiness. No psychological mambo jumbo will ever change that.

  15. Neil Sperling profile image80
    Neil Sperlingposted 5 years ago

    Someone recently asked me what I would change if I had my life to live over again - I said "absolutely nothing. I made it to here and I am comfortable in my own skin. I learned long ago happiness is a choice - I choose to be happy. My life has been an adventure -- let the adventure continue."

    To give you a bit of a perspective - I am 56, starting over with NO assets.. I mean that - NO ASSETS. There are many other things (family and private) that could easily be seen as reason to not be happy.... but I totally MEAN what i said above.

    Let the adventure continue!  Life itself is beautiful..... and this unending moment we share "IS life!"  ...... carry on!!!

  16. breathe2travel profile image79
    breathe2travelposted 5 years ago

    Most days I am really happy.  But I don't like to advertise the down days -- I don't wish to receive pity nor do I desire to bring down others.  I try to find a silver lining in a situation and focus on that.  So, even if I'm in a fight with my husband, facebook will say, "So glad my hubby loves his family," bc I know he does.

  17. edhan profile image60
    edhanposted 5 years ago

    Yes. I am happy with my family. I am happy to have my wife who shares my joy. It depends on what you are looking for. I am a simple person. I am happy to help people around me. Seeing the joy in their expressions makes me happy.

    Happiness is what you seek to have. Being a simple person, I treasure what I have and the people around me. Helping people within my means makes me happy.

  18. bhargvi sharma profile image47
    bhargvi sharmaposted 5 years ago

    Nops not really i'm happy but i can pretend to be happy as i don't want people sympathizing me about my reason of being sad... So many times i pretend to be happy... smile

    1. Atiquemr9 profile image41
      Atiquemr9posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      There are moments coming across in your life in a way you can never explain yourself. sometimes you may fell sad or feel like nurturing it for reasons unknown to you as was experienced by Antonio in Shakespeare's Merchant of Venice.