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I'm a Hindu by birth but I follow Christianity...What should I do to save my hus

  1. Mathi Vathani profile image71
    Mathi Vathaniposted 4 years ago

    I'm a Hindu by birth but I follow Christianity...What should I do to save my husband?

    My husband is not a religious person. He is a Hindu too. Whenever we fight, the only topic he brings about is my faith in Jesus. He doesn't understand the importance of Bible.

  2. jjackson786 profile image96
    jjackson786posted 4 years ago

    A difference in religion represents a difference in thinking. You cannot force another person to think differently; you can only educate them, if they are open to the knowledge. I would never force any religion, be it Hinduism or Christianity, on a person that I love, because that would be dishonoring his right to choose his own path in life. Respect his individuality and his difference in opinion, and perhaps the two of you can find eventual common ground.

    1. Mathi Vathani profile image71
      Mathi Vathaniposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      He just doesn't respect my Faith. That is the only thing I'm worried about. Apart from that, we are a very happy couple.

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    JThomp42posted 4 years ago

    You cannot save him. only Jesus Christ. Just continue spreading the good news to him. One day the Holy spirit might touch his heart. God bless you!

    1. Mathi Vathani profile image71
      Mathi Vathaniposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I'll keep that in mind and serve my husband well. Thank u sir.

  4. stanwshura profile image74
    stanwshuraposted 4 years ago

    I'm afraid you cannot do anything.  Your husband is going to have to make up his own mind (if he has not done that quite firmly already). 

    I know that if I were in his shoes, I wouldn't want the pressure.  And I'd view the term "being saved" as somewhat of a put-down.

    If this is truly a divisive issue and a threat to your marriage, you need to talk about it - but as equals, perhaps with the assistance of a therapist or another neutral party you can both trust.

    1. Mathi Vathani profile image71
      Mathi Vathaniposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I don put him under pressure...I never bring up this topic...my hubby is more of a Hindu fanatic...I just want him to respect the principles I follow as equally as he respects his own..Thanks a lot for taking time and replying.

  5. PlanksandNails profile image85
    PlanksandNailsposted 4 years ago

    As a Christian you have the power of the witness of the Holy Spirit in you. That is the power that can transform someones life. Continue to abide in Jesus Christ and pray for the drawing of the Holy Spirit to soften your husband's heart. What validates the witness of the Holy Spirit in you is how you live your life as a shining light in this world, and in your home. You cannot save your husband, only Jesus can do that, but you can surely be a witness to him by who you are in Jesus Christ. Don't give up, there is still hope.

    1. Mathi Vathani profile image71
      Mathi Vathaniposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks a lot...I'll not lose hope.

  6. suzettenaples profile image92
    suzettenaplesposted 4 years ago

    There is only one God, so I think your husband will be saved.

    1. Mathi Vathani profile image71
      Mathi Vathaniposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I sincerely believe in the same. Thank u.

    2. BuffaloGal1960 profile image73
      BuffaloGal1960posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Respectfully, I don't think there is only one God.  God and Allah, for example are not the same.  Jesus said, "I am the way, the truth and the life"  Allah does not have the Son (Christ).  Budha is not God either, He has no Son called Jesus.

    3. suzettenaples profile image92
      suzettenaplesposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      We all pray to the same God, although each religion has its own specific beliefs.  We are not polytheistic.  Therefore, there is only one God-no one has to believe Jesus is the son of God, but there is only one God and therefore her husband is saved.

    4. C.V.Rajan profile image78
      C.V.Rajanposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I have read somewhere that buffaloes will have buffalo as God (with the proportionate understanding of God!)

    5. AMAZING THINKER profile image60
      AMAZING THINKERposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      @BuffaloGal do you mean that God created christian people, Allah created Muslim people, 33, 000, 00, 00 Hindu Gods created Hindu people? And like the people on Earth they are separated by Religion? There is one God, just with different names.

  7. pauley13 profile image70
    pauley13posted 4 years ago

    You're assuming that it is your husband that needs saving. Did you consider the possibility that it could be the other way around?

    If the faith you adhere to is TRULY fulfilling you - it will be attractive. If it doesn't - it will be repulsive. Most "religious" people are in fact not fulfilled. And for a good reason.

    Following a "religion" is NOT the same as being spiritual or even having a faith in a Great Divinity no one can understand anyway. Following a religion is an INSTITUTIONAL position, where you decide to cede some of your personal responsibilities to priests or other self-appointed "representatives of God" - all too fallible and human every single last one of them.

    You want a happy marriage?

    Learn to accept yourself for who you are and strive to become a better, deeper person - NOT a more "religious" one. And learn to accept your husband for who he is and love him without the "condition" that he be just like you.

    In short: do NOT try to change him against his will.

    1. C.V.Rajan profile image78
      C.V.Rajanposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Pauley 13,

      What a beautiful expression of wisdom! Well said!
      C.V.Rajan

  8. Ceegen profile image81
    Ceegenposted 4 years ago

    No one is born a Hindu, just as no one is born a Christian. You can't be born into a belief, because a belief system is something you learn about and come to accept or reject.

    "For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy." - 1st Corinthians chapter 7, verse 14.

    Just keep showing your husband how much you love him. There is nothing we can do to change a person's heart except pray and live by example. The example you set will eventually bring him to question his own thoughts and beliefs.

    I will pray for you and your husband, Mathi Vathani. Take care and God bless you!

  9. sunilkunnoth2012 profile image37
    sunilkunnoth2012posted 4 years ago

    The notable feature of Hinduism is its tolerance to all religion.  Why India became a nation of all religions such as Hinduism, Christianity, Muslim, Sikhism, Judaism, Buddhism and Jews? The Hindu kings in India welcomed all religion and gave a good treatment to all religious people.  The Hindus are not against any religion. In fact they cooperate with all faiths. That's why Hindus visit the religious places of other religions. Love and respect all religion, peace will come to you. You have to show a little more tolerance . You have to give him his own space. God bless both of you.

    1. Mathi Vathani profile image71
      Mathi Vathaniposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I Never pry into his space. It's just the other way around. He doesn't want me to follow Christianity. This is the only topic which he uses to target me in every argument.  That's the only thing bothering me Sir.

  10. C.V.Rajan profile image78
    C.V.Rajanposted 4 years ago

    Have YOU really grasped the importance of Bible yourself first? Did you ever try to understand Hinduism deeper before you switched over to Christianity? Are you very sure that if you remove the religious masks, you are still a better human being than your husband?  With or without his mask as a Hindu, is your husband has good values and has love on you? With or without your mask of a Christian, do you have good values and do you love your husband?

    1. Mathi Vathani profile image71
      Mathi Vathaniposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Yes sir we love each other a lot. The only thing that creates a rift in our relationship is this. This s the only topic on which v argue. I don want to force him into this. But my hubby on the other hand doesn't respect my faith.

  11. BuffaloGal1960 profile image73
    BuffaloGal1960posted 4 years ago

    Prayer and example, my Friend.  Prayer works.  Example works. The Bible says we can win unsaved spouses over by our example. It's unfortunate you are not yoked equally in the Spirit, but it's not too big for God.

    1. Mathi Vathani profile image71
      Mathi Vathaniposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Thank u friend...I'll keep praying.

  12. AMAZING THINKER profile image60
    AMAZING THINKERposted 4 years ago

    He is a skeptic!
    I was born a Hindu too, but I don't follow any religion now. I do believe in God but not religion and traditions. I think  they just separate us, like you and your husband. I have read the Bible, there are so many good things to learn and I follow them, but I don't have to be a christian to follow them. I've read the Bhagvat gita, Koran. There are some things I like from them, which I follow and some things which I don't like I leave out. Not following religions gives me freedom to learn so much more.
    Tell him what Jesus taught us, show him the good things the bible teaches us, and if he questions your faith, he doesn't deserve you, he doesn't have the right to tell you to give up your faith.
    Besides, I think Hinduism is more of superstitions then faith, don't you think?
    I believe in one God, like Saibaba said "Sabka Malik ek".
    Please don't give up you faith for him, I think you are great!
    Good luck!

    1. C.V.Rajan profile image78
      C.V.Rajanposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      If you study or follow  Hinduism superficially, you find it superstitious.

    2. AMAZING THINKER profile image60
      AMAZING THINKERposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Whatever!

    3. Mathi Vathani profile image71
      Mathi Vathaniposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks a lot for ur time sir. I'll not lose hope.

  13. petepr profile image60
    peteprposted 4 years ago

    He will respect your faith if you can show that you respect his.
    Everybody believes in something. You must find out what he believes in and show him you understand. Then he will respect you and leave you alone.
    There is a fine line between active and passive. An active religion has the duty to force beliefs down anothers throat. A passive religion keeps to itself unless being attacked. Decide which is best for you.

    1. Mathi Vathani profile image71
      Mathi Vathaniposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for taking time and giving me some piece of advice friend

  14. Jewels profile image85
    Jewelsposted 4 years ago

    Maybe if your husband felt you loved him as much as you love Jesus there would be no need to argue.  People don't need to be saved, they need to be loved.

 
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