Volunteer or go to work at a hospice or "retirement" home. You will be helping others to face the end that all of us must face. Death is just as much a part of living as being born is. It's not the horrible thing you have in your head. Face your fears and you will find that they are not as bad as your imagination.
Death is no big deal.
It's dying that scares the hell out of most people.
"Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference." - Reinhold Niebuhr
Once you understand death is inevitable and there is nothing you can do about it then all that is left to do is have the best life possible.
If you spend your life worrying about things you can't control then in some ways you're already dead because you're missing out on so much! The goal is to make the most of your time while you're here.
There are many psychological ways. Since I have studied psychology and psychiatry, I have some ideas.
Sri Chinmoy felt, however, that the best way of transforming ones nature, was to have the Light shine on it, or, put another way, the advent of the Higher forces descending into our inner vessels. For this, spiritual practice is necessary. Meditation, prayer, singing soulful songs, reading spiritual writings, service to others, exercise and diet ...
Guru once said that Meditation is the answer to ALL life's problems. But we cannot move faster than Grace. Let the twins of self-effort and Grace, continue to manifest in your life, and then there will be a gradual change. Also live in such a state that you feel ready. This is the humourus side:
Make the Will; clean the house; pay all those you owe; seek forgiveness of others (if necessary), forgive, Love and serve. Create a feeling of acceptance .. strive for a clean Heart or Conscience ...Surrender. I am still struggling to, my Sweet. Don't rush it.
You need to accept Jesus in to your heart as your Lord and Savior. Then you will be guaranteed eternal life with Him in heaven and death won't seem scary anymore.
Accept? Do you mean an unflinching Faith; an undying Love; a spirit of Oneness and service to Creation? Do you mean selflessness and effort to attract Grace without which little can be done?If so, then I'm with you. The Hearts purity is essential.
In the late 60s, I had an extreme fear of nuclear war (a good thing to fear), but I would have dreams of a mushroom cloud in the distance (probably a symbol for something else), but anyway.... I asked my husband one night after I was awakened by one of these dreams, why he never seemed to be worried about anything. His one answer helped me for the rest of my life: "I never worry about anything that is out of my control", he answered. That one quote has gotten me through more than 50 years and is still a great general concept that has been expressed in some of the answers here. I like it because it is succinct and for some reason gave me peace that no other quote has been able to give me.
The answer is...one does not. What one can do, however, is come to accept death as an integral part of life. The fear of death is the impetus behind all religion and so, too, the greatest works of art and poetry. It is the shadow, like aging, that begs for the meaning of life, but I wonder if in the end the death of form may be no less a journey than anything else.
We are a continuum of dying, of shedding one skin for another, one concept for another. The child we once were is dead, the adolescent, and on and on. Like the very consciousness that exists in and motivates our body and mind, we evolve, shift, change. If we fight that, we are dead while we live. Live life, because that is what is afforded you now. It is the ego inside the brain that fears its own death, the "you" beneath the veil may live for eternity, but even that remains a mystery. Many things exist and we forget this sometimes.
Another commenter wrote about the dynamic of meditation and self-effort. A very sound reflection.
Above all, flourish. You are a pilgrim among many. Relieve suffering around you when you can, and be gentle with yourself...even with your fears, be tender.
If your soul lives, this means that you are in Paradise! If your body lives it means that you are suffering on planet Earth. You can choose - or live in Paradise or suffer. No one is forcing you to suffer. No one will force you to live in Paradise.
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More than the other theistic beliefs?
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