what's the safest way to tell your wife she doesn't look good is something she t

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  1. nightwork4 profile image60
    nightwork4posted 13 years ago

    what's the safest way to tell your wife she doesn't look good is something she thinks she does?

    not that i'm afraid of my wife but... ok i am but i also would hate to insult her.

  2. eltondunn profile image60
    eltondunnposted 13 years ago

    say that it looks good but you like the other thing more, or try to come up with a way to make her look better in it. like, oh yeah that new dress is really cute, and i bet it would pair nice with that sweater (that totally hides the trouble area)...

  3. MickS profile image60
    MickSposted 13 years ago

    I just tell her; I find it much safer to tell her before she gets out into the world for other people to tell her.  However, one of my friends, when asked by his wife if a dress made her bum look big, suffered an incredible lapse of judgement, he said, 'no, it's your fat arse that makes your arse look big.'  He was making his own dinners, and sandwiches for work for several weeks, and I don't think his settee was very comfortable.

  4. Loving_Life profile image61
    Loving_Lifeposted 13 years ago

    Well first of all what is it that you're trying to tell her?

    Is it her hair?
    Her clothes?
    Her make-up?
    Something she does during sex?

    Give us more of an idea of what it is so that we can give you a better answer...lol...

  5. Joesy Shmoesy profile image59
    Joesy Shmoesyposted 13 years ago

    I think that it depends on what it is and where she wears it.  If she's walking around the house in a tank top that is way too tight, so what, let her feel good about herself in it.  If she is wearing a certain dress to work on a weekly basis and it really is unflattering, and you know that others would agree then yes, I would tell her.  I would want to know.  I guess the question you need to ask yourself is why are you telling her?  If it is to save her some embarrassment then great, if it's for a different reason then just make sure it is with good reason.

  6. profile image0
    Guantaposted 12 years ago

    With a metal shield to cover you, of course.  Although I appreciate being told by my husband that something does not look good on me, I never like to hear it.

  7. Lisa HW profile image61
    Lisa HWposted 12 years ago

    I think you ought to consider the possibility that she may, in fact, look as good as she thinks she does to people who aren't you.    Husbands have been known to think far less of their wives than "the rest of the world" does.  My friend (who died at 44) had a husband who thought she was just about the most unattractive person in the world.  So many other people thought she was one of the most beautiful people they knew.  Anyway, when she died and he was talking about the numbers of people who showed up, I said how well liked and admired she'd always been.  He was speechless, because he'd never seen it.  He's not the only husband in the world guilty of that kind of thing.  It's just that the question brought my friend to mind.

    However, I'm not suggesting you're one of "those" - only suggesting there's a chance you could be and don't realize it.  hmm    If you're not one of "those", why not just let whether your wife looks as good as she thinks she does be her problem  - not yours.  Because, when it comes down to it, I think you're right and sensitive not to want to insult her.

    Besides, sometimes if a person feels good wearing something (or doing whatever it is that s/he believes s/he looks good doing), that may really be the only thing that matters anyway.

  8. WittyWeddings profile image60
    WittyWeddingsposted 12 years ago

    Never just straight out say you don't like it. Say it politely by telling her that while that outfit is ok she looks great in something else. Then hopefully she'll want to wear that outfit.

  9. Mercia Collins profile image66
    Mercia Collinsposted 12 years ago

    from within an air raid shelter. Tell her that, whilst she looks very pretty in whatever it is, her blue dress, or whatever you prefer, makes her look drop dead gorgeous.

  10. onegoodwoman profile image67
    onegoodwomanposted 12 years ago

    Oh, the dances that we could do............

    sit down, shut up, and keep your mouth closed.

    Your " wife " is the LAST PERSON that you should insult, belittle or embarrass.  Even if you are " right" or  justified..............just do not insult her!  Do NOT, I am " the wife".............I have experience...............let  her girlfriends tell her.......save your mankind.

  11. delaneyworld profile image72
    delaneyworldposted 12 years ago

    In this case, what is the purpose of telling her?  What is most important is how she feels.  If she feels good and feels she looks good, that is the goal.  I have always wanted my loved ones to feel happy and good about themselves.  That includes wearing things that are NOT to my taste.  What anyone's lady or man need is to be supported and loved unconditionally.  The only thing accomplished by telling her you don't think she looks as good as she thinks she does is to hurt her.  Don't do it.  Grab her hand, go out and have a great time!  smile


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